I FUCKING GIVE UP! Haven't gotten laid in 3 weeks!

[Sexual Mustard]

Why is my girlfriend never in the goddamn mood?! I thought I had squared away the "returning the favor" issue a couple of weeks back....

Guys, this is really frustrating. My girlfriend has NO sex drive (ya I know, "give her some juice!" posts are expected). I can only jack off to so much internet porn...
I had to fucking sniff her dirty smelly panties in her bathroom last night when I went pee because that's the most pussy I can get from her at this point in my life!

GAWD, chop off my balls now...at least I'll be happier with no sex drive.

Well, here's where I beg for help, especially from the ladies: How do I bring up this issue with the ultimatum of breaking up with her if I don't get it at least once a week. Because I'm seriously thinking about it. I need a girlfriend who wants to pleasure me as much as I enjoy pleasuring. I just don't want to sound like an asshole (or maybe I should) when I talk to her about this. And I have to delicately work in the "breaking up if no booty" angle.

Thanks in advance. There are not many people I can go to for honest advice. The girls I know in my life always side with her.

By the way, I'm currently holding auditions for women to be my next g/f, so post pics if interested ladies. There will be a talent, swimsuit, evening gown, and nude round at the Sexual Mustard Classic. Winner gets to relocate close to me (no expenses paid) to hang out and have sex.

 

[Kakdiesel]

Maybe your foreplay skills are bad...I know I can always get a girl in the mood by doing the right things...just kissing sometimes doesnt cut it for a girl (in the contrary to most guys)...you gotta come at her in a suprising way..maybe lick her neck or kiss her on the neck or do something other than just making out and rubbing on her...trust me, sometimes when they least expect sex is when they get the horniest

 

[Diablo's Xstasy]

I don't think Mustard's foreplay skills are the issue here from his other posts.

How to go about bringing up the issue.

Best way to deal with it is to be straight forward and upfront with a little sugar coating cause us females are always a bit catty.

Don't be blunt and completely honest, like don't tell her about the dirty panty incident, of course.

One night take her out to a nice dinner and during dinner tell her that you two have to talk about your relationship... But that's a little done.

Really the best thing to do Mustard is to sit her down when she's calm and relaxed, this way she doesn't have a bad day at work on her mind and she's not upset/frustrated about anything else and then she can't take those things out on you. That's very important.
Make sure you're calm about it, and I know this is going to sound really corney, but use feeling words.

The best way to get her to understand you and what you're going through is to get into how her own mind works and combat the problem from there. It's almost like manipulating.

Just sit her down basically and say, "Honey we really have to talk about our relationship. I love you and I really care a lot about you, you are a wonderful girl and person, but I am not happy about a few things. I want to discuss them with you and hopefully work this out to both of our satisfaction and if it can't be worked out I'm sorry, but I'm not happy and I can't live with being uphappy. If you were unhappy I wouldn't want you living that way."

Just a suggestion, but make sure whatever you do, don't raise your voice stay cool calm and collected... Even if she raises hers or starts crying or anything, the calmer you remain the easier it will be and the quicker you'll resolve the problem.

Hope i helped.

 

[Big Johnson]

Dude, say it like it is. Don't feel bad because you have a NORMAL sex drive. Fucking say it like it is - "Okay, listen...I'm not with you because I want a female friend. I'm with you because I want a lover. If you can't give me what I need from a lover, why should I stick around?" Bro, you may be happier dating several girls than just one. I get more sex now being single than I did with my ex.

 

[fiatconspiracy]

the relationship has ended a long time ago and you just never caught on, when a woman "checks out" sexually she is done, time for you to salvage your pride and pack your bags, dont bother giving her a ultimatum, cause maybe she will start banging you again, but she wont be into it, just cut your loses and move on

 

[Sexual Mustard]

Kakdeisel--as Diablo's said, it's not my foreplay skills...I get her off easily. But I might try the "surprise" angle...thanks for your suggestion.

Diablo's--another great post. Very thoughtful of you--yet another characteristic I want in a girl. Come on over, baby..! But seriously, that's also a great idea....problem is, she's never in a good mood anymore. Always tired and cranky and crabby....

Big Johnson--you have a good point. It's not my fault I have a NORMAL sex drive and she has NO sex drive (at least not anymore).

fiatconspiracy--an interesting angle.. I wonder if you're right.

 

[velvett]

SM,

Have other aspects of her life or daily habits changed?
Could she being going through a depressed or confucsed about her future phase? If she's always had a different sex drive than yourself it will always be problem.

Your best bet is to talk about it, especially in a climate that neither of you are starting the conversation on the defensive.

Fiatconspiracy does bring up an interesting point and you shouldn't let that get you down, relationships aren't forever and the long lasting ones take a lot of work and communication. So, talk, talk, talk about it.

Good Luck

 

[Rico]

Same thing happened between me and my now "ex". The biggest turnoff for her is you pressuring her to have sex. It makes her want it less. Start acting like you could care less about sex and she will come around (If she doesn't it's time to move on). Sex is a lot like going in to the bank for a loan.....If you really NEED it, you are never going to get it. If it is something you could use but don't need you will get it 9 out of 10 times.

I know it's a fucked up game, but that's life. It's so easy to get laid when you're indifferent about it, but when you go out with the attitude that you absolutely HAVE to get a piece of ass tonight, you end up with nothing.

 

[YellowD]

My girlfriend usually requires some sentimental shit to get in the mood. Ie. flowers, poem, dinner and a movie. Also, if you study her mestrual schedule, you can usually determine when her sex drive is highest. For most women, including mine, the few days prior to, during and after ovulation are the peak days for sex. Good luck.

 

[IwanaStrut]

This is just a girls opinion, but I would bet she's getting the cock some where else. My advice. Dont let her get away with it. Go out and do a little cheating yourself......have fun, if she isnt going to give it up for you, what does she expect you to do. Now go get um tiger.

 

[Austin316]

Tell her you got diagnosed with some terminal disease, have two months to live, and want to go out with a BANG!!

 

[Slice of Peach2]

I will be honest, I used to be married and the last couple of years of my marriage I had no desire to have sex with my husband. I had pretty much given up on the marriage and didn't leave because I was complacent.

My point is, she may not want to be with you anymore if she is not giving you sex. If I am in love with someone or sexually attracted to them I want to be on them all the time, no matter how long we have been together.

Does she kiss you? Hug you?

You need to do what is right for you. You need to talk to her about your needs and what is wrong that she doesn't want to have sex with you anymore.

Good luck!

 

[smallmovesal]

i'm staying out of this one... big j knows what i'd say

 

[TxLonghorn]

fiat is correct.

And I don't think you really need any advice on this subject. I think you already know what you need to do, it just might be too painful/difficult to admit it at this point.

Anyways, let us know how your new g/f, the one who really digs you and is into sex, turns out.

 

[Sexual Mustard]

Again, very good responses...

Velvett--yes, she's a little confused about her future. And she's always crabby and complaining (I think it may be deeper than her diet--in this case it's too easy to blame on the diet).

Rico--I see your point, but easier said than done. Besides, if I try to become indifferent about it, then she may be happy in that she doesn't have to give up booty.

YellowD--yes, I've tried the sensitive/romantic angle, all without luck. You funny-ass avatar you.

Iwana Strut--the thought has crossed my mind but I highly doubt it. Although I have thought about messing around, I'm too moral to technically cheat. I'd have to break up with her for sure before I did anything with anyone else.

Austin316--now I haven't thought of THAT before...hmmm...

Slice of Peach2--I'm starting to think that as well....and she only kisses me hello and goodbye.

TxLonghorn---yes, it's a little difficult to admit I know....but I'll let you know how the new g/f goes (if I get one, hehe)

Thanks, all!

 

[satanic goatslayer]

Choke her into submission with a piece of rope and rape her.

 

[Bullit]

big whoop.....I haven't been laid in 8 years

 

[IhateOsama]

I bet she was pregnant with your brothers baby.

 

[Bullit]

Two word solution: go Plat.

 

[IhateOsama]

Two word solution: go Plat.

That's one and a half words.

 

[fsupat70]

shes banging some other guy

 

[Nihilist]

i would say somthing, but since its been 2 years, id say its been worked out by now.

 

[sh4dowf4lcon]

Mustard,

Allow me to offer a little advice. It may or may not be helpful, but it is my 2 CC's. First of all, no ultimatum when you have this discussion...this will not help and it probably isn't what you really want. Second, this is going to require alot of talking, patience and some skillful planning on your part. So be prepared to work or you will not have success.

There are a couple of tactics you could try (in addition to talking)... she needs to know you feel unsatisfied and under appreciated, you need to tell her this. You need to encourage her to talk about what the hold up is on her side. Then try to plan a "date night". @ least once a week plan an evening where you can go out and talk, dance, eat, laugh, have a drink, take a short trip, try to focus on this " Date Night" as an opportunity to talk and be closer to her. Find out more about what she is thinking. Also some women do not engage sexually just from talking. Some women need to have "touch" before their sexual feelings come into play...for example:

You could talk for hours about not getting any sex ...and still not get any. Or you can say "come here, and start to gently rub her shoulders, touch her ears, gently rub her neck and arms (whrever gets her started)...and with your soft touches you may be able to kindle a fire and get her excited...also you need to have sex in a manner that gives her pleasure, dont just cum and roll over and go to sleep.

You may tell her how attractive she is to you while you are rubbing her shoulders. Run her a hot bath and massage her afterwards, be a gentleman and use your skills with touch to get her started.

Tactic Two is Trciky, deceptive, but powerful...
Jealousy...yes, sometimes jealousy can get a woman (or man) hot and bothered...maybe you can create a girl from work or school or something that has started giving you signals...tell your lady this "mystery" girl has been coming on to you, but you have asked her to stop because you are faithful to your lady. Every couple of days or so bring up the mystery girl and how she is tempting you with short skirts, but you refuse to give in becasue you love your lady too much. You have to work this scenario in a manner that will not make your lady doubt you, but it may stir something up for her.

Maybe she doesn't feel like sex, but she DEFINATELY will NOT want another woman offering to give you head or offering sexual intercourse. This can be tricky and is only recommended if the first tactic (touch and date nights) fails. Be prepared to lie and fabricate cards from this mystery lady that is after you maybe an ex or something.
Jealousy can be your friend in getting your lady in bed more often, but it must be used carefully and never make her feel like you would violate her trust...just make her feel your pain because you are being loyal and someone else wants you...she will probably give in...keep us posted on what you try and how it goes.

Try strawberries and cream while she is in the bath or chocolate...there are many aphrodisiacs to consider...forget shit like pharomones...this is deeper than that.

Also do NOT settle for once a week...whenever you settled for less that is when the tables turned...always push for more until you find some common ground...honestly once a week would kill me, and less than that would never be acceptable.

SF

 

[TC2]

"My girlfriend usually requires some sentimental shit to get in the mood. Ie. flowers, poem, dinner and a movie"

Fuck that shit, if that is what it "takes" to get her in the mood then shes nothing more than a paid whore.

no offence to your girl but fuck that noise.

 

[strangebrew]

Mustard,

Allow me to offer a little advice. It may or may not be helpful, but it is my 2 CC's. First of all, no ultimatum when you have this discussion...this will not help and it probably isn't what you really want. Second, this is going to require alot of talking, patience and some skillful planning on your part. So be prepared to work or you will not have success.

There are a couple of tactics you could try (in addition to talking)... she needs to know you feel unsatisfied and under appreciated, you need to tell her this. You need to encourage her to talk about what the hold up is on her side. Then try to plan a "date night". @ least once a week plan an evening where you can go out and talk, dance, eat, laugh, have a drink, take a short trip, try to focus on this " Date Night" as an opportunity to talk and be closer to her. Find out more about what she is thinking. Also some women do not engage sexually just from talking. Some women need to have "touch" before their sexual feelings come into play...for example:

You could talk for hours about not getting any sex ...and still not get any. Or you can say "come here, and start to gently rub her shoulders, touch her ears, gently rub her neck and arms (whrever gets her started)...and with your soft touches you may be able to kindle a fire and get her excited...also you need to have sex in a manner that gives her pleasure, dont just cum and roll over and go to sleep.

You may tell her how attractive she is to you while you are rubbing her shoulders. Run her a hot bath and massage her afterwards, be a gentleman and use your skills with touch to get her started.

Tactic Two is Trciky, deceptive, but powerful...
Jealousy...yes, sometimes jealousy can get a woman (or man) hot and bothered...maybe you can create a girl from work or school or something that has started giving you signals...tell your lady this "mystery" girl has been coming on to you, but you have asked her to stop because you are faithful to your lady. Every couple of days or so bring up the mystery girl and how she is tempting you with short skirts, but you refuse to give in becasue you love your lady too much. You have to work this scenario in a manner that will not make your lady doubt you, but it may stir something up for her.

Maybe she doesn't feel like sex, but she DEFINATELY will NOT want another woman offering to give you head or offering sexual intercourse. This can be tricky and is only recommended if the first tactic (touch and date nights) fails. Be prepared to lie and fabricate cards from this mystery lady that is after you maybe an ex or something.
Jealousy can be your friend in getting your lady in bed more often, but it must be used carefully and never make her feel like you would violate her trust...just make her feel your pain because you are being loyal and someone else wants you...she will probably give in...keep us posted on what you try and how it goes.

Try strawberries and cream while she is in the bath or chocolate...there are many aphrodisiacs to consider...forget shit like pharomones...this is deeper than that.

Also do NOT settle for once a week...whenever you settled for less that is when the tables turned...always push for more until you find some common ground...honestly once a week would kill me, and less than that would never be acceptable.

SF

lol, look at the date before you write a reply that long.

 

[TC2]

Why is my girlfriend never in the goddamn mood?! I thought I had squared away the "returning the favor" issue a couple of weeks back....

Guys, this is really frustrating. My girlfriend has NO sex drive (ya I know, "give her some juice!" posts are expected). I can only jack off to so much internet porn...
I had to fucking sniff her dirty smelly panties in her bathroom last night when I went pee because that's the most pussy I can get from her at this point in my life!

GAWD, chop off my balls now...at least I'll be happier with no sex drive.

Well, here's where I beg for help, especially from the ladies: How do I bring up this issue with the ultimatum of breaking up with her if I don't get it at least once a week. Because I'm seriously thinking about it. I need a girlfriend who wants to pleasure me as much as I enjoy pleasuring. I just don't want to sound like an asshole (or maybe I should) when I talk to her about this. And I have to delicately work in the "breaking up if no booty" angle.

Thanks in advance. There are not many people I can go to for honest advice. The girls I know in my life always side with her.

By the way, I'm currently holding auditions for women to be my next g/f, so post pics if interested ladies. There will be a talent, swimsuit, evening gown, and nude round at the Sexual Mustard Classic. Winner gets to relocate close to me (no expenses paid) to hang out and have sex.

She sounds exactly like my ex. She always enjoyed sex and she was really happy being my GF but she was hardly ever in the mood.

tried and tried talking to her about and she always had some excuse, bottom line is she even though she loved me she put my needs behind everything else.

Moral of the story is dump her and get yourself a real GF that gives as much as she takes like I did.

 

[doubles1]

so hows the update when you droppin the line on her ass?

 

[sh4dowf4lcon]

Look @ Date

lol, look at the date before you write a reply that long.

LMAO, yes it is old post, but there seem to have been several of these posts similar in that their wives don't make love on demand. Maybe my post will enlighten someone, and if it helps one man get his needs met...then I guess it was worth the time and effort.

Thanks for having a laugh @ my expense...