I cant get a lifting partner :(

[B0ARDIN087]

i lift at a ballys and all my friends dont belong there becuz its really expensive and i somehow got it for like 11 dollars a month and no one else can get this deal. Now i have no one to lift with and am only 16. No one else there my age lifts as hard as me. My one friend goes there but he is terribly unmotivated and lifting is a HUGE part of my life. I cant relate to anyone close to my age at my gym, becuz they come and do bench, curls, and triceps then run. they dont know what a deadlift, good morning, squat, snatches, or even incline press is. They want big biceps and thats it, damn i hate commercial gyms! there are 5-6 huge guys and they work there and would never lift with a little guy like me. :/

 

[louden_swain]

Go solo. . .

Thats what most of us do around here.

 

[Hannibal]

there are 5-6 huge guys and they work there and would never lift with a little guy like me. :/

How do you know? You should always try to surround yourself with people that are where you want to be. Training with people bigger and stronger than you always makes it easier to make progress...because you are constantly reminded that it can and has been done before.

Having said that...its probably better to work out alone than you waste your time with a training partner that is just going to hold you back.

 

[ffknight84]

im sure if you went up to them and asked they would help you out and lift with you. i know if someone came to my gym and wanted to lift hardcore with me id have no problem.

 

[Synpax]

I think the only benefit of a training partner is someone to spot with. Otherwise you just wind up spending more time in the gym not doing anything.

I could see the argument that a training partner helps motivate you - helps you get into the gym - but I don't think that's a problem for you.

 

[Cuthbert]

I agree with Hannibal. Working out with people who are stronger than you is the best way to get stronger yourself.

The progress I have made since I started training with my partner is HUGE compared to the progress I made before. It is definitely worth a shot to talk to those guys.

 

[RusPA81]

Re: Re: I cant get a lifting partner

How do you know? You should always try to surround yourself with people that are where you want to be. Training with people bigger and stronger than you always makes it easier to make progress...because you are constantly reminded that it can and has been done before.

Having said that...its probably better to work out alone than you waste your time with a training partner that is just going to hold you back.

This is very true. I think I have made my best gains because I have lifted with and compared myself to larger people. It kept me chasing a goal. Plus, just because they are big, doesnt mean they are assholes. They may be more then happy to lift with you.

 

[B0ARDIN087]

...... its not just the size its the age difference..... im 16 they are 26 at the youngest. plus switching weights is such a pain for the huge difference. lastly 4 of them work there and are trainers so i can lift with them but they will charge me :/

and i only want a partner for a spotter.... plus to push each other but mainly for a spotter :/

 

[Cuthbert]

I am 21. One of my partners is 30. No big deal.

 

[Synpax]

just borrow a spotter when you need it. Case closed?

 

[thebrute]

Go solo. . .

Thats what most of us do around here.

sad but true...
tb

 

[Naeem]

Solo is the best way, learn to train on your own, in your own zone and comforts.

 

[Hannibal]

Solo is the best way, learn to train on your own, in your own zone and comforts.

You rarely can push yourself harder than a REAL training partner can...especially if they are stronger than you. At least that has been my experience.

 

[LeeJunFan]

I tend to work out more if i'm with a partner talking about stuff, i find myself getting a bit bored sometimes on my own

 

[Lord_Suston]

I like having a partner around the same strength, when one gets stronger the other has to keep up. I think the best partner IMO are the one's who are open to new ideas and do a good amount of research.

I have one of the best crews around in NY

 

[MnFguy49]

I like having a partner around the same strength, when one gets stronger the other has to keep up. I think the best partner IMO are the one's who are open to new ideas and do a good amount of research.

I am in this same boat, my partner and I are very similair in size, strength, experience, motivation, and we both do quite a bit of research.
Good luck bro, I'd talk to those bigger guys. I'm willing to bet they'd like to help you, and would see and admire your work ethic.

 

[BigWh1tey]

I'm with Hannibal on this. A good training partner can make all the difference in the world.

As far a s the big guys go, my first partner was benching in the mid 500s raw , when i was hitting a giant 185. Whenever possible , train with people stronger than you.

 

[MsBeverlyHills]

"train with people stronger than you"

how do you spot for someone benching 3 times what you do??? I try to train w/someone close to me on stats so I dont accidentaaly kill them

 

[BigWh1tey]

"train with people stronger than you"

how do you spot for someone benching 3 times what you do??? I try to train w/someone close to me on stats so I dont accidentaaly kill them

I used to hand off to him all the time, just because you can't bench 500 doesn't mean you can't spot 500. My GF has spotted me a many times on +500 benches and + 600 squats , shes not weak by any means, but she not as strong as I am. Also i have been lucky enough to train with groups or teams of lifters, some stronger, some weaker, all competent to spot and load.

My point about training with people stronger was the motivation and inspiration they provide. If I was worried about safety I would train on the smith machine with the rest of the pussies.

 

[MsBeverlyHills]

I used to hand off to him all the time, just because you can't bench 500 doesn't mean you can't spot 500. My GF has spotted me a many times on +500 benches and + 600 squats , shes not weak by any means, but she not as strong as I am. Also i have been lucky enough to train with groups or teams of lifters, some stronger, some weaker, all competent to spot and load.

My point about training with people stronger was the motivation and inspiration they provide. If I was worried about safety I would train on the smith machine with the rest of the pussies.

geez... your one strong boyfriend!!!

personally- I would be freaked spotting for guy w/your #s-- but thats just me-- if you really got stuck, I prob couldnt pull that kind of weight up...(Havent had too since I have weak-ass boyfriends..lol).

 

[RusPA81]

"train with people stronger than you"

how do you spot for someone benching 3 times what you do??? I try to train w/someone close to me on stats so I dont accidentaaly kill them

This is also brings up the point that if you are lifting a weight that a weak person couldnt spot you with you are probably lifting too heavy.

 

[Hannibal]

This is also brings up the point that if you are lifting a weight that a weak person couldnt spot you with you are probably lifting too heavy.

Too heavy??!

What's that?

 

[t3c]

if you pay the cost of traveling and food i will fly out and come lift with you

 

[Tweakle]

When I first got into lifting I trained with the biggest dude in my gym, the only drug free lifter I've seen who could bench over 500 (not contest style, he bounced a little but still) and it fired me up like you wouldnt believe. Ask those big guys if they'd mind you working in with them a few times, shoot the shit and take it from there. If you work hard and dont have to break the bar down too much then it hsould be all good.