How would you handle this situation?

[alien amp pharm]

You let a (supposedly) friend borrow money.

You and he get into an argument about it because he hasn't paid and now hate each other.

He still owes you the money, do you :

A. Threaten him.
B. Kick his ass and risk assault charges.
C. Forget about the $$$, he'll never pay.
D. Fuck his car up as revenge.
E. Other

?

 

[MarthaStewart]

Anytime you loan someone money, especially friends, you should pretty much write that money off as something you will never see again.
If they do pay, then hot damn, you got your money back - but it happens pretty infrequently.

Unless you are a bank.

One of my former friends was like this and I repeatedly told him he had to pay (not ask) and I made vague references to things breaking - not threats were it brought into court, but they could be read that way I suppose.

In the end he paid and swore a lot, saying what a dick I was, and I have never talked to him since.

While it would feel fantastic to really hurt the guy or break his shit, or even take something of his and sell it in order to get your money - in the end, that could end you up in court and/or jail, and that is the last thing you want from this.

Now if you can get away with harm to him or his things with absolutely no proof or evidence of it being you - then I would say go for it

 

[curling]

Why won't he pay you? There is an old saying though that you never lend money to friends and really expect it back.

 

[TheProject]

Well, I'd give him some time to cool off, then talk to him, calmly and rationally.

How much money are we talking here?

 

[alien amp pharm]

yes, I know - never expect the money back, but what brought it up was basically:

I always got in free at the local bar/club. He took over as doorman and charges me full price now.

I found out he lets other people in free which pissed me off.

So instead of complaining about that, I simply demanded the money he has owed me for some time now.

He got mad and now has banned me from the bar.

What a friend huh?

 

[DP38]

If it's a large amount of money, and is friendship doesen't mean anything to you, I would threaten to sue.

 

[primetime21]

Having been screwed by friends before, i have found one method that works in getting your money back. Become the most annoying cocksucker ever! Constantly call him and remind him that he owes you money. Make sure you do it when others are around; that way he will be shamed into giving you the money for fear of who you will tell next.

This method has worked every time for me. Although it can still take a while to get themoney. But at least you get the money. I would definitely NOT write it off.

I dont think its a dick move, because he should have paid you already, so embarassing him is not your fault. He is bringing it on himself. And even if he doesnt pay you, at least you have gotten some revenge by making him feel like shit in front of other people. Its a win win approach.

 

[alien amp pharm]

It's only $300, and I was to the point of calling it a loss, but read post #5 and you'll see why I demanded it paid back.

 

[MarthaStewart]

did you do anything to piss him off? or did he missunderstand something?

why does he no longer allow you into the bar but does allow other people in free?

 

[§äñît¥ Pôí§ðñ]

now let's just see you drop them pants

that's right, take 'em right off..
come on SQUEAL! SQUEAL!

 

[alien amp pharm]

did you do anything to piss him off?

That's what I don't understand.

I've helped this guy out more than his own family. I've bought him drinks out before, let him borrow this money, and let him borrow my car when his tore up.

So last time there I went off on him because of him screwing me on the door charge and demanded my money. People were around so I think it embarrassed him thus causing the ban.

Trust me, the friendship is well over. I only want some sort of revenge now and my $$$.

 

[vixenbabe]

Hmmm..Perhaps a call to the owner of the bar letting him know he's lost money on cover charges!

After all, we do not want other people in the "red" due to your dead beat pal......

 

[alien amp pharm]

Hmmm..Perhaps a call to the owner of the bar letting him know he's lost money on cover charges!

After all, we do not want other people in the "red" due to your dead beat pal......

Oh it gets better.

He told the owner that I threatened to kill him if he didn't pay, so the owner said that I can't come in in fear of trouble arrising.
(this of course a lie, but clever as it reinforces the banning)

This is like a damn soap opera with this guy.

 

[alien amp pharm]

Primetime:

That is a good strategy.

The only bad thing is that he has moved and no longer has a phone. Perhaps I can do it when I see him at the door however, but that'd be the only chance I get to do it.

This guy use to be a drug dealer. Too bad he no longer is or else there might be a police raid at his apt. from an annonomous source

 

[vixenbabe]

He told the owner that I threatened to kill him if he didn't pay, so the owner said that I can't come in in fear of trouble arrising.
(this of course a lie, but clever as it reinforces the banning)

This is like a damn soap opera with this guy.

IF I were the owner I'd prolly let you ruff him up a bit if I found out he was ripping me off at MY front door on the cover charges!

I still think this is your best bet. Call the owner and put a bug in his ear about him NOT charging cover to his pals! I'll bet this will get the owner's attention!

Maybe your "pal" will get a hint one of these days what the difference 'tween right and wrong is! One can hope....

 

[curling]

The guy sounds like a prick sue him in small claims court alien.

 

[alien amp pharm]

Vbabe: I think I will call the owner and tell him. I hope he gets fired or removed from the door. (say, why is it females always have the best revenge ideas? )

Curling: Damn right he's a prick. He lets other people in free but yet charges me after all I've did to help him and I'm not exaggerating on any of the things I've mentioned in this thread.

I think it would be too much of a hassle to sue for $300 though.

 

[Lumberg]

I think the sublte references to things breaking and embarrassing him in front of friends is the way to go.

Not sure how the call to his boss would go over.

 

[curling]

I don't think so in small claims court. It is worth making a phone to see.

I like primetime's idea too. But it seems that ya'll are not running in the same circles any more are ya?

 

[vixenbabe]

LOL@woman and revenge comment!

Hey, YOU do not need to mention your name to the owner!I'd also wait a few weeks to call! Let things simmer down a bit!

 

[THeMaCHinE]

Personally, I'd write it off and chalk it up to a learning experience -- I'm guessing when you loaned him the money that you had a gut feeling that maybe it wasn't the right thing to do, but you went ahead and did it anyway?

There are ways to get $300 worth of satisfaction without direct confrontation.

 

[MFMan]

Wait for him in the parking lot. Watch him leave and then follow him. Be sure to have some sort of weapon on you. Preferably a .45 if you do not have a gun any type of heavy object used for beating will do. Put the gun or other weapon being used in the crime and threaten to kill him until he gives you the money. If he doesn't have the money on him pistol whip him anyway and tell him you will be back to collect later. If he does have the money kill him anyway. If not go rob a bank with a cardboard cut out of your friends head and hopefully the authorites will arrest him. Good luck.

 

[alien amp pharm]

lol @ cardboard cut out