how to handle colleague at work?

[Blue Star]

I was talking to a "friend" at work about general stuff. She mentioned some personal stuff, and i gave her some responses in a jokey sense. Basically, apparently she went and told someone else and twisted it to make me sound bad and low. Now this person has a bad habt talking crap about other people, always throwing up dirt on anybody else but her.

Now im angry because i didnt even provide context in our conversation and shes gone and twisted it up.

So my 2 options are let it go or have it out with her and put her straight and tell her to keep her big fat mouth shut

Ive worked with her for 4 years and to be honest im not that bothered about retaining her friendship, so what do you guys think?

 

[Smurfy]

um, who gives a crap? I say let it go unless this person has a direct impact on your career.

 

[Blue Star]

the thing is she doesnt know i know. so im thinking of shutting up her for good by calling her over and just saying next time you feel like talking **** about me come say it to my face and dont try to twist it behind my back.

to be honest mate, a lot of people dont like her and i dont blame them but shes never talked about me before. so im jus gnna let her know big mistake and tell her that next time i will air her familys dirty linen at work and see how you like that?

 

[Smurfy]

eh, you stoop to her level with the threats. if you want to call her out on it, go ahead but once you get chided into behaving in the same manner, then you're no better./

 

[stosstruppe]

the thing is she doesnt know i know. so im thinking of shutting up her for good by calling her over and just saying next time you feel like talking **** about me come say it to my face and dont try to twist it behind my back.

Why even give her the satisfaction that it "bothered" you - she'll just deny it and spin it further in that the person who tipped you off is an arsehole and a liar.

You've learned a valuable lesson (all women are snakes with tits) so next time keep your shite to yourself & don't indulge her your personal life whether you're joking or not.

Or, you could slice her open from navel to neck and strangle her with her intestines in the car park. Situations such as these demand a heavy handed response so that people know you're not to be trifled with and are a bit of an "angry fellow".

 

[biteme]

This is just 1 reason why I hate working with people. Everywhere I've worked, people gossip and talk behind each other's backs and try to get you in on it... I'd rather work alone.

 

[Longhorn85]

so what do you guys think?

Next time you and her are standing at the proverbial water cooler:

"Hey Jane, I overheard someone misquoting something you mentioned that I said. Please don't spread bullshit about me, if you're going to quote me, get it right or let me speak for myself, kapiche?

I put my foot in my mouth well enough on my own, I don't need any extra help."

 

[Smurfy]

i used to think that word was pronounced, "gabeesh" which is exactly how my dad says it. he said it ALL THE TIME when i was growing up when he'd be scolding us.

anyway, it's actually spelled with a C

 

[Longhorn85]

You have Italian blood, I watch the Sopranos.

 

[myway]

A lot of my friends work with me. This would never happen with them because they know me well enough. The ppl who aren't my friends-- they are only there for my entertainment. Do u let ur TV piss u off?
The people u must interact with in order to complete a work task are just for that one thing. Do u let your washing machine or broom piss u off?

 

[Blue Star]

Next time you and her are standing at the proverbial water cooler:

"Hey Jane, I overheard someone misquoting something you mentioned that I said. Please don't spread bullshit about me, if you're going to quote me, get it right or let me speak for myself, kapiche?

I put my foot in my mouth well enough on my own, I don't need any extra help."

Hhhm
could say it like that.

I wanna say it amongst our circle of friends and embarass her. trust me, people around our small circle would love it.

"Hey Jane, I know you've got a big mouth and cant keep it shut. But if you wanna quote what i said make sure its da truth and dont bullshit. otherwise next time you feel da urge to talk crap come see me and il shut your mouth for you"

 

[myway]

Hhhm
could say it like that.

I wanna say it amongst our circle of friends and embarass her. trust me, people around our small circle would love it.

"Hey Jane, I know you've got a big mouth and cant keep it shut. But if you wanna quote what i said make sure its da truth and dont bullshit. otherwise next time you feel da urge to talk crap come see me and il shut your mouth for you"

If u do that, she will know how much time/space she's taken up in your mind='s she wins. If she doesn't matter- it don't matter.
If she does matter, maybe she shouldn't.

 

[Blue Star]

its not about winning and losing. she doesnt care about that. she justs chats shit about everyone and acts all innocent.

Well im gonna expose her this week

Oh and when i do, il have won because she wont wanna speak for some time