How often are you asked...

[buffalogal]

if you're becoming anorexic?

I don't know how many times I have heard that comment the past couple of weeks!!! Just because I don't have the token bag of potato chips, or the bowl of french fries, I must be fearful to eat anything. Never mind the fact that I eat more often than anyone I work with (every 3 hours).

I just cannot get it through to these people that I am not trying to lose weight. I'm trying to drop bodyfat and gain muscle - big difference!! And they have the nerve to ask me this while I'm eating grilled chix and veggies, while they stuff their faces with grease and sugary sodas!!

What does everyone else say to these comments, if you're asked them at all? I know there are several people on this board who are recovering from eating disorders and I have a tremendous amount of respect for them for living a healthy lifestyle now.

I'm just so tired of hearing it over and over. I won't even mention the shock on their faces when I told them I also take supplements. I'm lucky I wasn't asked to submit to a drug test on the spot.

Okay, rant over...

 

[Sassy69]

People always comment when you do something that is out of the ordinary. It is a sad state of affairs when eating clean is no the norm but no one thinks twice if you shovel down McDs 2+ x /day.

There are 2 ways to respond when people make those comments -- 1) do you want to learn the correct way to eat for a healthy lifestyle? Let's sit & talk. or 2) Leave me the fuck alone - I think I hear your Big Mac calling your fat ass.

 

[believeNme]

Hey girl =) I understand your pain! Im a recovering bulimic. I fight the urge to "get rid of" the food i consume more often than not. =( BUt, tonight, i went to macarroni grill with my guy...he's venezuelan and a lover of wine, pasta, smokes, etc... he's extremly sexy, but not healthy! Anyhow, tonight i ate a big plain salad w/ lo-cal dressing on the side, just to make it through dinner then go home and eat healthy food I ENJOY! But the waitress looked at me like....hmmmm? It's annoying. Just keep doing what YOU know is right . Ignore them! I mean, LOOK at them! You know they're just jealous of your will power anyway! =) Good luck on your recovery! Im with ya! =)

 

[Sassy69]

The important thing is to stay focused on YOUR goals. Some people are happy to sit down w/ a plate of french fries & mayo. I'd stare just as much as people stare at me w/ /the chicken & broccoli. However, I dont' comment. If they choose to comment to me, then I just smile & say "Cheers!".

I guess I've never been accused of anorexia -- I've been called a power lifter a few times tho.

 

[Miss24k]

I've never been accused of being anorexic, but I have been told to slow down on the weight gaining cause I'm getting too thick, and a few idiots have asked me if I'm taking steriods, which pisses me off quite abit.

 

[mermaid]

There are 2 ways to respond when people make those comments -- 1) do you want to learn the correct way to eat for a healthy lifestyle? Let's sit & talk. or 2) Leave me the fuck alone - I think I hear your Big Mac calling your fat ass.

LMAO - I just wish I had the guts to say #2

I'm going through the process of losing one of the only friends I have here because she and her husband are big drinkers - we would party with them all the time but because we've turned down their invites for the past weeks (to avoid the temptation and quite frankly, it can get a bit boring) she's now giving me the cold shoulder. She thinks I'm getting a food disorder by becoming "obsessive" about what I put in my mouth. Though, three months ago she told me to be careful as I was "packing more insulation than usual".

You can't win with these people whatever you do. So, yeah, leave me the fuck alone. At least, I can say that in my head. LOL.

 

[*MissFit*]

I have been asked if i take steroids because of my muscle development and i have also been asked about anorexia because i lose weight fast..

The people that know me know that i am in the gym every day and that it's a struggle for me to keep weight on my frame.

People that don't know me.. can bite me:

 

[8x271]

the first time i dieted down for a show, i had co-workers who thought i had cancer, thought i was anorexic, others who thought all i ate was lettuce. one guy even came up to me and told me i was getting to skinny. i was so mad i told him he was just so used to seeing fat people he forgot what normal looked like, then i told him he was too fat! they were just so used to seeing me so big that they couldn't believe that I could lose weight just by eating so healthy and working out.

when i tell people how many times a day i eat and what i eat they find it hard to believe. except those who work around me daily who see me pack in a cooler every day!

 

[Sassy69]

This is a topic that comes up alot but I think its important to not get hung up on what other people say. People sometimes just comment to comment. These days I generally make it a point to not really go into detail if I'm dieting down for a show - I wear clothes that cover most everythign and just go about my daily business. It also helps I handle my low carb days a lot better than I used to. A few times people have taken it personally that I dont' go into detail, but it tends to be easier. Just "Yea, I'm dieting - its a healthieir way to eat." and "I enjoy training because it helps me relax and stay in shape." And leave it at that.

 

[nsashbl01]

Hoteacher had shifted into hig gear this Summer and worked with a very qualified trainer. When she returned to school she had lost some more bf and now gets some serious attention at school, (her job). She gets the occasional comment about her obsessive lifting and diet as others see it. Then recently her co-workers actually had an intervention! They think she has gone overboard and has a problem! Yet half a dozen of these same people have asked her for help with their own diet and training? I told her when I introduced her to this lifestyle that you will get anoying shit from people. It's a never ending battle, ya just gotta find a way to have fun with it. I usually tell people that I just can't handle having fat hang over my pants, but it's ok if they can handle it!

 

[nikkita]

What does everyone else say to these comments, if you're asked them at all?

I say something like "the customer service department is closed for today, but you can put your suggestions in our suggestion box... (and point to the trash can, toilet, bag or any other similar place that shows that I don't care)"

 

[slat1]

I get crap all the time from my friends that don't go to the gym. They think I eat wierd and unhealthy.. LOL.
They tell me they don't see why it is worth it.
I'll tell you what. At first I did it to look good to feel better about myself. Now I do it because I love being healthy and I love the taste of clean food.
*It doesn't hurt when you are at the beach and all my buddies keep their shirts on.. LOL.. and all their wives/girlfriends are staring at me
**For some reason people in the country tend to put down people who are capable of doing things they are not!
Keep hammering away!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[scorpiogirl]

People that don't know me.. can bite me:

YOU SAID IT, SISTER!!!!!

 

[playmatesky]

I get it all the time too. I hear...sweetie...you look great, what else could you lose? I hate this! Its like....I do what I do for self satisfaction. Not to satisfy the obese. lol
Babygirl...you outta know by now...people are whack!
Stick with your goals and tell them to suck a fat one! Or eat a fat one! lol
Good day!

 

[courtneybcca]

Yeah I totally understand where you are coming from people say stuff to me all the time... "your getting to skinny" etc etc.. and because I am so open about my eating disorder I get comments like "are you throwing up your food again" that one hurts sometimes...

last week before my photoshoot I was REALLY nervous!!! my man picked me up from the airport and was not in the best of moods because someone just hit the ass end of his brand new car... we had to go admittly to meet the president of the company over lunch whom I was shooting for... when we got to the restuarant I was so nervous I couldn't sit. I told my man I was going to the bathroom where I paced for a good 10 minutes... when I got back to the table the first thing out of his mouth was "did you just throw up." I was so pissed I am sure if looks could kill he would be dead now.

girlie just keep doing what you are doing!! the same people that question me if I am eating, are the same people that ask me for diet advice.. I am sure the same thing will happen to you!!

 

[buffalogal]

Stick with your goals and tell them to suck a fat one! Or eat a fat one!

Ha ha - I love it!!

Glad I'm not the only one who's heard this. I knew that people would be wierd about my "new" lifestyle but I honestly never thought I would hear a comment like that!! Geez, I eat every three hours - how could I ever possibly be anorexic?

Then I have guys at work that tell me my muscles are getting too big and they're worried I'll kick their ass. Maybe that's what I need to do to prove to them I'm not skin and bones.

I guess it's best just to ignore them. Use my energy for the gym, rather than on things that just aren't worth my time.

 

[Miss24k]

Then I have guys at work that tell me my muscles are getting too big and they're worried I'll kick their ass. Maybe that's what I need to do to prove to them I'm not skin and bones.

And that's when you tell them keep f*cking with me and I will kick your ass!

I've said that a few times here and there lol

 

[jenscats5]

Then I have guys at work that tell me my muscles are getting too big and they're worried I'll kick their ass. Maybe that's what I need to do to prove to them I'm not skin and bones.
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Where I used to work, they bought cases of bottled water for the office & I prefer my water cold - so since noone else would do it (lazy asses!) I'd put the cases into the fridge when needed. Well I could carry 1 case in each hand - 2 at a time.

The men would just stand by & watch me with their jaws open.....wussies!

 

[strawberry2]

As of current, I am blessed to have a job in which I have my own desk, the ability to eat at my desk, a little mini-fridge next to my desk, etc. I do get teased that I have lots of food in the fridge, and one of my big drawers full of food. Not to mention, the fact that I eat it seems like ALL the time.

I was just flat out honest with my co-workers in my goals and such...they are actually fascinated about my healthy eating habits as I tell them facts about healthy living.

It doesn't help that my company makes fresh Otis Spunkmeyer cookies for our clients everyday. I finally got them to at least order the Sugar Free cookies. That way, when I smell them...I let myself "cheat" once in a blue moon.

So...vocally, my co-workers are supportive. However, they don't follow the same diet...so they bring in french fries and burgers, etc etc. Most of the time -- thinking of all the junk that is in those things makes me nauseated, but then there are some times that I think it smells yummy (but I don't give in -- yeah!).

Which brings me to something I've told myself, especially lately (a bit off the subject) -- that I will NOT marry a man that eats like crap! The man must have the same lifestyle that I have. Its hard enough and tempting enough without having the one you live with for the rest of your life not share something so big! I see my twin sister and her husband -- she is following the Fat Flush diet right now (and he is trying to), but he is always tempting her with junk food because he has the cravings...its hard.

 

[buffalogal]

Which brings me to something I've told myself, especially lately (a bit off the subject) -- that I will NOT marry a man that eats like crap! The man must have the same lifestyle that I have. Its hard enough and tempting enough without having the one you live with for the rest of your life not share something so big! I see my twin sister and her husband -- she is following the Fat Flush diet right now (and he is trying to), but he is always tempting her with junk food because he has the cravings...its hard.

I was thinking the same thing today when I was sitting at Cracker Barrel for my reward meal. Obviously, people in there eat like that ALL the time. And I was thinking how horrible it would be to live like that, especially now that I'm used to this way of eating. I could not wait to get out of there, for fear I would go back to eating like that. These supposed "reward" meals are opening my eyes to how much I really don't like the way I used to be.

That was one reason for my divorce. I just couldn't take being married to a man who didn't share my enthusiasm for the same things. Now, I look forward to finding someone who actually does...

 

[buffalogal]

Where I used to work, they bought cases of bottled water for the office & I prefer my water cold - so since noone else would do it (lazy asses!) I'd put the cases into the fridge when needed. Well I could carry 1 case in each hand - 2 at a time.

The men would just stand by & watch me with their jaws open.....wussies!

That happened to me at Kroger yesterday. Walked out of the story carrying a 24-pack of bottled water in one hand. When they saw me lift it, the men scattered - guess they knew to stay out of my way. And, they sure didn't want to offer to help...

 

[strawberry2]

I hate it when men offer to help pick-up or carry something that is obviously not THAT heavy. Or they see you pick it up, then they run over to help you when you don't need it. Also, at the gym they offer to help you put on or off the 45lb weights...its like "hey, this is a gym, I'm here to workout, not have you reduce what I came here to do -- lift!" If I need the help, I'll ask for it...but this "women are helpless or weak" is BS! (I used to get the same looks or comments when I would ride my motorcycle)

That happened to me at Kroger yesterday. Walked out of the story carrying a 24-pack of bottled water in one hand. When they saw me lift it, the men scattered - guess they knew to stay out of my way. And, they sure didn't want to offer to help...

 

[Sassy69]

See my sig -- "Pink weights or Big Plates --- which are you?"

Rack 'em girl!

 

[iceprincess]

Hey, everyone, I just noticed this thread after checking out the “Thread of the Month” poll and had to chime in…

I just recently got married and about 6 weeks before the big day, I started dieting down for the honeymoon night… I was really happy with how progress was going…great ab lines, the beginning of quad cuts, etc. When I saw some people that I hadn't seen in awhile, they just looked at me and were like, “you have lost WAY too much weight.” My fiance (at the time) tried to stand up for me by explaining that I was keeping or gaining muscle but reducing my fat, and they were like “gaining muscle our butt”. The general population just doesn't get it!! It is funny because now that the wedding is over, I am trying to actually gain some muscle, and I am sure they would be THRILLED to see me now!! What a messed up mindset we live in today!!

To make it worse, these are lifelong friends who have watched me go through figure skating and know that I am (thankfully) blessed with being “fit” to begin with. It’s a lot easier to ignore the occasional people that just don’t get it or will never understand, compared to people that know you so personally. But, friends or not, everyone here is right: it comes down to knowing you’re doing this for yourself and enjoying it, because we will always be “strange” in the eyes of the normal population.

 

[buffalogal]

To make it worse, these are lifelong friends who have watched me go through figure skating and know that I am (thankfully) blessed with being “fit” to begin with. It’s a lot easier to ignore the occasional people that just don’t get it or will never understand, compared to people that know you so personally. But, friends or not, everyone here is right: it comes down to knowing you’re doing this for yourself and enjoying it, because we will always be “strange” in the eyes of the normal population.

You said it girl - it hurts a little when your friends think you're "strange." But, I think most people eventually get to the point where they realize you're happy with this lifestyle.

As I've slowly discovered the past few weeks, they will soon accept it and be happy for you. Either that, or they realize if I'm not happy, nobody's happy...

 

[fitbabe]

my mother in law came out with "why dont you get your hair cut now? Because when you do your hair like that (straightened) your face looks too thin." Then my sister in law said "thats not the words you used. You said she looked haggared."

I just laughed at her

 

[treilin]

I was thinking the same thing today when I was sitting at Cracker Barrel for my reward meal. Obviously, people in there eat like that ALL the time. And I was thinking how horrible it would be to live like that, especially now that I'm used to this way of eating. I could not wait to get out of there, for fear I would go back to eating like that. These supposed "reward" meals are opening my eyes to how much I really don't like the way I used to be.

That was one reason for my divorce. I just couldn't take being married to a man who didn't share my enthusiasm for the same things. Now, I look forward to finding someone who actually does...

Girl we have a lot in common. I got divorced also. One of the main reasons was he put on the health nut phase before we got married and then he fell off to the waste side. Didn't work-out, ate, slept, sat on the couch. I couldn't take it. I feel exactly the same as you! If I get married again the guy will definitely have to prove that he is as crazy about being healthy as I am!

I get the comments all the time. Funny when I was dieting down I got you are getting to thin, and now that I'm adding muscle I hear you're getting big, or please don't beat me up, or your arms are bigger then mine, or you lift more weights then half the guys in this gym. Some of those I take as compliments the other ones I just brush off. Most of my co-workers like some others actually come to me for advice and a few have listened. At least they all understand that I don't eat the junk so don't offer it up to me! I have some friends that stand up to other friends of mine that say"Don't you think she's overboard?" They always back me up and say,"No she's healthy and I would love to have half the motivation that she has!"
Just keep plugging away.. People usually have a hard time supporting you at first I think they are secretly jealous of your will to look good and be healthy. They don't have enough control to do it themselves, and now they admit it to me.
P.S. My favorite restaurant is Caracker Barrel!!!