How have you changed in the past year?

[Blueshirt]

(+) I am in the best shape/ best looking position I've ever been in my life

(-) It attracts a lot of attention from other women and it's hard to stay committed

 

[mistaballoonhands]

And you didn't correct "alterier?"

I can't be expected to to everything around here...

 

[just...v]

Trauma and prolonged abuse of any kind changes ur brain. You will scan your environment and analyze people for signs of danger. Could be a touch of PTSD, any type of trauma can cause it not just combat.

A good video on trust

How Can I Trust Again? - YouTube


Me: Last year this time I was depressed and didn't know it. Funny how you don't realize those things until you're normal again. So, the positive is that I'm my normal self again. I feel great on the inside and it shows on the outside. I'm glad I made it out of the rain. Though I have my eye on the horizon for storm clouds, I'm enjoying my time in the sun.

I can't think of a single negative right now. Lol.

I'm sure that has a lot to do with it. He was pretty awful and I didnt even realize it cause I got with him so young. I have a friend who councils families and women who have been in abusive relationships. He told me that he was impressed and that I've done really well. He said something like 90% come out of this stuff messed up. I'm careful not to repeat patterns and I try to keep my self at least a little open. It's not always easy but I'm much happier now than I was.

Thanks Cindy. You are such an awesome chick. I'm glad you don't have any negatives. You deserve to be happy.

 

[shirlene29]

positive...Ive been more self reliant than I have been in years and have really been better about dwelling about what I like about someone instead of dwelling on negatives

negative..I've gotten bad about catering to someone elses insecurities because I feel guilty about not acting/being dependent and this has kind of resulted in me being a bit isolated

 

[nydj66]

neg - My BF is higher than last year (although strength is up too).

pos - My wife's mid-life crisis is finally over so we are getting along beautifully again.

 

[theoak01]

pro-Ive become a father, recommitted to fitness, am chasing my career

con-become a shittier husband than I thought possible and selfish in many areas of life.

 

[WoodyO]

- I've completely given up
+ I just don't care that much anyways

 

[just...v]

pro-Ive become a father, recommitted to fitness, am chasing my career

con-become a shittier husband than I thought possible and selfish in many areas of life.

Congradulations on the baby.

 

[nydj66]

pro-Ive become a father, recommitted to fitness, am chasing my career

con-become a shittier husband than I thought possible and selfish in many areas of life.

Becoming a father shifts your priorities and it becomes very easy to neglect your marraige.

It's a mistake - your child deserves two parents; so put some time and effort into your wife too.

 

[theoak01]

Becoming a father shifts your priorities and it becomes very easy to neglect your marraige.

It's a mistake - your child deserves two parents; so put some time and effort into your wife too.

I agree bro, and I did bust my ass to do it all but grew tired of getting nothing in return.