How do you guys deal with SWV friends?

[KillahBee]

Love can do that to a guy.

nope, it's got nuthin to do with love. it has to do with insecurity and disrespect. it's as simple as that.

 

[GrandMaster]

i have no idea... my buudy is the same way now

everytime i call the bitch he's either WITH his slut,have plans.. or WILL be doing something! they're never apart.. he called me ONCE in the past to get together for poker.. and that never happened....guess y!? :Mad:

 

[HS Lifter]

i have no idea... my buudy is the same way now

everytime i call the bitch he's either WITH his slut,have plans.. or WILL be doing something! they're never apart.. he called me ONCE in the past to get together for poker.. and that never happened....guess y!? :Mad:

And at the same time he still expects you to be his friend and would wonder why if you ditched him.

 

[Shallow Hal]

Wow, thanks for chiming in there captain obvious. Pussy always prevails over frinedship for SWV. It's really sad when a SWV breaks up with his g/f and has NOBODY to hangout with anymore....

Don't be surprised if someday you hook up with a chick and decide hanging with boys isn't that important.

All I am saying is it happens. Its not that big a deal.

 

[HS Lifter]

Don't be surprised if someday you hook up with a chick and decide hanging with boys isn't that important.

All I am saying is it happens. Its not that big a deal.

It's all a matter of perspective....

If you don't care that one of your good bro's turns into a SWV, then so be it. Other(like myself) value a good friendship and know what the word "respect" means.

Im single at the moment, but in the past, I NEVER forgot about the "boys" when in a relationship. Simply doesn't make sense to piss off all your longtime friends by FORGETTING them just because you are getting pussy at the moment.

Once again, perspective... I just think I care about good friendships too much...

Hal, here are some questions for ya:

1. If you havent seen a good bro in WEEKS(if not months), does it bother you?

2. If a good bro breaks long time "friend" traditions.. would it bother you?

3. If his g/f tells him that he can't be your friend anymore (sad attempt at control)...would it bother you?

 

[HiDnGoD]

I had a situation somewhat reverse to this. I met my wife in H.S. In fact, she dated my best friend once, before we got together. We double dated over the years, partied, etc. We invited my best friend, his brother & another mutual friend to the wedding. They never replied & didn't show. As we're taking pics outside the church they drive by & holler "suckers". I ran in to the assnozzle years later at college & he was very distant. Fuckem! They were the ones that chose to cut us out. We tried connecting over the years & they always had excuses why they couldn't.

 

[GrandMaster]

And at the same time he still expects you to be his friend and would wonder why if you ditched him.

i dunno man,.. ita kool having a bitch and all.. but when your whipped like a bitch... i wanted to tell him off... i think i will..
example.. last time i saw him.. it was 3 of us at my place.. 3 best friends.. havin beer.. made some bbq..rented a movie...after we ate.. put the movie on... dudes Cell Rings.. he goes upstairs... comes back down with his chick!!! like WTF?!!
then not even 2minsgoes by.. and hes like " uhh.. yea man.. im pretty tired, and she has to work in the morn.. so we're gonna take off.."

im like... 1, i didnt invite her over, if she's got to work.. tell her to fuckin go home!!
2. everything was kool before she came by... we were all laughing and chillin'....

my other best friend looks over at me and she had a pist off expression on her face.. i dont blame her.

i mean.. this is my best boy, we got eachothers backs thu ANYTHING ANYTIME.. and he's playing me for some pussy!........OMFG!
it pisses me off..so i just call in a blue moon.. or wait for him to call...its pointless calling him..
but since im such a good bro... if shit with him and his woman go under water... of course i'll be there... and he'll reolizethem all the shit he's been missing out on just to get a little nookie... EVERY NIGHT!
pathetic..

 

[Shallow Hal]

Hal, here are some questions for ya:

1. If you havent seen a good bro in WEEKS(if not months), does it bother you?

2. If a good bro breaks long time "friend" traditions.. would it bother you?

3. If his g/f tells him that he can't be your friend anymore (sad attempt at control)...would it bother you?

Just so you know I am guessing I am at least ten years older than you. I am married and have my first child on the way. I am trying to give you a different perspective on this but I understand how you feel. To answer your questions

1. No it does not bother me. There are 2 friends of mine I have been close with since high school that I hardly speak to anymore. After college they got married and had a few kids, I moved to another state. Now I am married and it is hard to find time to talk with them. It happens in life.

2. Again no. Those traditions are going to be broken at some point. It happens, it is just how life goes.

3. Not really. If she is trying to control him then that is his problem. But what you see as her trying to control him, might be her thinking his freinds are a bad influence. And what I mean by bad influence is that they want him to hang out with boys all the time as opposed to spending time with her.

Like I said I do understand what you are saying. But I think your friend may by just trying to figure out what is important to him. I would cut him some slack.

 

[sigweed]

this also drives me nuts. I purposefully go out of my way to make sure I'm fair to all parties concerned. My best friend turns into the guy who you NEVER see as soon as he gets a gf and i hate that with a passion. My roomate is also a whipped bitch to any girl who will talk to him so i'm getting too much practice dealing with this

 

[HS Lifter]

Just so you know I am guessing I am at least ten years older than you. I am married and have my first child on the way. I am trying to give you a different perspective on this but I understand how you feel. To answer your questions

1. No it does not bother me. There are 2 friends of mine I have been close with since high school that I hardly speak to anymore. After college they got married and had a few kids, I moved to another state. Now I am married and it is hard to find time to talk with them. It happens in life.

2. Again no. Those traditions are going to be broken at some point. It happens, it is just how life goes.

3. Not really. If she is trying to control him then that is his problem. But what you see as her trying to control him, might be her thinking his freinds are a bad influence. And what I mean by bad influence is that they want him to hang out with boys all the time as opposed to spending time with her.

Like I said I do understand what you are saying. But I think your friend may by just trying to figure out what is important to him. I would cut him some slack.

lusting in the moment.... and disregarding and avoiding anything that might be a distraction to it....