how do you deal with a BROKEN HEART?

[madbomber31]

dont judge me, i have said bits and pieces of my situation, but never the entire story... i just wanna kknow how you deal with a broken heart.. the gym was my way, but my shoulder is fucked once again, so i am stuck with cardio and legs... with a little bit of arms and abs in there... no back, shoulders, or chest training... i couldnt make it through them anyway, i get sick just looking around and thinking.

 

[KAYNE]

EXACTLY HOW LONG WERE YOU DATING THIS GIRL?

 

[Hannibal]

Time, time, and more time. I've been through it recently and there is NO easy way really. You can try to distract yourself, but in the end your mind will always return to it. The best you can do is surround yourself with family and friends

Good Luck MB

 

[karson]

dude

broken hearts never fully heal. time is the only thing that can help you, but it will be hard.....

 

[Gilbyag]

I fuck as many girls as I can for as long as I can... that always helps me. It eventually gets old or you find one you really like.

 

[decibel]

the only way to deal with it is to keep yourself busy. don't sit around and think .

go out with friends as much as you can. surround yourself with people at all times -- and of course, meet other girls!! going out on a date with a girl you just met is a really cool feeling. you should look forward to that instead of looking back.

whatever happens, it'll take time, there's no way around it, but don't freak out. you'll get over it and you know it, just ... relax !!

 

[MattTheSkywalker]

Time is a good one.

Another good one is to start your own business. You would be amazed how hard it is to think about women when you work 24 hours a day.

Seriously though: time and an active social life are the best answers. Don;t sit still - it;ll make you nuts.

 

[HappyScrappy]

alcohol.
the cause and solution to all of lifes problems.

 

[Sassy69]

Happy - you have such clear insight into life...!

But seriously - give yourself enough time to "grieve" (you have to acknowledge the emotion, not ignore or bury it), and then move on. Keep yourself occupied. The thing is, if she bailed on you or whatever, it never would've worked anyway, so you didn't lose anything. If you would've stayed and suffered through the things that didn't work, you'd have wasted just that much more time before it fell apart - then you might have had more invested and more lost too. Life just sucks that way.

Its hard to fill the gap & familiarity that that person left - so try to find ways to fill it so it doesn't just feel like a big nothing. Don't wallow in it because people pick up on that and will want to stay away too - that just makes it harder to not think about it. Hang w/ your friends & family and see where you can contribute to their lives too!

OK everyone - big GROUP HUG!

 

[HappyScrappy]

whacking off a lot helps too

 

[Jimsbbc]

alcohol. alcohol. alcohol. alcohol. alcohol. alcohol. alcohol. alcohol. alcohol.

I don't think I would go on a 6 month bender. Find something to get into and stay busy, like Matt said. If you can't work out, get into something else. Spend time around friends too, that always helps.

 

[JohnyJuice]

smoke pot. drink beer. fuck her friends\family.

 

[Burning_Inside]

Ah yes, time is the greatest healer. i've been broken, healed, broken open again, healed up and broken again quite a few times, then you just eventually become desensitized to it, thankfully.

hey if that doesn't work, theres always super glue.

 

[madbomber31]

together 15 months or so... after 6 i wanted to marry her and figured i would end up with her... we went through more than many couples do... good and bad, but in the end of the day, we were there for one another...

i'd be much better if i could get some sort of answer from her. i got a fucking email, a cold heartless email... simple and to the point.. i met someone... I GOT A FUCKING EMAIL!!!!

 

[KAYNE]

together 15 months or so... after 6 i wanted to marry her and figured i would end up with her... we went through more than many couples do... good and bad, but in the end of the day, we were there for one another...

i'd be much better if i could get some sort of answer from her. i got a fucking email, a cold heartless email... simple and to the point.. i met someone... I GOT A FUCKING EMAIL!!!!

HOLY SHIT, YOU ANSWERED ME WITHOUT SOME SARCASTIC, INSULTING WORDS!!! MB---DO YOU LOVE ME NOW???

ANYWAY ON A REAL NOTE---ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT DJANE HERE? WELL, HER OR NOT, I'VE BEEN THROUGH THIS TYPE OF THING BUT I DID GET MORE THAN AN EMAIL. I REALLY DIDNT GET A SOLID ANSWER THOUGH. THE ONLY THING I CAN TELL YOU IS THIS: TAKE A SHOWER, WASH YOUR ACE, DRESS UP IN YOUR FINEST, SPRAY ON SOME SMELLGOOD, GO TO A CLUB OR BAR (OR A PLACE WITH A LOT OF PEOPLE), GRAB YOUR BALLZ, GO UP TO A FINE ACE CHICK (OR FAT AND UGLY) AND TALK TO HER!!! GET HER NUMBER!!! DO SOMETHING.

OR YOU CAN JUST CALL SOME CHICKS THAT YOU ALREADY KNOW AND TAKE ONE (OR MORE) OF THEM OUT!!!

YOUR HERO,
KAYNE

 

[madbomber31]

ya, its djane.. i got a phone call today after a very large email was sent... i was able to speak with her and ask what i wanted... that helped... i found out stuff but nothing really happened with her and the guy... a few kisses... enough to make me sick...

i'll be good to go i am sure... after all... FOOTBALL is 2 months away!!! and my room is being set up now.. i am all in the spirit now... new ps2 football comes out soon too... sweeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeet

 

[TxCollegeguy]

Honestly....What worked for me when I was in your shoes a year ago. Sex


Lots of Sex, sometimes cheap and meaningless, but sex. Throw all words tied in with relationships out the window. Go out with the guys, have fun and do anything you normally wouldn't do and all the things she never wanted you to do.

Cry, do it alone, do it with friends, wherever makes you feel comfy. It helps more then I realized when I was in those moods.

Discover new hobbies and interests, Find something that sparks your interest and learn about it.



What does all this shit really mean????Always have something to do. The less time you spend sitting around and thinking about it the better you will feel.
I would also suggest spending a week or so off the computer and out.

 

[velvett]

I write about it.

Edit it to death.

Take a long hot shower and have a meaningful relationship with my soft (hella soft) cotton sheets.

Yah, you laugh now...

But YOU have never felt my sheets.

HMMPH!

 

[madbomber31]

well V, since i have never felt your sheets... and the fellas are saying i need sex... and you say your sheets are magical... lets throw them together and have sex on your sheets.. i bet i'd be a happy camper then!

 

[TxCollegeguy]

MB I'm trying to throw you some emotional support here, but I can't throw anything more then that so I'll have to refrain from throwing V your way

 

[thefantom1]

A broken heart is not easily fixed.......if ever...and the older you get the harder the recovery...Im still recovering and its been 2 1/2 years...My first answer was alcohol...but after about a year of boozing every nite (yes a year) I got smart and said WTF??? Fuck that bitch.... she is the one fucked in the head..not I... so I quit the boozing and turned my attention back to the gym.... the change was amazing.... I found something that I could let my anger out on... I've had my share of sexual adventures since.......( I am a magnet for married woman........unbelievable) but that is not a cure..and can get you in trouble... you have to go back and look at the relationship and look at what was wrong with it....its hard to do but you must do it... then after I did this.. I used the old "Outta site outta mind" theory........ and this works great.... don't talk to her, don't call her and if she calls you don't pick up the phone... You are probably thinking "But if she calls she may want to get back together" Yeah maybe she does..but why would you go back??? So the next time she meets someone and "kisses" on him and dumps you it hurts twice as bad????? She totally broke your trust in her.......... she is NOT the person you thought she was...You have to think of her like cancer now.............what do you do with cancer??? You cut it out and throw it away........so it doesn't grow back..............

 

[madbomber31]

i hear ya there... and i am having a hell of a time understanding things, but i do... i dont understand why i would be told so much and then within 2 weeks she did what she did... i spoke with her on the phone today and it sounds like very little happened, but a kiss is a kiss... and i had a promise that would not happen while she was away... i guess she checked the board the other day, so she may see this... and i will refrain from showing any anger... sure i am hurt but i guess i hurt her too... the main thing wrong with the relationship in my opinion, was being apart... the distance destroyed so much... at least thats what i believe.. i also believe that this is what she wanted, a way out.

 

[Kryp2o]

Thefantom1 has some good points here. A broken heart is in a way equal to be in morning for the loss of a loved one. You just have to keep yourself busy for a while to get your mind off of her.

I know this well and if you keep hanging on to thought of it working out, then your world is going to come to a screeching halt. You become so obsessed with her to the point were nothing not even your own well being is important to you anymore.

Fantom1 mentioned that the older you get the harder it is to recover because you start to see life in a different perspective the older you get. We tend to place a higher value on everything thing that is a part of our lives such as a someone who we are in a relationship with and when they decide not to be a part of it anymore it becomes increasingly difficult to let go with age.

 

[madbomber31]

i think the main cause of my grief is the fact that until i found out about the new fella, despite my dating, i was 98% sure i was going to be marrying this girl... now, its hard to imagine not... i mean, i watch friends and see the wedding one where ross says the wrong name... i see julia roberts in best friends wedding... i dont want to be getting married to someone and look out at her and think "thats the one i really want".

 

[clune]

I fuck as many girls as I can for as long as I can... that always helps me. It eventually gets old or you find one you really like.

I 100% agree. will help you keep your mind of your major problem.

 

[supergirl]

girls are like buses.. a new one comes every 5 minutes... lol get over it baby... move on and have fun

 

[velvett]

I fuck as many girls as I can for as long as I can... that always helps me. It eventually gets old or you find one you really like.

Well, I must admit this answer explains nearly everything to me.

All I can say is... no wonder

 

[Latimer]

Marijuana and Jim Beam. Plus there's nothing better to get a girl off your mind than a new girl.

 

[strengthmonster]

She e-mailed you! She didn't even have it in her to tell you face to face. I am sorry but any girl that even kissed another guy whist she was with me would be history. I played that game many years ago when I was younger and learnt NEVER give them a 2nd chance.
Move on and take the advice everyone has given you. Even with injured shouldrs you can still train and work around things. Read my quote below.

 

[madbomber31]

i turned quotes off too many quotes are longer than the posts!!!!

i am moving on, i have no other options...

she couldnt have told me face to face, she is in vermont... i just wanted a phone call for that news.