How do u approach the other sex when interested

[the.gladiator1987]

They exist. trust me. They're rare but they're not impossible to find. The thing you'll realize when you get a girl that fits your basic criteria, is that there's still a lot more to it you want out of a partner. I've dated girls in the past two years ago that seemingly are great. good, honest , attractive,loyal women and
Some of them with great careers or about to graduate with some advanced degree.

But there's always more to it.

Yea, I know a girl is never gonna be perfect for you. But damn, as long as my basic criteria is met, then it will be on ME to learn to deal with the rest of the little shit, just like I would expect her to do with me.

But there are some basics I would like. All my serious g/f's have been raped, and one was cutting themselves before they were with me and during. They all had daddy issues. I def dont see myself with my baby mama for the rest of my life. I dont deserve that bullshit. Gonna go to the CS office this week and get that shit on paper!

 

[calveless wonder]

Im slowly learning to find a happy-medium between the two extreme of either being a complete asshole and being mean, or being too nice and forgiving them of any mistake right away.

I also have the mindset that I am better looking than most guys, so I shouldnt have to deal with this shit. But I do because im nice.

It's not as complicated as you make it out to be. I used to do the same thing when I was younger.

the whole putting pussy on a pedestal is absolutely true. You should just live by the general rule of "if xyz person did this to me how would I respond". Girls should never get a pass because they're girls. If a guy did of something insult or disrepectful (although in a different context) how would you react ?

If you follow the theory of treating women like anybody else, a human being, it has to apply both ways, both good and bad You can't treat them like a mythological diety

 

[the.gladiator1987]

sry, my basic EXTENSIVE criteria

lmao

 

[the.gladiator1987]

It's not as complicated as you make it out to be. I used to do the same thing when I was younger.

the whole putting pussy on a pedestal is absolutely true. You should just live by the general rule of "if xyz person did this to me how would I respond". Girls should never get a pass because they're girls. If a guy did of something insult or disrepectful (although in a different context) how would you react ?

If you follow the theory of treating women like anybody else, a human being, it has to apply both ways, both good and bad You can't treat them like a mythological diety

definitely dont put it on a pedestal. You are right about that. I guess Ive just never been on the pursuit to just fuck girls so Ive never had a lot of xeperience with this shit. I just meet a girl, hang out with her, she seems cool I date her,. There were plenty of girls I didnt date trust me.

Youre right about acting towards a girl like anybody else. No reason they are any better just because they have an awesome tight warm lil pussy

 

[calveless wonder]

we just crave those wild sluts

Naw.

Now that I'm getting older and closer to 30 I ask myself the question can I really picture myself with this girl 7 years or more down the road?

Can I have a good time just talking to them? Will I still feel attracted to them? Are we sexually compatible enough to keep things interesting? Is she committed enough to making sure she looks good? How's she around the family? etc

That is a LOT harder to find.

 

[-SD-]

But there are some basics I would like. All my serious g/f's have been raped, and one was cutting themselves before they were with me and during. They all had daddy issues.

So you require that all your GFs have been raped and daddy issues. thats not gonna really work long term rob

 

[the.gladiator1987]

nah bro im saying now i have a basic criteria and that doesnt include getting or got raped, lol

 

[AFeedz]

The less you act like you're hitting on us, the better chance you guys have with us. It doesn't matter how you approach us if that's your genuine personality.

The thing with acting a certain way to impress girls, and the same with girls who act a certain way to impress guys, is that eventually the act is going to be up. Eventually both parties will revert to their real selves and they'll both realize they're no longer attracted to the other...but it's because they never truly were. They were attracted to what the other person pretended to be for them.

If someone doesn't like who you actually are, fuck em. Someone will. Getting rejected early on is better than wasting time in a relationship you got in to before you knew the guy was a cheating douche bag and the girl was a greedy slut.

 

[-SD-]

The less you act like you're hitting on us, the better chance you guys have with us. It doesn't matter how you approach us if that's your genuine personality.

The thing with acting a certain way to impress girls, and the same with girls who act a certain way to impress guys, is that eventually the act is going to be up. Eventually both parties will revert to their real selves and they'll both realize they're no longer attracted to the other...but it's because they never truly were. They were attracted to what the other person pretended to be for them.

If someone doesn't like who you actually are, fuck em. Someone will. Getting rejected early on is better than wasting time in a relationship you got in to before you knew the guy was a cheating douche bag and the girl was a greedy slut.

Everyone says "just be yourself" and "be real" but aint nobody want to deal with anyone when that happens lololo

Putting up fronts for the win!

 

[iggy]

yeah, I agree with A on this one. Just be real.