How a wife is SUPPOSED to act!

[courtneybcca]

Everyone has to remember that this article was written in 1955... Back then women didn’t work... Unfortunately most families now have to have BOTH parents working to survive. Even then sometimes it is a struggle. So to expect your wife to do all those things is stupid because she is working just as hard as you... But in those days. The man brought home the money and the wife took care of the children, and the household. Which I believe is a fare. And actually for our children’s sake I believe this is better then going to daycare for 8-10 hours a day.

So if I was to have children, personally this is exactly what I would want... Otherwise I won’t have children because two full time careers’ is enough for a marriage to handle. People now take marriage WAY to lightly!! You can expect to get anything out of it if you don’t put any effort into it. Women should want to do those things for her husband, just like her husband should want to do things for her. TWO-WAY street!! It is suppose to be a partnership between two people, to get through life with your best friend, which you know you can rely on.

I believe most people just settle today. They just get married because they are lonely and they don’t marry the person they really want. So if you really don’t like that person all that much why would you go that extra mile to make them happy? So they get married, get sick of each other, and get divorced… Unfortunately that is what marriage has become now…

If I am to get married then I will have to find the perfect fit for me, be completely in love, and know deep in my heart that person feels the same for me. Otherwise what is the point? To walk around in life miserable because I have to go home and clean up some jerk’s shit, that I can’t stand. HELL NO!! I enjoy my own company way to much to do that… So if my “PERFECT” mate doesn’t exist then, my career and close friendships will be the most important thing to me. But if I am lucky enough to find (I think I have… but we will see) that perfect mate for me then “OUR” needs, wants, desires are the most important things in my life….

 

[tuc biscuit]

lol............women............lol

 

[artrius]

Everyone has to remember that this article was written in 1955... Back then women didn’t work... Unfortunately most families now have to have BOTH parents working to survive. Even then sometimes it is a struggle. So to expect your wife to do all those things is stupid because she is working just as hard as you... But in those days. The man brought home the money and the wife took care of the children, and the household. Which I believe is a fare. And actually for our children’s sake I believe this is better then going to daycare for 8-10 hours a day.

So if I was to have children, personally this is exactly what I would want... Otherwise I won’t have children because two full time careers’ is enough for a marriage to handle. People now take marriage WAY to lightly!! You can expect to get anything out of it if you don’t put any effort into it. Women should want to do those things for her husband, just like her husband should want to do things for her. TWO-WAY street!! It is suppose to be a partnership between two people, to get through life with your best friend, which you know you can rely on.

I believe most people just settle today. They just get married because they are lonely and they don’t marry the person they really want. So if you really don’t like that person all that much why would you go that extra mile to make them happy? So they get married, get sick of each other, and get divorced… Unfortunately that is what marriage has become now…

If I am to get married then I will have to find the perfect fit for me, be completely in love, and know deep in my heart that person feels the same for me. Otherwise what is the point? To walk around in life miserable because I have to go home and clean up some jerk’s shit, that I can’t stand. HELL NO!! I enjoy my own company way to much to do that… So if my “PERFECT” mate doesn’t exist then, my career and close friendships will be the most important thing to me. But if I am lucky enough to find (I think I have… but we will see) that perfect mate for me then “OUR” needs, wants, desires are the most important things in my life….

I agree with a lot of what you are saying, but I also believe that women are useful in the workplace. Its fine if she wants to be a full time mom, but women are just as talented as men, and can do just as much good work as we can. Its up to what is good for the family, and if it can be supported.

As for the split of responsibilities back in the 50s, I'm not arguing the fairness... I just believe that husband and wife should BOTH make the important decisions. The wife shouldn't be forced to sit back and simply accept whatever he tells her. That's simply abuse. Yes, there are areas where it is best to have one person in control, but not all of them. (Why have 2 people do one person's job?) Total subservience has no place in marriage. EVER. (notice the "total") Like I said before, the man and woman are equal.

 

[courtneybcca]

I agree with a lot of what you are saying, but I also believe that women are useful in the workplace. Its fine if she wants to be a full time mom, but women are just as talented as men, and can do just as much good work as we can. Its up to what is good for the family, and if it can be supported.

As for the split of responsibilities back in the 50s, I'm not arguing the fairness... I just believe that husband and wife should BOTH make the important decisions. The wife shouldn't be forced to sit back and simply accept whatever he tells her. That's simply abuse. Yes, there are areas where it is best to have one person in control, but not all of them. (Why have 2 people do one person's job?) Total subservience has no place in marriage. EVER. (notice the "total") Like I said before, the man and woman are equal.

I believe women are very useful in the workplace and very much needed!! but I also believe that children need there mothers around... so there is a fine line there... during the development stage (until school) I believe the wife should be home!! but after that or before then work... But don't expect her to do all those things if she is also working... But if the man works and the wife stays home then she should take care of the house... So I totally agree with it being fare.. Not sure if you really read what I wrote... marriage is a PARTNERSHIP!! that is the only way it can work...

 

[artrius]

I believe women are very useful in the workplace and very much needed!! but I also believe that children need there mothers around... so there is a fine line there... during the development stage (until school) I believe the wife should be home!! but after that or before then work... But don't expect her to do all those things if she is also working... But if the man works and the wife stays home then she should take care of the house... So I totally agree with it being fare.. Not sure if you really read what I wrote... marriage is a PARTNERSHIP!! that is the only way it can work...

Oh I did read Indeed it is a partnership. You are right, though, that SOMEONE that you want to be watching your kids is doing it... which would be preferably one or both of the parents. It is a more controlled environment, and you can instill some important values into your child that way. Not that its impossible otherwise... but there are always people that may not care for your child the way you want when they watch them.

It is a difficult balance to maintain; spending time with your family, and at the same time providing for them. That's why you work together. That's the only way it can work? That's the only way I would WANT it to work.

 

[dirty~d~]

If I ever became a stay at home wife (which will never happen) I would have no problem doing most of the things on that list. If both spouses work then that list won't work.

And I do know my place... The Queen gets to sit where ever she wants.

 

[artrius]

If I ever became a stay at home wife (which will never happen) I would have no problem doing most of the things on that list. If both spouses work then that list won't work.

And I do know my place... The Queen gets to sit where ever she wants.

Isn't the king in most monarchies these days just a figurehead anyways? At least I think it is in the UK.....

 

[artrius]

Women view sex as a bargining tool.

heh well lets just say that doesn't work on me

 

[Rex]

its just something from the 50's, thought it was amusing people actually thought that way. of course, that was before the civil rights movement....

Good times.....good times...

 

[courtneybcca]

heh well lets just say that doesn't work on me

that is horrible and another example of women marrying the wrong mate... SEX is WONDERFUL!! if you are using it as a bargining tool WTF.... how can people live there lives like that