Oh holy god bro....how old are you? please tell me your young and haven't shat your best years down the drain of ridiculous adherence to theology. Look, I respect what you're looking for......and I respect you have standards OTHER than sex, this is how it should be. But bro..... sexual compatability is one of the biggest aspects of a relationship, please beleive, please beleive, please beleive. I'm not just talking about the honeymoon phase either......you'd better be sexualy compatible with your wife for the "long haul". You CANNOT judge this without having sex with the woman. Unfortunately human nature makes us put on our best face for someone we hope can make us happy. Which means that it is NEAR IMPOSSIBLE to judge the other person worthy of a life long committment without living with the person day in and day out for "at least" a year......do this and "maybe" you can get away without having sex, although I would try that too...but that's me. You have to know the person INSIDE AND OUT BEFORE YOU PUT THE RING ON HER FUCKING FINGER!! Please do not adhere to the machine and become a good little breeder by miserably adding your 2.5 children to the general population. I am absolutely sure you have outside pressures acting on you too......don't listen to them, you are your own man. You don't need some sniveling little shits in christian discussion groups reinforcing a way of life that almost takes you OUT of the equation.....as if you have really no right to make your own choices and decisions because you are a product of christianity and therefore must propagate it.......barf. You are a "man"......and a "man" sits back and thinks for his-fucking-self!! No book, no man, no nothing supersedes "YOU"......it's your journey. If you come to the same conclusions.....so be it, that's you. But get every force out of your life that tries to direct you in this way or that.......get it out now, "TRUST ME"!!