Have you ever loved someone so much.....

[The Bigdawg]

but you realize that you will never get along?

Its the worst feeling in the world. More then anything I wanna see her happy and be happy myself but I just don't see this happening as husband and wife for us.

I love Mrs. Bigdawg more then words can express, she is the most beautiful women that I have ever met. I know also know she loves me but it just seems that we will never be able to get along or agree on certain things.

She is one way about things and I am another, its not that either one of us is right or wrong, its just who we are as people and some things you just can't change and will always cause problems.

We can have some great times together but the same ole shit seems to always surface.

It kills me to see the hurt on the women I love, the mother of my child and I honestly believe that she hates the hurt she causes me.

It sucks as so many times I had hoped that things could be different but the end is always the same.

I just hope for the sake of our daughter that we can be civil to each other and do what is right by her!

 

[SoKlueles]

sorry sweety
sometimes no matter how much you love someone, it isnt meant to be
you have a merry christmas ok?

 

[Lestat]

That's a tough one man... everyone has differences, even the tightest of couples, you are both individuals. Hopefully you both share enough common ground and have shares some common experiences together (fun ones) that makes you both want to continue to be with each other. Differences are fine, natural, healthy, and normal in so much as they do not ruin your happiness.

 

[superqt4u2nv]

It is tough Dawgy seems the same thing that attracts you two to each other also pulls you apart. I wish there was some solution or easy fix for you guys I really do. Both you deserve to be happy and it would great if it could be with each other.

 

[*MissFit*]

Yes hun happens all the time.. and u hope so much it will change

 

[foreigngirl]

me and my husband are different as night and day. If there is a will, there is a way too. IMO, these days some american women think they have way too much power in their hands and think only of themselves and not the kids.

Note - thats not the case with everyone ^^^^^

 

[Frisky]

me and my husband are different as night and day. If there is a will, there is a way too. IMO, these days some american women think they have way too much power in their hands and think only of themselves and not the kids.

Note - thats not the case with everyone ^^^^^

I completely agree with you FG.

First and foremost anything is possible BD. If you really want it to work there is a way... Did you two seek counseling?

 

[rudeboyja]

I think it's best you leave on good terms before you both start to resent eachother

 

[The Bigdawg]

I completely agree with you FG.

First and foremost anything is possible BD. If you really want it to work there is a way... Did you two seek counseling?

It has been suggested.

Its just so many things have happenend and been said by both of us, I can easily get past it and move forward, this is a lot harder for her. Not saying she is wrong or I am right for the way we are, it just makes it hard for two people to move forward.

 

[Frisky]

It has been suggested.

Its just so many things have happenend and been said by both of us, I can easily get past it and move forward, this is a lot harder for her. Not saying she is wrong or I am right for the way we are, it just makes it hard for two people to move forward.

i've been in that situation, recently but we both agreed to put the past in the past and work on making the future better.

You clearly love her and she loves you. You have a beautiful baby girl and if at all possible can make things work its worth a damn good fight. If you give up then you'll never know

Both of you need to sit and talk about how y'all will deal issues in the future, deal with disagreeing on things. Learn how to talk things out and meet half way.

A relationship is not 50/50 Its 100/100! Both of you have to give 100% to make things work.

You and yours are in my thoughts and prayers, may the New Year bring to you love, happiness and prosperity.

 

[MasterBates]

Don't quit

 

[EnderJE]

but you realize that you will never get along?

Its the worst feeling in the world. More then anything I wanna see her happy and be happy myself but I just don't see this happening as husband and wife for us.

I love Mrs. Bigdawg more then words can express, she is the most beautiful women that I have ever met. I know also know she loves me but it just seems that we will never be able to get along or agree on certain things.

She is one way about things and I am another, its not that either one of us is right or wrong, its just who we are as people and some things you just can't change and will always cause problems.

We can have some great times together but the same ole shit seems to always surface.

It kills me to see the hurt on the women I love, the mother of my child and I honestly believe that she hates the hurt she causes me.

It sucks as so many times I had hoped that things could be different but the end is always the same.

I just hope for the sake of our daughter that we can be civil to each other and do what is right by her!

So are you saying that she's available now?

Again, putting some humour in this serious thread.

Don't kill me.

Hell froze over and I'm with Erz. Go to counselling, it works wonders.

 

[MILF69]

I agree... if there is a will there is a way. But some things we have no control over and that is a hard pill to swallow sometimes. If it is meant to be it will be. Everything happens for a reason.

 

[H_T_]

yes. i love her so much i fucking hate her.

 

[musclemom]

Man, I'm sorry for you both, tripled because there's a kid involved. And I am truly sorry you're coming to such a realization during the holidays, that just blows completely.

Couples counseling can work, but you both have to want it to work (how many therapists does it take to change a lightbulb? Only one, but the lightbulb has to want to change). Marriage is all about compromise, short and sweet, a give and take. If you're both willing to compromise on sticking points the relationship can survive just about anything. But it sounds like your problem falls under what I jokingly call rule #1 for marriage "dog people can't marry cat people." My husband's ex-wife actually said it pretty well, "Opposites attract, but they don't last." You can compromise on spending habits, where to live, how high to keep the thermostat ... but you cannot revise your moral structure for your SO, no matter how crazy you are about them.

You can't change to make another person happy, and nobody can change for you.

 

[coldblue1955]

but you realize that you will never get along?

Its the worst feeling in the world. More then anything I wanna see her happy and be happy myself but I just don't see this happening as husband and wife for us.

I love Mrs. Bigdawg more then words can express, she is the most beautiful women that I have ever met. I know also know she loves me but it just seems that we will never be able to get along or agree on certain things.

She is one way about things and I am another, its not that either one of us is right or wrong, its just who we are as people and some things you just can't change and will always cause problems.

We can have some great times together but the same ole shit seems to always surface.

It kills me to see the hurt on the women I love, the mother of my child and I honestly believe that she hates the hurt she causes me.

It sucks as so many times I had hoped that things could be different but the end is always the same.

I just hope for the sake of our daughter that we can be civil to each other and do what is right by her!

yeah i had a first love back during highschool but she had kids. bummer.

 

[biteme]

I thought the witch was trying to keep you out of your daughter's life?

 

[milo hobgoblin]

yes.. my ex-fiance'

 

[DJ_UFO]

Sincerly the problem is marriage. That signature is fatal. I'm married but would never do it again. If you love someone you don't need a signature to prove it. That signature is what causes that sensation of "you have to be or do what I want or what I like" Without the signature, when you were just dating or even living together, there was a bigger respect for each other; respect for opinions, respect for likes, respect for personal freedom.
What you could do in the meantime is spend less time together and see less each other. Obiously keeping the contact but just to prove if the feeling is the same, stronger or weak.

 

[feisty11975]

but you realize that you will never get along?

Its the worst feeling in the world. More then anything I wanna see her happy and be happy myself but I just don't see this happening as husband and wife for us.

I love Mrs. Bigdawg more then words can express, she is the most beautiful women that I have ever met. I know also know she loves me but it just seems that we will never be able to get along or agree on certain things.

She is one way about things and I am another, its not that either one of us is right or wrong, its just who we are as people and some things you just can't change and will always cause problems.

We can have some great times together but the same ole shit seems to always surface.

It kills me to see the hurt on the women I love, the mother of my child and I honestly believe that she hates the hurt she causes me.

It sucks as so many times I had hoped that things could be different but the end is always the same.

I just hope for the sake of our daughter that we can be civil to each other and do what is right by her!

Just remember that everything happens for a reason!!!

Good luck!! I hope everything works out!

I want to wish you and your a very Merry Christmas!!!

 

[Phaded]

i love my girl more than i love anything in the entire earth.. i'd prob. kill anyone for her.. or myself.. so she could live.. dunno if thats a good way to put it.. but its all i can think of..

 

[AAP]

yes. i love her so much i fucking hate her.

I love you, but I just don't like you. Yep, been there, felt that.

 

[PBR]

Man, I'm sorry for you both, tripled because there's a kid involved. And I am truly sorry you're coming to such a realization during the holidays, that just blows completely.

Couples counseling can work, but you both have to want it to work (how many therapists does it take to change a lightbulb? Only one, but the lightbulb has to want to change). Marriage is all about compromise, short and sweet, a give and take. If you're both willing to compromise on sticking points the relationship can survive just about anything. But it sounds like your problem falls under what I jokingly call rule #1 for marriage "dog people can't marry cat people." My husband's ex-wife actually said it pretty well, "Opposites attract, but they don't last." You can compromise on spending habits, where to live, how high to keep the thermostat ... but you cannot revise your moral structure for your SO, no matter how crazy you are about them.

You can't change to make another person happy, and nobody can change for you.

good post...relationships have to run consideribly deeper than surface issues, material/physical comtemplations- in order to survive.
Realtionships that withstand and endure are not "DEALS"- they cannot be bought or sold, or won. They are seeded, and then cultivated.