Have any of you ladies tried Marriage counseling with your partner ? How did it go

[Big Rick Rock]

Did it work for you?

 

[SoKlueles]

When my ex husband and I split up...a few years ago, i wanted to go see a marriage counselor.but he wouldnt...and we got back together, and a few years later.last april to be exact. we split up again...this time its for good.

 

[jenscats5]

My ex hubby insisted we go to marriage counseling, then when we went, he insisted I was the problem & refused to go, so I went alone, got counseling for myself and a year and a half later, he announced he didn't want to go anymore (like he ever did!!) and wanted a divorce. Little did I know that he was dating a coworker for that entire time.......

 

[Raina]

A good friend of mine and his wife have gone on and off for years. It's something they schedule into their life as quality time and it helps them resolve a lot of issues. I think it can be a great benefit to couples....if both parties are willing to keep open minds, be honest, listen, and participate.

 

[Big Rick Rock]

Thank you for the reply ladies,
How about those "Couples Camps"... those programs where you go away for a weekend and do some relationship building and stuff? anybody ever try those?

 

[wend]

We've never needed counseling...we're pretty good at keeping the communication lines open ourselves. But I know it can help when a couple, both willing to work at it, need a third party to mediate or guide their discussions. (Usually when there are some hurt feelings involved.) But I know you do need to be careful to find the right counselor. Some of them are real idiots with their own issues.

 

[Big Rick Rock]

Oh the lines of communication are open alright . . .
It is what is going thru those lines that is causing problems . . . . . .

 

[jenscats5]

Oh the lines of communication are open alright . . .
It is what is going thru those lines that is causing problems . . . . . .

Static? Satellite interference? LOL

sorry, don't mean to make fun of a bad situation........communication can be tough, especially with those you are close with....I've never been to a couples camp & don't really know much about them....but I agree with Wend -- try & get a good counselor cuz some of them are waaaay off!

 

[wend]

Do you not like what you're hearing, or is it that she's not being careful of your feelings when she expresses what she needs to express? Either way, a good counselor would help. If the former, then a counselor would help you deal with her truth. If the latter, then a counselor would point out to her that she's not really expressing her truth in a loving way.

 

[velvett]

Oh the lines of communication are open alright . . .
It is what is going thru those lines that is causing problems . . . . . .

Hang in there babe.