GUYS...would you do this?

[Smurfy]

You are at the local grocery store at lunchtime. Youre in the express lane. You're right behind a woman you find to be quite attractive. You strike up a friendly conversation. You find out her first name and where she works and a little bit about what she does for a living.

A week later, you track her down and call her up at her office and say remember me, I met you last week in line at the grocery store.

Is this strange or what? And does this mean you are stalking the girl?

 

[TheProject]

It's a little odd...but I wouldn't call it stalking. Certainly dedicated.

 

[Smurfy]

Mind you, this person is a State Trooper. Easy to find people based on name/license plate etc.

 

[TheProject]

Mind you, this person is a State Trooper. Easy to find people based on name/license plate etc.

The guy is a state trooper?

Then I spose it's probably better that he found her based on information she gave vs. finding out at work...that would be creepy.

 

[gonelifting]

Not enough info, If you gave ANY hint of "find me" then it`s all good. Depends on how deep the conversation went.

PLEASE WOMAN! There`s just not enough info!!!

 

[Smurfy]

what do you mean, hint of "find me"????

it was a 4 minute conversation in the check out lane. that was it LOL

 

[nvrbuffenuff_girl]

That happened to my co-worker of mine. She went bowling, met a guy while picking out her ball, told him her name and place of employment. Then the following week he sent her flowers. She freaked but later ended up dating him. Much later they married.

 

[Smurfy]

I guess what I'm asking here is, have any of you guys ever done this kind of thing? Do you think it's over the top? I'm not sure what to think or whether or not I should be worried considering that if he saw my license plate, he can easily get my address.

 

[Smurfy]

That happened to my co-worker of mine. She went bowling, met a guy while picking out her ball, told him her name and place of employment. Then the following week he sent her flowers. She freaked but later ended up dating him. Much later they married.

ok that makes me feel better, although i have no intention of dating this man. i told him i had a boyfriend (not sure if that will deter him tho).

 

[gonelifting]

lol I don`t know. Maybe you said "Sure it would be nice to get in touch" <--- that took 1.5 seconds... and you may have told him where you worked in a way to try and help him know where you were TO GET IN TOUCH with you. It`s hard to explain but I can definately see a conversation going that way.

Like this... I work in that BIG RED building right across the street from the statue (you were talking about) oh yeah... If you look up at the 3rd floor you`ll see me. I`m usually there all day business hours... Except lunch time .lol (cute smile) lol and on and on.

So it could happen. Of course you did`nt say that but it happens.

 

[Dial_tone]

If he's good looking then he's just industrious. If he's ugly then he's a stalker.

 

[Smurfy]

in the future I will simply use my "club name" like I did when i was much younger at the clubs and stuff. i went by "Skye" whenever a guy would ask my name.

 

[Smurfy]

If he's good looking then he's just industrious. If he's ugly then he's a stalker.

he is an older (early to mid-forties) attractive black man Officer Jim Anderson LOL

 

[Razorguns]

if it's a guy. Yeah it's stalking.

Can you imagine if one day some ugly guy you were just being cordial to in a grocery store, starts calling you out of the blue, interrupting your important business meeting or whatever! or a call to your husband!

 

[Dial_tone]

Officer Jim spotted the ghetto onion.....no further comment.

 

[gonelifting]

I would`nt do that. It`s a little overboard if you ask me. I`m sure he`s done it in the past and has buddies who`ve done it since they`re in the police business. That`s not cool IMO.

 

[jerseyart]

I am impressed. He found out your name, what you do, and where you work in less than 4 minutes standing on a check out line at the market.

The guy has balls and mad skill.

Smurfy, it would really help the rest of us out if you could type the dialogue that led to this info being willingly volunteered by you. Not so much to help you out, as much as to give me an idea what to say the next time I'm standing on line somewhere

 

[Smurfy]

Officer Jim spotted the ghetto onion.....no further comment.

yeah....apparently he liked my goodies.

 

[Big Rick Rock]

Sounds a bit weird... I think maybe he did like you and just wants to strike something up with you.


Funny shit... I have a Club name also.

 

[Dial_tone]

I am impressed. He found out your name, what you do, and where you work in less than 4 minutes standing on a check out line at the market.

The guy has balls and mad skill.

Seriously, if you ever wanna find out if lumberg is boning anybody behind your back Officer Jim is the man to call.

 

[ringperm]

It occurs to me that the information you provided wouldn't make it difficult to accomplish what he did. I'd call it interest and as mentioned above, dedication. When you find someone attractive, It's not uncommon to want to know more about them, and hopefuly meet them again. If "first encounter" was a coincidence, then the chance for a second one is probably very slim. So you make an effort.
But then again, we're I'm from, stalking and harrasment isn't as common as in the states. We're to few for that So I'm probably not qualified to comment on your situation, but I'll do it anyway

 

[Razorguns]

this scenario looks so beautiful and poetic in movies, novels and stories.

However, in reality things look a lot more different:

Her: "Hello?"

Him: "Hi Amber. This is Charlie. Remember me? I met you couple days ago at the grocery store. I remembered where you worked so thought i'd say hi".

Her: "Oh. Uhh...okay. Um... Hi. What's up?"

Him: "Doing good. Busy at work. How are you?"

Her: "Um, Busy at work too."

Him: "Cool. (pause) Okay. So um, so what's goin' on?"

Her: "Nothing. Just work."

Him: "Cool Cool. Okay. Well, maybe i called at a bad time. I'll um, talk to you later".

Her: "Bye".

Her: "Jesus Christ Cindy. You won't believe the creep who just called me. Good god!"

 

[jerseyart]

Does anyone think it's a little weird to handcuff yourself to strange women you pass on the street until they give you their name and number?

 

[Smurfy]

I am impressed. He found out your name, what you do, and where you work in less than 4 minutes standing on a check out line at the market.

The guy has balls and mad skill.

Smurfy, it would really help the rest of us out if you could type the dialogue that led to this info being willingly volunteered by you. Not so much to help you out, as much as to give me an idea what to say the next time I'm standing on line somewhere

"Hi, could you pass me that separator thingy?"

"sure" (smile)

"I'm Jim by the way"

"Hi Jim. I'm Lara. Nice to meet you"

"Ahhhh. Lara not Laura. I get it. Thats very nice"

"Thank you. wow you even pronounced it right youre doing better than most people hehe"

"So, Lara, u ready for the holiday?"

"lol nah it's only monday, i have to get through the week first" (giggle i so amuse myself) "how about you?"

"well this is my first time having a holiday off. Im an officer but Im injured (points to leg brace on calf) so Im off this holiday it's a first for me"

"oh ok"

"So you like their salads here?"

"yeah"

"yeah i got a few here from the deli thought id try them all out"

(smile)

"so you must work close cuz you cant go far with a salad"

"yes i work in the Heights"

"so, what's in the Heights"

"Aunt Martha's/ Im a social worker"

"oh so you work with the kids, Aunt Marthas is well known around these parts"

"yeah well i work with the Foster Parents, i inspect homes for the state"

"ohhh ok so you go in and tell them whats wrong with their house"

"lol yep"

<getting my change from the check out girl>

"well nice meeting you Lara" big ol grin

"thank you, you too"

And i leave. Thats basically how it went. LOL I was just being my friendly but shy self.

 

[Razorguns]

You do know it's his JOB to interface with the public, and he's well-versed with just talking to strangers in general. It's part of "getting to know your community".

Plus good chance he's married or has a gf. Who wants to go through all that embarassment and trouble trying to hit on someone, only to find out "Yes. Hey, can i just be frank here for a second. I hate to tell you this, but i DO have a girlfriend". The embarassment of not knowing what to say back is immeasurable.

 

[Smurfy]

Seriously, if you ever wanna find out if lumberg is boning anybody behind your back Officer Jim is the man to call.

 

[Smurfy]

I was completely shocked and taken aback when he called me. I was like no f'ing way this guy just called me. Didnt know what to say. He tried to get me to say i was available this weekend LMAO no chance pal. he asked if i was married. he probably is married and the wife and kids are going out of town for the holiday and he wants a hook up or something. he wants to take me to lunch. thats not gonna happen either. but he gets an A+ for effort.

 

[Big Rick Rock]

"Hi, could you pass me that separator thingy?"

"sure" (smile)

"I'm Jim by the way"

"Hi Jim. I'm Lara. Nice to meet you"

"Ahhhh. Lara not Laura. I get it. Thats very nice"

"Thank you. wow you even pronounced it right youre doing better than most people hehe"

"So, Lara, u ready for the holiday?"

"lol nah it's only monday, i have to get through the week first" (giggle i so amuse myself) "how about you?"

"well this is my first time having a holiday off. Im an officer but Im injured (points to leg brace on calf) so Im off this holiday it's a first for me"

"oh ok"

"So you like their salads here?"

"yeah"

"yeah i got a few here from the deli thought id try them all out"

(smile)

"so you must work close cuz you cant go far with a salad"

"yes i work in the Heights"

"so, what's in the Heights"

"Aunt Martha's/ Im a social worker"

"oh so you work with the kids, Aunt Marthas is well known around these parts"

"yeah well i work with the Foster Parents, i inspect homes for the state"

"ohhh ok so you go in and tell them whats wrong with their house"

"lol yep"

<getting my change from the check out girl>

"well nice meeting you Lara" big ol grin

"thank you, you too"

And i leave. Thats basically how it went. LOL I was just being my friendly but shy self.

LOL LOL LOL


Dude, he used a fucking ages old cop trick to find out your info... the spelling of your name, where you worked and in what department... There was no need to use his Cop connection to find you, you gave him all the info he needed. Careful next time you talk to a cop.... Amateur.

 

[Dial_tone]

Come to think of it I did something similiar when I worked at a bank. A hot chick came in once to do some business. We had some typical chit chat during which I realized she worked for the same bank but downtown. A few days later I asked her out thru the interbranch mail. Unfortunately somebody put it in her desk w/o telling her so she didn't see it for like 6 weeks. We went out once but I wasn't feelin it. man was she hot tho, Eleanor Evans.

 

[Smurfy]

LOL LOL LOL


Dude, he used a fucking ages old cop trick to find out your info... the spelling of your name, where you worked and in what department... There was no need to use his Cop connection to find you, you gave him all the info he needed. Careful next time you talk to a cop.... Amateur.

LOL ok i admit to being completely naive. I need not talk to any strangers. SOmeone help me.

 

[jd_uk]

In my experience, women are far too concerned about whats normal and what's 'weird'.

You create your own reality, live a little.

 

[MattTheSkywalker]

not something i would do - I would just ask for your number in line, but nevertheless thoughtful of him.

 

[jerseyart]

Smurfy, thanks for sharing. My game usually goes something like this

(me) Was Up

(her) Hi

(me) Do you like knives?

(her) Excuse me?

(me) Do you like knives , you know, the things you cut stuff with, like meat and animal flesh and stuff.

(her) *glancing around nervously* Yes, I like them fine.

(me) Me too, that's weird, we have so much in common. I have lots of knives. I have big ones, and small ones, and sharp ones, and one that could peel off the skin of a living creature with almost no blood loss, it's that sharp.

(her) *shaking* That's really interesting.

(me) So you don't think I'm weird or anything

(her) No...not at all

(me) My ex thought it was weird. She would always say "Your weird". She's gone now

(her) Her loss I'm sure.

(me) Yeah her loss for sure. She will regret that forever. So you wanna go back to my place and I can show you my knives.

(her) I uh..well..uh...I can't right now.

(me) You don't like me, do you

(her) No, I like you fine....it's just...wait here...I'll be right back

But they never do. Women are such lying bitches

 

[string_bean00]

Dude's crazy.

 

[gonelifting]

I did`nt see where you told him you had a boyfriend in the conversation. and

You seem nicer than most people.

 

[Razorguns]

Any of you guys still remember that doorknob on the board last year who oogled over this bank chick and FINALLY got the "courage" to leave a note on her car? hahahahaha.

 

[Big Rick Rock]

Any of you guys still remember that doorknob on the board last year who oogled over this bank chick and FINALLY got the "courage" to leave a note on her car? hahahahaha.

At least he didn't pass the bank teller the note while she was working, that could have been misinterpreted...

 

[Dial_tone]

Any of you guys still remember that doorknob on the board last year who oogled over this bank chick and FINALLY got the "courage" to leave a note on her car? hahahahaha.

I asked about him a while back and everybody ripped me a new asshole. Apparently he died.

 

[PIGEON-RAT]

how the hell is Lara pronounced differently from Laura?

 

[SoKlueles]

was he at least nice looking?

 

[supersizeme]

omg i can't believe you did this lumberg

 

[Dial_tone]

how the hell is Lara pronounced differently from Laura?

lara as in "far-ah"

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

I would not do that, especially if I didn't ask for her #. It is etiquette to ask for the girl's number before making further private contact. Even if the chick was really attracted to the guy, it would probably lower her comfort level knowing he got her number somewhere other than from her.

 

[Sub-Zero]

You are at the local grocery store at lunchtime. Youre in the express lane. You're right behind a woman you find to be quite attractive. You strike up a friendly conversation. You find out her first name and where she works and a little bit about what she does for a living.

A week later, you track her down and call her up at her office and say remember me, I met you last week in line at the grocery store.

Is this strange or what? And does this mean you are stalking the girl?

he misread the signals...

he assumed by you telling where you worked you meant fo rhim to track you down

 

[Dial_tone]

Were you doing butt clench exercises in line?

 

[jerseyart]

he misread the signals...

he assumed by you telling where you worked you meant fo rhim to track you down

Exactly!

I'm the same way. If a woman takes a direct route home when I'm following behind in my car, I assume it's because she wants me to know where she lives. Why else would she. They're all teases

 

[Sub-Zero]

"So, Lara, u ready for the holiday?"

"lol nah it's only monday, i have to get through the week first" (giggle i so amuse myself) "how about you?"

"
"lol yep"

<getting my change from the check out girl>

And i leave. Thats basically how it went. LOL I was just being my friendly but shy self.

youa ctually said lol out in public?

 

[d3track]

if it's a guy. Yeah it's stalking.

and if its a gurl, well then thats just super

 

[pitbullstl]

"Hi, could you pass me that separator thingy?"

"sure" (smile)

"I'm Jim by the way"

"Hi Jim. I'm Lara. Nice to meet you"

"Ahhhh. Lara not Laura. I get it. Thats very nice"

"Thank you. wow you even pronounced it right youre doing better than most people hehe"

"So, Lara, u ready for the holiday?"

"lol nah it's only monday, i have to get through the week first" (giggle i so amuse myself) "how about you?"

"well this is my first time having a holiday off. Im an officer but Im injured (points to leg brace on calf) so Im off this holiday it's a first for me"

"oh ok"

"So you like their salads here?"

"yeah"

"yeah i got a few here from the deli thought id try them all out"

(smile)

"so you must work close cuz you cant go far with a salad"

"yes i work in the Heights"

"so, what's in the Heights"

"Aunt Martha's/ Im a social worker"

"oh so you work with the kids, Aunt Marthas is well known around these parts"

"yeah well i work with the Foster Parents, i inspect homes for the state"

"ohhh ok so you go in and tell them whats wrong with their house"

"lol yep"

<getting my change from the check out girl>

"well nice meeting you Lara" big ol grin

"thank you, you too"

And i leave. Thats basically how it went. LOL I was just being my friendly but shy self.

OMG....what a total slut.......

 

[gonelifting]

OMG....what a total slut.......

Yeah, I`m surprised he did`nt ask "how much?" I mean what the hell were you thinking?

Were there small children (or Tuc) around?

 

[Smurfy]

how the hell is Lara pronounced differently from Laura?

ok its Lara pronounced like car-uh, but with an L, it's Lar-uh. not lore-uh which is how Laura is pronounced. Now i know this is very complicated and i dont expect any of you to understand. LOL

SoKlue - well he was attractive but that doesnt mean i'm interested. i have my eye on someone else right now


and i didnt tell him while we were in line that i had a boyfriend b/c it never got that far. but i told him on the phone when he called b/c he asked if i was married LOL

 

[fyxgel2]

You are at the local grocery store at lunchtime. Youre in the express lane. You're right behind a woman you find to be quite attractive. You strike up a friendly conversation. You find out her first name and where she works and a little bit about what she does for a living.

A week later, you track her down and call her up at her office and say remember me, I met you last week in line at the grocery store.

Is this strange or what? And does this mean you are stalking the girl?

This makes you look desperate. You have to get her number or something before she walks away after the first time you meet her. In my experience women have been very 'touchy' about the stalking thing.

 

[Smurfy]

omg i can't believe you did this lumberg

LOL

 

[SoKlueles]

SoKlue - well he was attractive but that doesnt mean i'm interested. i have my eye on someone else right

u go girl!!!be happy but dont get stalked by the cop and if he is very interested, he may get pissed and make sure ur bf gets a ticket of some sorts

 

[Smurfy]

u go girl!!!be happy but dont get stalked by the cop and if he is very interested, he may get pissed and make sure ur bf gets a ticket of some sorts

damn girl you got alot of posts!

 

[Big Rick Rock]

ok its Lara pronounced like car-uh, but with an L, it's Lar-uh.

Her name is Lara, last name Phucking... Middle name Anale.. Lara Anale Phucking.

 

[SoKlueles]

damn girl you got alot of posts!

lol, dang theyve slowed down lately...dunno why, oh well

 

[Big Rick Rock]

First name Lara, last name Givens... Middle name Head... Lara Head Givens


Ok... I know this is corny.

 

[Smurfy]

LOL @ Rickety Rock

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

youa ctually said lol out in public?

 

[Sub-Zero]

ok its Lara pronounced like car-uh, but with an L, it's Lar-uh. not lore-uh which is how Laura is pronounced. Now i know this is very complicated and i dont expect any of you to understand. LOL

like lara croft, baby. *drool*

 

[crew9]

so we've finally met face to face smurfy

 

[BO-DEN]

sounds like hes desperate

 

[tiger88]

was she hot?


i didnt u know u where into chics

what she buy?

what kind of beer she buy?

 

[Smurfy]

was she hot?


i didnt u know u where into chics

what she buy?

what kind of beer she buy?

tiger, you nimrod, it was a man LOL

 

[daveyboy]

Personally I'd be leery of a guy who I'd just met doing that. I myself wouldn't have the balls to track down a woman & call her at work without her approval. I think you did good telling him that you already have a boyfriend.

 

[Dial_tone]

Meet him for a drink and keep him around in case you need to get out of a ticket.