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Girlfriend wants to be a sttipper, what do you guys think? I DON'T LIKE IT!!

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I have been with this girl for about 5 months, and we have had our problems. I never took any of it seriously and we seemed to just become stronger over the bullshit.

Now last night she tells me that she wants to get a new job, a new job doesn't sound too bad. She is a bartender in an upscale italian restaurant, but now she wants to work in a fucking STRIP CLUB. And personally i don't like it one bit. Its not a trust issue becuase she has not given me any reason not to trust her, but i don't think it is the point. I have been very good to her, better than i have treated any other woman and i don't think it is repectful to me....

I have dated strippers before and would have never consider making them a girlfriend. Just becuase of the life style the lead....
I have been to many strip clubs and to be honest, how can anyone repspect a woman who works there.(no offence to any women who work in strip clubs, just my opinion and own past experiences with strippers)

My questions is this, i told her that if she is going to work there then she is picking her new job over me. And i wrong for this, am i being selfish, or do you guys agree?

So what is the deal and i being an ASSHOLE or do you guys agree?

(and no i will not post any pics....perverts. :D )(PS: yeah i am a mind reader)
M56M
 
FreakMonster said:
Bro, I agree I would never let my girl strip!

Where are her morals?

If she takes the job just dump her ass!!!
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THANK YOU!!! i need to hear someone fucking agree with me. Her morals i have no fucking idea, how about the fucking respect she should have for me!!!

M56M
 
Hey, bigman... everyone knows by now how I feel about this shit. I can't stand my gal to wear really tight clothes when she goes to work... and she's an OPTICIAN!!

Good Christ... if my gal was to strip... it wouldn't take 30 seconds to make the decision to bolt.

I'm really sorry to hear about the situation, my man. It's got to be hard.

And yes... you are bein greedy. But that's a good damn thing. Good shit... why would ANY guy who cared about his gal, want 50 guys a day looking at her body, wanting to fuck her? That's gut wrenching.

And why would she need that sort of attention anyway? You obviously care about her... why isn't that enough?

I'm sorry, man. That's gotta be hard.
 
I wouldn't go for it either. Just start stuffing ones in her undies the way SSME stuffs black cocks up his ass and she will rethink her position.
 
Decisions in a serious relationship need to be based on the comfort and agreement of both people. If you aren't 100 percent for it, and don't want to bargain for something you want in exchange for her to do it, then she shouldn't do it.

Also, fuck no -- I would not want my lady up there stripping. Not because I'm jealous or possessive or whatever, but because I think higher of her than that and want better for her. Also, her up there shaking her ass would eradicate any sense of intimacy that there was in the relationship. Additionally, I would consider it a 'gateway' lifestyle -- one that could very well lead to other bad things.
 
I say let her strip..think of all the mad money she could be raking in..plus if this is someting she wants to do and you tell her NO, then she;s liable to bolt anyway.
 
Bro, I am telling you. If you can help it, don't let her. If she demands to and does it anyway, get rid of here. Seriously!
I dated a stripper and I am telling you. After she is around all those guys all the time and rubbing all over them, it slowly gets ingrained into their mind that it is ok to be with other guys......believe me, it will happen..........All strippers get messed up in the head....avoid it if you can. You will save yourself lots of grief and worry down the road.......Good luck
 
Budman said:
I say let her strip..think of all the mad money she could be raking in..plus if this is someting she wants to do and you tell her NO, then she;s liable to bolt anyway.
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You can't flat out tell somebody no, you have to tell them that you are not behind it, that it will effect you in such and such ways, and that it could quite possibly lead to the end of the relationship. They make the decision.

Besides, if she knew he didn't want it and she bolted, so what? No loss in my book...
 
It really doesn't matter how any of us feel, it matters how you feel. And obviously you don't like the fact that she wants to strip. Go with your gut feeling, it's usually right.
 
Man you guys are insecure..

1. If you think your girl would cheat on you, regardless of whenther she is in a strip club or not then you shouldnt be with her.

2. I will agree that MOST strippers are fucked in the head. However, I believe that most of them were that way prior to this profession.

3. You have to make a distinction here, and it is pretty easy to make, If your girl enjoys stripping then you are in trouble. Conversely, If she doesnt enjoy the attention, but simply the money then you are in business. 95% of the girls are there for the attention and drugs, but there is a small minority that views it simply as an easy way to make a lot of money.

4. I personally know of 2 strippers that went into to profession with strong relationships, 1 is married, who after 2 years are still in comitted relationships where no one has cheated.

5. I live in a Medium sized Midwest town and these girls make over 200,000 dollars a year working 6 hours a night 3 to 4 nights a week. Oh , and you are only taxed on what you claim. There are no paystubs paper trail etc for taxes.. So that is Akin to making 300,000 or so a year for 20 hours per week.

If you are confident in your relationship, and you trust her then dont worry. If you are worried then you probably shouldnt be in the relationship anyways.

I cannot believe how insecure some of you guys are, maybe it is true about bodybuilders trying to compensate, fact is, if your girl wants to cheat on you she will, and she is a lot less likely to do it if there are 200 other people around.

Peace
 
Big Brotha-
Guy, If your girl looks good enough to make any money then there are 50 guys that look at her and want to fuck her a day anyways. (So that point doesnt seem to valid) If she doesnt look good enough then she shouldnt waste her time anyways. But you did prove my point in your last comments. If she is doing it for the attention then you are in trouble, but if she is doing it cause she can make a quarter mill a year not doing shit then you are fine.

Shit If i could make 500-1000 bucks a night working a few hours tax free? You better believe I would be up there shaking my big chiseled ass like a champ, dreaming of what I was going to spend the money on.
 
Fuck no, stick with your ultimatem. If she still gets the job, shes shown you her true colors and you can end it before it gets any more serious
 
Machine

Well if you cant take money to the grave then why do you even work? Go live on a beach somewhere like a apeman.By your logic... your muscle is going to decay when you die anyways so why work out????? You are just insecure and are scared that your girls will find something better out there. Shit, you guys must have no skills or confidence in yourselves. I am not saying it is for everyone, but just because you know your girl is a slut and will screw anyguy that throws her a few dollars , doesnt mean that they all are.. Take the money if you trust her, If not throw her away.

Machine, the part about the girl being a slut wasnt directed at you. So dont take offence. ( We all know you like boys anyways) kidding bro.
 
i say kick her ass to the curb... shit if i had a man, there is no way in hell he would be dancing at male revues... i don't share!!! And it is not jealousy, it is possessiveness LOL what is mine is mine and don't fuck with what is mine :mad: grrrrrr baby.. sorry must be the gear speaking :D
 
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I am not insecure, she knows i have dated strippers in the past and do not respect that shit or that business. And yes it fucks a bitch up in the head to be a stripper. Just her knowing that i do not respect it should be enough. And she knows that if money were an issue i would give it to her, i make more than enough not to help her out of problems, i don't mean shoppint sprees i mean problems...

what can i say, it me or the job and if she don't like it, i will find someone who RESPECTS ME!!!

M56M
 
Guess it is time to realize the relationship is not going to work. Drop the emotional ties and lower your morals. Just have fun with her now. Hang out at the club and try to get her in bed with a couple other girls and you. Parlee(sp?) this into play!
 
Checkmatebloated said:
Guess it is time to realize the relationship is not going to work. Drop the emotional ties and lower your morals. Just have fun with her now. Hang out at the club and try to get her in bed with a couple other girls and you. Parlee(sp?) this into play!
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LOL...believe me i wish it was that easy, i thought about it too.(thats the real funny part), but in all actuallity i care about her too much.

M56M
 
dont let her...... turn the situation around on her, and ask if she would like it, if she says she wouldnt care, she's ful of shit. tell her its bc you care about her :D
 
So Dsnuts... are you saying if she blows cock for $1,000 a shot, and does 3 or 4 a week.. that's okay. As long as she doesn't do it just because she wants to?

I don't understand that mentality. I would never survive the love of my life showing it like that to people. Whether it was for money, attention, fame, or if it cured some disease.

I could care less about money. I'd rather be poor with the woman I love being with me and ONLY me, than be the richest man alive, but 10,000 guys a year get to see my love topless.

Ain't no way in hell.
 
M56M said:
So what is the deal and i being an ASSHOLE or do you guys agree?
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You are not being an asshole.

You will tell her no, and if she refuses, you will leave her.

Don't listen to the shit that some of the women on the board are bound to tell you: "It's her body! You have no right to tell her what she can't do with her body!" OK... THAT IS TRUE. It is her body, she can do whatever she wants with it, and you have no right to stop her.

You aren't stopping her. She has your 100% permission to go ahead and be a stripper - without you.

Likewise, YOUR body is YOUR body - and you can choose to take it as far away from her as you wish should she chose to become a whore.

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Have you ever seen the dudes that date strippers? I'm not talkin' the ones bangin' them---hell, that's everybody, I'm talking about the guys that come in and pick those bitches up, drag their friends in to watch her, etc. y'know proud of that shit. These fuckers are either losers who worship those chicks or these cheezy coke & X dealers who look like they're trying to be Johnny Las Vegas or some stupid shit-------and I'm not even talking about the trailer trash skank strippers.

If she's compromising herself enough to go titty strip, you gotta ask yourself, what are her morals when it comes to cheating, raising kids, using your credit cards, ect.
 
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Warik said:


You are not being an asshole.

You will tell her no, and if she refuses, you will leave her.

Don't listen to the shit that some of the women on the board are bound to tell you: "It's her body! You have no right to tell her what she can't do with her body!" OK... THAT IS TRUE. It is her body, she can do whatever she wants with it, and you have to right to stop her.

You aren't stopping her. She has your 100% permission to go ahead and be a stripper - without you.

Likewise, YOUR body is YOUR body - and you can choose to take it as far away from her as you wish should she chose to become a whore.

-Warik
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Thats how i feel, i did not tell her ONCE that she couldn't do it. All i said is that i will not support it and a large reason is becuase i was in that scene once before so i have ALOT of reason not to respect it. And if she can't respect that, then she doesn't respect ME and i can't be with her.

M56M
 
dsnuts-

a lot of what you say makes sense, but you're ignoring one thing: what if the guy just doesn't want other guys seeing his girlfriend naked? Put trust aside and pretend he's not worried about her cheating on him. How many of us can honestly say that it wouldn't bother us if some dudes checked out our girl naked. I mean come on, isn't part of having a girlfriend knowing that there are certain things she sets aside for you alone?
 
In all honesty let her make her decision, she will realize her loss and then it will be too late. Money is a great thing, but its not love. Like Big Val said, you can have all the money in the world but if you don't have someone you love it ain't shit. She just showed me that money was more important than me.

M56M
 
Satanic Goatslayer said:
Amputate all of her appendages, spray her with mace, and tie her torso to the stripper pole.

Play tetherball with your friends.

Walk on the line.
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thats an option too....i guess. LMFAO!

M56M
 
dsnuts said:
Machine

Well if you cant take money to the grave then why do you even work? Go live on a beach somewhere like a apeman.By your logic... your muscle is going to decay when you die anyways so why work out????? You are just insecure and are scared that your girls will find something better out there. Shit, you guys must have no skills or confidence in yourselves. I am not saying it is for everyone, but just because you know your girl is a slut and will screw anyguy that throws her a few dollars , doesnt mean that they all are.. Take the money if you trust her, If not throw her away.

Machine, the part about the girl being a slut wasnt directed at you. So dont take offence. ( We all know you like boys anyways) kidding bro.
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Ahhh fuck -- didn't want to get dragged into a debate on this one. You're getting a little too simplistic on the logic. My not wanting my wife to strip is not based on insecurity or a fear that she will find someone better -- it's based upon, gasp, my morals and outlook on life. If your outlook is different, fine, but don't try to minimize my beliefs by labeling me as something undesireable that I'm not, hence giving more power to what you believe in.

Yeah, I know morals is a dirty word in today's selfish, money-based, do what feels good, instant-gratification society. And I'll be damned if I know how I ended up with them. Won't give them up though. Been down that road and got burned.

I can't quantitatively define every reason why I don't view stripping as a profession of high morals. Instinctively, I dislike it. Stripping in many instances is an act of self degredation -- before you say otherwise, ask yourself if most women would smoke a cig with their pussy, grind on some fat slob's lap, crawl all over some dirty bar floor, etc... Not to mention, the drugs, the booze, the smoke, the utter banality and brainlessness. Not saying all strippers are fucked up druggies, but enough of them are to make the environment bad for ones that are not.

Things that don't contribute to the human spirit take it away. Some things take more than others. I want better for the woman that I love with everything that I have. It's not because I'm insecure or because I think she'll leave me, it's because I love her and want the best for her.

I think that if people want to strip, fine. But don't pretend that it's not detrimental to a serious relationship. You can't sell sex all day and maintain intamacy in a relationship. And fuck the trust issue, there it is in front of you -- your chick rubbing her ass on some guy's sausage.

BTW, I have been offered a job to strip. Actually, to strip and dance in a cage at a local club. $500 a night for a few hours work. My wife was also offered a job to strip at the premiere strip club in the area -- she probably would have made a ton more than I could have in the cage. We chose not to. Could we have used the money? Hell yes. Will we live without it? Of course.

And every time I look in my little girl's eyes or put my baby son to sleep in his crib, I know we made the right decision.
 
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Satanic Goatslayer said:
Amputate all of her appendages, spray her with mace, and tie her torso to the stripper pole.

Play tetherball with your friends.

Walk on the line.
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don't you think the mace thing is a little excessive...?
 
I really hope it works out for you. The fact that she's even entertaining the thought of entertaining the thoughts of other men, isn't a good sign, and to me is very sad.

I hope she realizes what she has in you... and makes the right decision.
 
Originally posted by TheMachine

Ahhh fuck -- didn't want to get dragged into a debate on this one. You're getting a little too simplistic on the logic. My not wanting my wife to strip is not based on insecurity or a fear that she will find someone better -- it's based upon, gasp, my morals and outlook on life. If your outlook is different, fine, but don't try to minimize my beliefs by labeling me as something undesireable that I'm not, hence giving more power to what you believe in.

Yeah, I know morals is a dirty word in today's selfish, money-based, do what feels good, instant-gratification society. And I'll be damned if I know how I ended up with them. Won't give them up though. Been down that road and got burned.

I can't quantitatively define every reason why I don't view stripping as a profession of high morals. Instinctively, I dislike it. Stripping in many instances is an act of self degredation -- before you say otherwise, ask yourself if most women would smoke a cig with their pussy, grind on some fat slob's lap, crawl all over some dirty bar floor, etc... Not to mention, the drugs, the booze, the smoke, the utter banality and brainlessness. Not saying all strippers are fucked up druggies, but enough of them are to make the environment bad for ones that are not.

I think that if people want to strip, fine. But don't pretend that it's not detrimental to a serious relationship. You can't sell sex all day and maintain intamacy in a relationship. And fuck the trust issue, there it is in front of you -- your chick rubbing her ass on some guy's sausage.

BTW, I have been offered a job to strip. Actually, to strip and dance in a cage at a local club. $500 a night for a few hours work. My wife was also offered a job to strip at the premiere strip club in the area -- she probably would have made a ton more than I could have in the cage. We chose not to. Could we have used the money? Hell yes. Will we live without it? Of course.

And every time I look in my little girl's eyes or put my baby son to sleep in his crib, I know we made the right decision.
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GOD DAMN that was a good post.

I don't think the nail could be hit on the head any better than that. My thinking exactly.
 
I think that you would first want to tie her to the pole, then mace her, then amputate her limbs. More poetic and less waste of effort. Once the first limb is amputated she'll be in shock and mace at that point really won't matter. I would also like to add that when you play tetherball, use the entrails as the tether. Just my .02 cents.
 
Iceman121 said:
Bro, I am telling you. If you can help it, don't let her. If she demands to and does it anyway, get rid of here. Seriously!
I dated a stripper and I am telling you. After she is around all those guys all the time and rubbing all over them, it slowly gets ingrained into their mind that it is ok to be with other guys......believe me, it will happen..........All strippers get messed up in the head....avoid it if you can. You will save yourself lots of grief and worry down the road.......Good luck
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Your 100% right bro. To the guy with the problem consider these things.

1. What is wrong with this chick that she would actually DESIRE a lifestyle like that one huh? My ex-wife was a stripper for 8 years, but she only did it because it was financially necessary. In fact, at the time, she was living with an abusive family(her Mom & step-dad), and the stripping lifestyle was actually an improvement on her situation at the time. However, after 8 years of that shit, she never had any money to show for it. It all went to drugs & her mooching-ass family.

2. If your girl is considering a job like this one, is she doing it because she is board and needs some exitement in her life? What will happen when stripping just doesn't cut it for exitement? In my ex's case it was drugs, sex with other strippers & their boyfriends, and all the shit that you wouldnt want to even remotely fathom someone you care about doing. ALL strippers are dikes dude(well, not the male ones I guess)& eventually a stray dick will work its way into their dikeage. And it wont always be yours!

3. If she IS the type who needs "exitement" in her life, then you are obviously not providing it for her(again if she is considering this). Do you really want such a high maintenance broad in your life?

My ex, when I first started seeing her, was at the "tailend" of her stripping days at the time & she quit doing that shit at my request which at the time I thought was awesome.....that she would be willing to give up the money, attention & all of it for me. After we were together for two years, I noticed that she would start doing things that she would normally do when she was working(shaving her twat bald for example)to try to get my attention. See this is what happens......After 2 years with ANY girl(no matter HOW hot she may be)it is almost impossible to give her the kind of sexual attention that you did when you first started banging her. I mean after THAT long you've popped her from every position, every angle, heard every moan, made her cum till her toes curl, etc, etc. The problem with strippers is that they get addicted to the attention that they would normally get while they are onstage----every night a different guy treating them like they are the"ultimate fantasy" as my ex used to say. That being the case, there isn't a guy on the fucking planet that can give any one woman THAT much sustained attention for that long. Its impossible. After my wife left me(coincidentally it was while I was out in TJ making a run that she decided to bail)she went RIGHT back to doing that same shit that she suposedly was through with. I knew then that it wasn't my fault & like I said before--NO man can give ANY chick that much attention! Dont let the same thing happen to you bro! Your basically fucked now because you dont want her to do it, but if you dont let her she will DEFINITELY hold it against you. Thing is though, if you DO let her do it, then she wont respect you at all, because you were too much of a pussy to stand up & tell her NO FUCKING WAY! Its a tough sitch dude. Good luck & I feel for you.....
 
Roiddog420,

Man sorry thats a really fucked up situation. Thats why i would never take a stripper seriously becuase i have been there and done that. I would have never make one my wife though, but hey you learn from your mistakes i guess. Sorry bro, that had to be tough.

And as for this....

roidog420 said:


Dont let the same thing happen to you bro! Your basically fucked now because you dont want her to do it, but if you dont let her she will DEFINITELY hold it against you. Thing is though, if you DO let her do it, then she wont respect you at all, because you were too much of a pussy to stand up & tell her NO FUCKING WAY! Its a tough sitch dude. Good luck & I feel for you.....
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Well bro, the way i look at it is this. I am not letting her do SHIT!!! If she wants to be a stripper let her do her own thing, i am not going to hang around and fuck with my life. There are a million woman out there who will not pull this shit and have the respect for me and more importantly THEMSELVES. So if she decides it then as much as it will bother me....i will have to go.

Crazy shit this world we live in.

M56M
 
M56M said:
Roiddog420,

Man sorry thats a really fucked up situation. Thats why i would never take a stripper seriously becuase i have been there and done that. I would have never make one my wife though, but hey you learn from your mistakes i guess. Sorry bro, that had to be tough.

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Well bro, the way i look at it is this. I am not letting her do SHIT!!! If she wants to be a stripper let her do her own thing, i am not going to hang around and fuck with my life. There are a million woman out there who will not pull this shit and have the respect for me and more importantly THEMSELVES. So if she decides it then as much as it will bother me....i will have to go.

Crazy shit this world we live in.

M56M
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AMEN bro! Good luck to ya & be sure to give her the fuck of her life before(& if)you kick her to the curb. That way that will be what she thinks of when she thinks of you! A little vindication before the fact..know what I'm sayin??
 
dsnuts said:
Man you guys are insecure..

1. If you think your girl would cheat on you, regardless of whenther she is in a strip club or not then you shouldnt be with her.

2. I will agree that MOST strippers are fucked in the head. However, I believe that most of them were that way prior to this profession.

3. You have to make a distinction here, and it is pretty easy to make, If your girl enjoys stripping then you are in trouble. Conversely, If she doesnt enjoy the attention, but simply the money then you are in business. 95% of the girls are there for the attention and drugs, but there is a small minority that views it simply as an easy way to make a lot of money.

4. I personally know of 2 strippers that went into to profession with strong relationships, 1 is married, who after 2 years are still in comitted relationships where no one has cheated.

5. I live in a Medium sized Midwest town and these girls make over 200,000 dollars a year working 6 hours a night 3 to 4 nights a week. Oh , and you are only taxed on what you claim. There are no paystubs paper trail etc for taxes.. So that is Akin to making 300,000 or so a year for 20 hours per week.

If you are confident in your relationship, and you trust her then dont worry. If you are worried then you probably shouldnt be in the relationship anyways.

I cannot believe how insecure some of you guys are, maybe it is true about bodybuilders trying to compensate, fact is, if your girl wants to cheat on you she will, and she is a lot less likely to do it if there are 200 other people around.

Peace
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:p :p :p Bro whats wrong with you?...i can give a fuck if she cheats on me or not, she aint fucking strippng. If she wants to leave me then fine, but as for morals, and us being happy, i wouldn't have it. Its not about cheating, its that if you love somebody or are in love, you dont feel like seeing your girl naked as ohter guys get hard ons...true, guys are going to look are your girl regardless...but stripping is going to only intimidate and induce guys to always be after her.

Bro, if you dont want your girl to strip, tell her nicely but tell her str8 out. I dont care what she sais, she isn't going to win this one. 95% of all guys woulndt want their "loved" one to strip. As for the other 5%, hey you do what you want...peace
 
I agree with dsnuts but of course I strip 1-2 days a week while going to school so I don't think it is that bad. I have a serious boyfriend of 2 1/2 years, he's also a student. Where I live it is law that the women wear pasties, and the only time we can wear thongs is on-stage otherwise we must wear butt covers. There is no touching allowed where I work. I'm not saying that you guys are right or wrong, we all have different opinions and motives. You can't beat the money. It allows me to pay my bills and buy supplements, etc. which I could barely afford before.
I bet you guys against this sure do like to look at Playboy, movies, Muscle mag spreads, etc. Am I wrong? To me it is all the same. Beautiful women and lots of money involved. Peace!
 
LEAVE THE BITCH

Ive been in the same situation.... I was against it and when I knew she was serious I began to see other women behind her back...Then it got bad when my buddies would stop by the club to check her out... Go ahead and dump her, The money is not worth it..
 
legs said:
I agree with dsnuts but of course I strip 1-2 days a week while going to school so I don't think it is that bad. I have a serious boyfriend of 2 1/2 years, he's also a student. Where I live it is law that the women wear pasties, and the only time we can wear thongs is on-stage otherwise we must wear butt covers. There is no touching allowed where I work. I'm not saying that you guys are right or wrong, we all have different opinions and motives. You can't beat the money. It allows me to pay my bills and buy supplements, etc. which I could barely afford before.
I bet you guys against this sure do like to look at Playboy, movies, Muscle mag spreads, etc. Am I wrong? To me it is all the same. Beautiful women and lots of money involved. Peace!
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"O, I'm just doing it to put myself through school". YEEEAAAAAAHHHHHH RRRRRIIIIIIIIIGGGghhhht!! Never heard that one before.
 
M56M said:
I have been with this girl for about 5 months, and we have had our problems. I never took any of it seriously and we seemed to just become stronger over the bullshit.

Now last night she tells me that she wants to get a new job, a new job doesn't sound too bad. She is a bartender in an upscale italian restaurant, but now she wants to work in a fucking STRIP CLUB. And personally i don't like it one bit. Its not a trust issue becuase she has not given me any reason not to trust her, but i don't think it is the point. I have been very good to her, better than i have treated any other woman and i don't think it is repectful to me....

I have dated strippers before and would have never consider making them a girlfriend. Just becuase of the life style the lead....
I have been to many strip clubs and to be honest, how can anyone repspect a woman who works there.(no offence to any women who work in strip clubs, just my opinion and own past experiences with strippers)

My questions is this, i told her that if she is going to work there then she is picking her new job over me. And i wrong for this, am i being selfish, or do you guys agree?

So what is the deal and i being an ASSHOLE or do you guys agree?

(and no i will not post any pics....perverts. :D )(PS: yeah i am a mind reader)
M56M
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you need to dump her now. my theory: just the mere fact that she wants to be a stripper is the same as being a stripper.
this is based on the info you provided.
 
M56M...I worked for over 10 yrs. in the strip club business as a bartender, a doorman, a manager. If you can keep yourself emotionally detached you can use the situation as checkmate said and have alot of action. If you have real feelings for the girl it is best to end it now before you get really involved with her. If not, I can say with 99.9% certainty you are going to get emotionally hurt. It is true that not all strippers are fucked up, but the vast majority are in one way or another. It may not be drugs or booze but many get just as attached to the attention and the money. They tend to become very self-centered and think the world revolves around them. Unless you are really into an open swinging lifestyle and don't mind sharing your chick with others, move on and find someone with your values. Don't compromise your values and don't think that you can change her. BTW, I can attest to all of the above from PERSONAL EXPERIENCE. good luck
 
Thank you all for the advice. Its nice to see that most of you guys see my point.

She said that she would never choose a job/money over me, well all i had to say was you should of thought about it before bringing all this bullshit up. She at this point does not want to strip but now i am making the decision if she is right for me anyway. Like it was mentioned above if she thought about it that labels it as "bad enough" in my eyes, too.

This is the 2nd major problem in 5 fucking months so to be honest, i think she has already had one too many chances. Its my life and i am young, but that doesn't mean i want to sit around and waste my time. Testing limits is one thing but being stupid is in its own ballpark.

M56M
 
You sound like you got your head on straight, man. I'm sorry to hear of all the shit. But just wanting that type of attention really is a bad sign.

Hopefully everything will work out... and if you truly want to be with her then I wish you the best. If you decide that she's not for you (which is what I would decide if my gal even CONSIDERED being a stripper) then I hope the damage done isn't too bad.

Just take care of yourself.
 
Big Brother Val said:
You sound like you got your head on straight, man. I'm sorry to hear of all the shit. But just wanting that type of attention really is a bad sign.

Hopefully everything will work out... and if you truly want to be with her then I wish you the best. If you decide that she's not for you (which is what I would decide if my gal even CONSIDERED being a stripper) then I hope the damage done isn't too bad.

Just take care of yourself.
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Thanks bro. I appreciate the support.

M56M
 
Funny about this thread cause I have had 2 conversations with 2 different people about this since last Saturday.

Last Saturday me and my buddy went to a strip club we frequent only for the 6 dollar beers of course.

Well one of the chicks who he knows was sitting with us and I told her straight up that this was not for her and she knows it. She wont get up on stage and is terrified to ask the guys if they want a dance. she tells me she wants to save for a house with hubby, well my attitude is go get a second job(both of them) at minimum wage instead. I just knew that this was not for her and the way she is as a person(sweet and naieve) if she was my wife no fucking way.

The second conversation I had was this morning with a good friend of mine who frankly I am in love with. I told her that I could not and would not respect her if she ever entered that industry(no she wasn't thinking about it but wants to take me out to a strip club one night). My reasons are the lfestyle that she could easily fall into in my opinion and all the other bullshit. She does have the body for it and can dance very sexy as well with alot of charisma, but like I said I would not tolerate it for 1 second. She was a bit pissed that I said this as she would not want to do it but I told her I do not care I wanted to let her know anyways.

So in my opinion even though I have dated strippers before and have nothing against em as most are fine women, HELL NO my women wont be doing that. Easy money but there is too much of a price to pay on all levels. Plus the only one looking at my woman's bare breasts would be me, her doctor/gynecologist and whatever her ex's saw in the past.
 
I hate to be in your shoes man. I know this must suck for you. My current g-friend was a stripper for 4 years but we met not too long ago while having a regular job. Although I don't bring it up I kinda look down upon her because she was a stripper. I couldn't handle it if she was still stripping. I couldn't handle other guys looking at her, throwing her money, getting lap dances, and lots of other shit that goes on. My lady says that when the night was over and they turned on the lights there was all kinds of goo on the floor because of girls giving hand jobs. I know she's thinking about the easy big money, but there's a high price to pay for that.
I hate to tell yo this, but you need to let her go if she does this. My girl said she didn't even want to have sex after working in a place like that. Ive been in those places and all I see is legs and pussy...fuck the face and the good person the chick may be. They are just pieces of meat out to milk men out of their money. Good luck bro. Do what's right for you and what ever makes you happy. If she has the looks and the body and wants to exploit that, have her get into modeling or something.
 
I can't understand why any one would ever want to strip. Now I don't mean to offend anyone who does, I just personally can't imagine ever doing it. Here are my reasons

1. I like holding up my head high and being able to freely admit what I do for a living, although it might not be glamourous.

2. I don't have to touch any man nasty man just cause I want the money in his pocket.

3. I am fairly shy, and would not like the idea of showing my naked body off to total strangers

4. I get enough affirmation of my looks and general "hotness"
from my significant other,(if he just tells me I am pretty once a day or so I am a happy camper)!

5. Any monetary gains I get for my work will be because I used my brain.

6. Any crazy dancing, grinding, general slutty type behavior is great with my special someone behind closed doors,.....anything goes there.

I would agree with these gentlemen that have expressed their opinion in that you need to give her a choice...stripping or you. I am not the only woman out there that thinks this way....and YES, some of them are very pretty.
 
kitKat said:
I can't understand why any one would ever want to strip. Now I don't mean to offend anyone who does, I just personally can't imagine ever doing it. Here are my reasons

1. I like holding up my head high and being able to freely admit what I do for a living, although it might not be glamourous.

2. I don't have to touch any man nasty man just cause I want the money in his pocket.

3. I am fairly shy, and would not like the idea of showing my naked body off to total strangers

4. I get enough affirmation of my looks and general "hotness"
from my significant other,(if he just tells me I am pretty once a day or so I am a happy camper)!

5. Any monetary gains I get for my work will be because I used my brain.

6. Any crazy dancing, grinding, general slutty type behavior is great with my special someone behind closed doors,.....anything goes there.

I would agree with these gentlemen that have expressed their opinion in that you need to give her a choice...stripping or you. I am not the only woman out there that thinks this way....and YES, some of them are very pretty.
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I agree with you 100%, she compares herself to me and saws well you drive a BMW...blah blah blah, well you know what i went to school, got a good job, and DRIVE A BMW!! Its not like i am a coke or Ex. dealer....i work hard for my money. She has already told me she will not do it, but after going through all this i am wondering if she is worth it in the first place....

M56M
 
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