getting married in 2011? maybe?

[*ebony*]

What if the man got the same advice lol

lol i thought the same thing

 

[chris302001]

yeah


lololol @ all the cringing at vaginal tearing. All you need is some skills with a crown stitch.

 

[crew9]

Bumping an old thread but out of curiousity what did you decide?

 

[cindylou]

 

[*ebony*]

Bumping an old thread but out of curiousity what did you decide?

I didn't. silence was definitely not the answer he anticipated when he proposed, he did get a bit a distant after that, pretty emotional couple weeks lotta hurt, doubt, insecurity/questioning about the reason behind my silence and all the above emotions, mixed with a whole lotta confusion and anger at myslef. He asked again since Jan and no matter how hard i tried to say yes, the word would get stuck in my throat, and i just ended up saying "i cant, not right now."

I feel guilty as hell because what if he stays waiting for my answer(if he doesn't change his mind) and I still cant say yes, or if i say no. And all this time he's been with me, he could've found something special with someone else who'd give him what he wanted.

we talked about all of this, and it seems to have brought us closer than tear us apart in a way. I often wonder if we are both using each other as anchors now, until the next sure thing came along and all this would end; Im definitely afraid of losing him, because what if i never get him back.

oh and my parents love him, my brothers dislike him, maybe not dislike but they certainly don't like him. His mother thinks he could do a whole lot better than me(has the girl all picked out for him) and that I'll never be good enough for her baby, his dad is awesome. he's an only child.

thats pretty much it.

 

[-SD-]

I didn't. silence was definitely not the answer he anticipated when he proposed, he did get a bit a distant after that, pretty emotional couple weeks lotta hurt, doubt, insecurity/questioning about the reason behind my silence and all the above emotions, mixed with a whole lotta confusion and anger at myslef. He asked again since Jan and no matter how hard i tried to say yes, the word would get stuck in my throat, and i just ended up saying "i cant, not right now."

I feel guilty as hell because what if he stays waiting for my answer(if he doesn't change his mind) and I still cant say yes, or if i say no. And all this time he's been with me, he could've found something special with someone else who'd give him what he wanted.

we talked about all of this, and it seems to have brought us closer than tear us apart in a way. I often wonder if we are both using each other as anchors now, until the next sure thing came along and all this would end; Im definitely afraid of losing him, because what if i never get him back.

oh and my parents love him, my brothers dislike him, maybe not dislike but they certainly don't like him. His mother thinks he could do a whole lot better than me(has the girl all picked out for him) and that I'll never be good enough for her baby, his dad is awesome. he's an only child.

thats pretty much it.

So what Im seeing here is that youre cheating on me.

 

[crew9]

I didn't. silence was definitely not the answer he anticipated when he proposed, he did get a bit a distant after that, pretty emotional couple weeks lotta hurt, doubt, insecurity/questioning about the reason behind my silence and all the above emotions, mixed with a whole lotta confusion and anger at myslef. He asked again since Jan and no matter how hard i tried to say yes, the word would get stuck in my throat, and i just ended up saying "i cant, not right now."

I feel guilty as hell because what if he stays waiting for my answer(if he doesn't change his mind) and I still cant say yes, or if i say no. And all this time he's been with me, he could've found something special with someone else who'd give him what he wanted.

we talked about all of this, and it seems to have brought us closer than tear us apart in a way. I often wonder if we are both using each other as anchors now, until the next sure thing came along and all this would end; Im definitely afraid of losing him, because what if i never get him back.

oh and my parents love him, my brothers dislike him, maybe not dislike but they certainly don't like him. His mother thinks he could do a whole lot better than me(has the girl all picked out for him) and that I'll never be good enough for her baby, his dad is awesome. he's an only child.

thats pretty much it.

I asked because I saw a lot of parallels in how you described him and your relationship to the way I used to describe my ex. Wish you guys the best.

 

[-SD-]

marriage is for shit

 

[*ebony*]

So what Im seeing here is that youre cheating on me.

no ways, just getting ready for world to end so we can start repopulating which means ill be too busy having our babies to cheat.

 

[*ebony*]

I asked because I saw a lot of parallels in how you described him and your relationship to the way I used to describe my ex. Wish you guys the best.

what happened? well besides the obvious ex part.lol