Well my suggestion is that if your shoulders are overpowering them, and you dont want them to grow as much, kinda control neglect them!! and what I mean by that is do them on your chest day, and doe them after you do chest. This will make them alreay worn out, and will not work them as hard! then also perform chest twice a week, kinda like this:
monday Chest(heavy) shoulders
tuesday blah
wednesday off
thursday Chest (light), blah
friday blah
blah being whatever the fuck you want them to be!! This should do two things for you, one: stimulate the chest muscles twice a week while shoulders only once! two: your front delts will be worn out during your chest routine, so you wont hit them hard directly!
As for your chest routine I would do
heavy day :Incline BB press, Flat DB press, Incline DB fly
Light day: speed bench, chest dips
(this is my exact chest routine, and I fuckin love it!)
and by the way yes, Incline would dffinatly hit the front delts more, cuz it is closer to a military press movement than flat is. Also bring your grip in a bit, and it will not hit your front delts as much and incorporate your tri's more!
Peace