Ever NOT hit on someone because ...

[SteelWeaver]

... they eat junk food and smoke and don't exercise, but nonetheless are really really cute and smart and funny and interesting?

 

[newgirl-chargeback]

LOL -- no I have never hit on anyone as I am a big chicken. However, if you did ask the person out, I am sure it would bother you down the road if a relationship ensued. For you -- it may signal something deeper ...... however, you should give it a try. Perhaps this person has never been introduced to this lifestyle in a way that has been motivational and supportive.

If this person is cute, smart, funny and interesting -- there are SOOO very few of those out there!!! I say put blinders on for now and take a risk....worse case scenario, it does not work out but at least you have developed a friendship.

 

[TEXgrl]

when i was single, i wasn't really into being healthy, i was probably the person who actually had all the bad habits you describe. those kinds of things people can change about themselves, so i would go for it. something i've noticed about people is that being around healthy fit people tends to bring out the same desires. fitness is contagious, take a chance, they may like what they see in you!!!

 

[JJFigure]

The problem is they may have a hard time accepting your lifestyle because it makes them feel guilty about their lifestyle. I dated a guy who smoked, drank a lot, ate pizza a couple times/week, and my lifestyle seemed to make him want to sink me to his level. He would start pressuring me loosen up a little - have a drink, a piece of pizza - what's that going to hurt? When you're in contest mode, these are the type of people you should avoid.

 

[fawnmarie]

Naw - "smart, funny & interesting" is too hard to find.

Fawn

 

[MS]

I agree with Fawn.

 

[oicu812 - chargeback]

I say go for it because I use to be "the cute, smart, funny & interesting chic" who wasn't concerned with going to the gym or eating healthy. But a year ago, I met my boyfriend and he is a gym junkie and a health fanatic... and that encouraged me to go. All I really needed was a little motivation!!! Now I love going to the gym and cooking healthy. It is great!!! I am so glad that we met and I saw the light!!!

 

[Bikini Mod]

Naw - "smart, funny & interesting" is too hard to find.

Fawn

WORD....

However, I don't find people that ARE smart, funny and interesting because of things like that. Maybe it is just me, but I could NEVER be attracted to someone who smoked. As for the eating and drinking thing, that is no biggie unless they had a problem. "Normal" is cool.

How about the flip side? I was recently solicited by a guy that perhaps some of you might have interesting. He was attractive, nice career, funny, seemed like a nice guy but then he said that he went to the gym 6/7 days p/week and wanted to run a marathon I was INSTANTLY turned off.

Though I still care about my health and personal appearance, I am no longer worried about things like contest prep or being the queen of lean so someone who was THAT into it just scared me off.

 

[Puddles]

If the person has enough good qualities that they're peaking your interest, it's worth a shot. They may just need a little motivation and someone that cares enough about them to help them get on the right track. If it doesn't work out, then at least you've tried, but you'll never know and possibly always wonder "what if" about that person if you never give them the opportunity to be a part of your life.

Steel, just like you're helping the kids overcome drug abuse, you may be able to make a huge change in this persons life. But let it be known early on that your lifestyle is very important to you and you will not be dragged down into theirs. Good luck!

 

[b fold the truth]

Smoking REALLY turns me off...a lot.

The girl that I am seeing now HATES the gym...completely...but she loves what I do when I train/compete. She was also the All European Tae Kwon Do champion 2 years in a row and the runner up one year. Also, she played Pro Soccer for Hungary a couple of years ago too...

B True

 

[VeggieLifterChick]

Smoking really bothers me. My roommates smoke, and it sucks. My lungs feel like shit, my clothes smell, and the place is a mess. because of all the dust from the smoke. Smoking is disgusting, I hate it.

I would say don't get involved with someone with the hope that you're going to change them - smoking is a bigtime habit. Going to the gym is a different thing though, because as long as the person is open u can always get them to be your lifting buddy. Its easy to get people into working out, but not easy to get anyone to diet or eat clean and especially to quit smoking.

 

[MsBeverlyHills]

alot of guys are smart, funny & interesting... so if they can smoke/ eat crap/ not exercise & still be "cute"... then Im all over it.

(& how much do they make.. btw)..

 

[Bikini Mod]

Also, she played Pro Soccer for Hungary a couple of years ago too...

B True

Will wonders never cease? Is there anything your girl CAN'T DO?! LOL

So then, she must have learned Magyar?

Ask her this:

Aruld el.... Meleg csokokat ad a sraccod?

(I apologize for the missing accents. I now have to fight the girls for computer time and they lost my key!)

But ask her...

 

[SteelWeaver]

I hate smoking too - typical ex-smoker - radically anti-smoking. She IS apparently trying to quit, so that's a good sign - but I know how long it took me to really quit. The junk food I can probably handle - I don't find it palatable anyway, so temptation isn't an issue, and most of it is meat-based (which is sort of an issue, but whatever). Naturally I worry about the health effects I imagine for her every time we eat together ....

I'm not looking for a relationship necessarily - well, if fact, I'm not - I'm too busy with school - having to deal with physics, chem and maths after a 12-year hiatus and not having done science all the way through high school, well ...... I'm kinda busy. On the other hand, though, I'm kinda picky, so meeting someone I'm this charmed with isn't an everyday thing. AND - she's helping me with my maths, physics and chem

I have no intention of trying to change anyone - just wondering how people generally go into relationships - I mean, I know each one's different, some just happen, etc - but has anyone here actually decided consciously not to pursue someone they really like based on lifestyle factors? You know beforehand that it simply wouldn't work? It's kind of a hard call.

Sigh. Perhaps I'll wait for her to come to me, then decide. She surely will, sooner or later, and in the meantime, I can deal with catching up simple arithmetic. Fractions: my new friends.

 

[Ceebs]

Smoking, yes. Eating unhealthfully, no. In fact, I've been accused of fattening people up.

 

[JJFigure]

I have to admit - lifestyle is a big factor for me. Of course, I'm also actively competing, so I prefer to stick around people who are sympathetic to my cause. Unfortunately, not many people understand the mierda you have to go through to get competition lean. It's all about understanding, though - if she understands your lifestyle and makes no attempt to change it, then go for it. I have a feeling your healthy habits will rub off on her.

 

[velvett]

Single men.


I'm still stuck on that part.


You mean you come in contact with available single men?

 

[biteme]

Smoking really bothers me. My roommates smoke, and it sucks. My lungs feel like shit, my clothes smell, and the place is a mess. because of all the dust from the smoke. Smoking is disgusting, I hate it.

I would say don't get involved with someone with the hope that you're going to change them - smoking is a bigtime habit. Going to the gym is a different thing though, because as long as the person is open u can always get them to be your lifting buddy. Its easy to get people into working out, but not easy to get anyone to diet or eat clean and especially to quit smoking.

My ex-wife smoked when I met her. She had a dynamic personality and was very beautiful and sweet way back then. She said that she would quit smoking. 10 years later after our marriage broke up, she said that she resented me because she felt like she had to smoke behind my back because she knew I hated it. It is a very addictive habit and extremely hard to break. I wouldn't get involved with someone thinking you can get them to stop smoking.

 

[The Shadow]

. I wouldn't get involved with someone thinking you can get them to stop smoking.

I would carry that one step further and state not to get involved with someone thinking that you can get them to change anything about themselves....wanting that is a lose/lose proposition

 

[b fold the truth]

Will wonders never cease? Is there anything your girl CAN'T DO?! LOL

So then, she must have learned Magyar?

Ask her this:

Aruld el.... Meleg csokokat ad a sraccod?

(I apologize for the missing accents. I now have to fight the girls for computer time and they lost my key!)

But ask her...

She told me not long ago (after looking at a 'certain persons' website) that Hungarian women were the most beautiful women in the world.

Also...she used to smoke. I saw her take one pull off of one cigarette...once. Went from 4 packs a day...to not even a drag (and hating cigarette smoke by the way).

B True

 

[b fold the truth]

Smoking, yes. Eating unhealthfully, no. In fact, I've been accused of fattening people up.

It is hard to hang around me and NOT gain weight. It seems to be a thing about people who hang around me for extended periods of time...they keep gaining and gaining and gaining....

B True

 

[Bikini Mod]

She told me not long ago (after looking at a 'certain persons' website) that Hungarian women were the most beautiful women in the world.

Also...she used to smoke. I saw her take one pull off of one cigarette...once. Went from 4 packs a day...to not even a drag (and hating cigarette smoke by the way).

B True

*blush*

Yes, I made the acquaintance of a gentleman who was the same. He smoked until his 30's and then one day, he just decided to give it up. He said he realized that it robbed him of feeling good... shortly thereafter he got into bodybuilding and though I never saw pics of what he looked like before, the "AFTER" was DEE-LI-SHUSSSSSSSH!


.....and you never did answer my question LOL

 

[wateengedoe2]

One thing I learned from my (not very succesful) relationships is: you can NEVER change anyone!!! You can encourage them to change, but if they don't want to (and my boyfriends didn't), you can either accept or leave them. As I'm a very picky person, I chose the last. Smoking is the worst, I would never date a smoker (have never done that before either). My latest boyfriend drank too much (I didn't find out early enough, otherwise I wouldn't even have dated him) and was too thin, he promised all the time he would drink less and eat more, but he didn't ... In the meantime he couldn't stand me being stronger than him (and almost 10 kg heavier), oh well, don't blame me, I said, you can train and eat and get stronger than me in no time ... But that didn't work, too much anger there from my side. I've decided to give up on dating for a while ..

 

[b fold the truth]

So then, she must have learned Magyar?

Ask her this:

Aruld el.... Meleg csokokat ad a sraccod?

(I apologize for the missing accents. I now have to fight the girls for computer time and they lost my key!)

But ask her...

persze tudok magyarul. es nagyon vidam vagyok hogy te is tudsz. oh, es fogok adni neki sok sok sok sok .... meleg csokokat.

No idea what she typed there...but she did say that she would give her big strong man a kiss...or was it her strongman a big kiss...or...wait...was it her big man a strong kiss...

I'm so confused...



B True

 

[Robert Jan]

smoking is such a turnoff.

 

[Friscochick]

smoking is such a turnoff.

I cant be anywhere near smoke.. It makes my eyes swell, and start choking!

 

[Bikini Mod]

persze tudok magyarul. es nagyon vidam vagyok hogy te is tudsz. oh, es fogok adni neki sok sok sok sok .... meleg csokokat.

No idea what she typed there...but she did say that she would give her big strong man a kiss...or was it her strongman a big kiss...or...wait...was it her big man a strong kiss...

I'm so confused...



B True

Tenyleg igazat mond a Clint..... csodalatos no vagy! Tan Gorog Istenno?!

Puszi mind a ket hasatokra!!!!!!

Bfold - she is truly amazing! Minden jot kivanok mind kettotoknek!!!

 

[Ceebs]

One thing I learned from my (not very succesful) relationships is: you can NEVER change anyone!!!

I'm learning this the hard way. You can only help people want to change, or change the way YOU feel about the offending behavior.

 

[wateengedoe2]

LOL, if only I could exchange my Mensa membership for those merits! (except for hating the gym that is, I LOVE it! )