Ever feel sincerely sorry to strangers?

[mylife]

that type of stuff always happens to me. i can be a cold bastard but sometimes i meet people i feel so sorry for i can't get it out of my head.

tonight a 24 or so year old guy came in the bar and took a seat to watch sportscenter. he comes in every wednesday night with his dad but papa wasn't w/ him today. he wandered to the bar and asked for a cherry coke as if he was scared or intimidated. he was being real polite, ie please, thank you, etc. i asked if he was meetin his dad down there and he said he just got done having dinner with him but stopped down for a soda. so immediatley i realized his dad told him to stop down and talk to me because i was a nice guy. chatted with him for a good 45 minutes but the whole time he was shaking. poor guy must have been having the worst anxiety.

anyways, i was told and inferred he is 25 yrs old and lives w/ his mom in a trailer park, his parents are divorced, etc. (his life seemed almost as bad as Natty's but it was real) not to sound naive, but he was so ugly hardly anyone would give him a chance. i can't imagine he has many friends, he was basically in awe of someone 5 years younger than him.

when he left he said, "thanks for talking to me." i might have to ask him to go to the bar some night for a monday night game when i'm not working.

 

[CipherLock]

Yep. A lot of us have it pretty good and don't even realize it.

Your being a good man here. Karma if it let's me.

 

[gonelifting]

You will somehow receive more presents under the Christmas tree this year.

Don`t wonder why.

 

[Zander1983]

Enjoy a mega blast of karma for your good deed.

 

[jerkbox]

sometimes I do feel sorry for people I don't know.....living in the city you see all sorts....At the very least I always treat everyone like a human being - with respect and without prejudice, until they do something to prove themselves unworthy of it...which often times doesn't take very long.

here's some karma for being a good guy

 

[kronk]

Your a good man for doing that.

 

[The_Ghost]

Karma for you bro, good on you for taking the time to talk to this person.

 

[MattTheSkywalker]

important to keep everything in perspective.

Most of the country is poor. The overwhelming majority of the world is.

 

[vixenbabe]

It costs nothing to be decent to people!

Keep your mind and heart always open, Mylife. You'll meet some great people when you can do the above!

 

[Lao Tzu]

important to keep everything in perspective.

Most of the country is poor. The overwhelming majority of the world is.

yup. this is the richest country on earth and the average wage is $13 an hour.

 

[curling]

That was very cool dude. Man, I can't believe he said thanks for talking to me. Poor dude.

 

[Rex]

Yeah I know what you mean. Sometimes there are just those genuine cases where it's not the person's fault, and you can't help but feel bad.

Especially with little kids. They don't deserve some of the shit that comes their way. Then I see those stupid fucking commercials that want to sell you the kid's picture for 12 cents a day or some shit, and then I'm angry at the organizations for trying to play on my emotions.

 

[Seashell]

I was waiting outside a walk-in clinic a few weeks ago, and a little old lady sat down beside me and started talking to me. She was about 70, she'd come with her sister who was going to get the results of her test to see if the cancer had come back after treatment. It had come back twice, but they were hoping today they'd have good news. I felt so bad for her, neither of them had any kids to take care of them, and this lady was already caring for her husband who was bedridden, her sister was in a wheelchair. I told her I'd pray for her sister that she'd get good news. But I never did find out.. by the time I came out of the office, they were both gone...

 

[MattTheSkywalker]

yup. this is the richest country on earth and the average wage is $13 an hour.

Is it even that high?

 

[Lao Tzu]

i think 26 a year is the median income in america. that averages to -$13 an hour for 1/2 the working population.

 

[MattTheSkywalker]

i think 26 a year is the median income in america. that averages to -$13 an hour for 1/2 the working population.

Sounds about right.

$36K is the median for college educated males.

$43K is the household median.

A-mazing.

 

[biteme]

Yes. I have always been that way. Sometimes it makes me cry.

 

[MattTheSkywalker]

quite a few of those people can be happy if they're poor. this guy seemed like he could care less how much money he earned, friendships were his priority.

That's because he lives in a trailer and has no understanding of prosperity.

Happy poor people are

A. lying

B. inebriated

 

[revexrevex]

People suffer so much in this world, many live simply senseless and really sad lives...

 

[mylife]

important to keep everything in perspective.

Most of the country is poor. The overwhelming majority of the world is.

quite a few of those people can be happy if they're poor. this guy seemed like he could care less how much money he earned, friendships were his priority.

 

[Lao Tzu]

That's because he lives in a trailer and has no understanding of prosperity.

Happy poor people are

A. lying

B. inebriated

yeah right. i've even heard you say that money doesn't buy happiness, all it buys is freedom & luxuries. If you're so poor that it causes emotional embarassment or lack of healthcare then maybe money would provide more happiness but aside from taht it has little effect. strong social bonds are the key to happiness from all the psychology i've read.

 

[MattTheSkywalker]

yeah right. i've even heard you say that money doesn't buy happiness, all it buys is freedom & luxuries. If you're so poor that it causes emotional embarassment or lack of healthcare then maybe money would provide more happiness but aside from taht it has little effect. strong social bonds are the key to happiness from all the psychology i've read.

Believe what you want. As for me...

I DID say money doesn't buy happiness. It doesn't.

Your theory holds up as long as the person's opportunities are matched by the expectations of opportunity.

In other words, if poorer people don't know it can get better, they're less likely to be unhappy and will do fine with social bonds. Show them what's out there, and get ready for unhappiness.

In today's American society, almost everyone except the very poorest people know that there is much much more out there.

As such they are unhappy. The unhappiness gets strongest when they see what is out there, and have no idea how to get it. This causes middle class unease as well.

 

[gonelifting]

Believe what you want. As for me...

I DID say money doesn't buy happiness. It doesn't.

Your theory holds up as long as the person's opportunities are matched by the expectations of opportunity.

In other words, if poorer people don't know it can get better, they're less likely to be unhappy and will do fine with social bonds. Show them what's out there, and get ready for unhappiness.

In today's American society, almost everyone except the very poorest people know that there is much much more out there.

As such they are unhappy. The unhappiness gets strongest when they see what is out there, and have no idea how to get it. This causes middle class unease as well.

You are correct. That`s an argument for "Ignorance is bliss"

 

[PolishHammer1977]

Everyday of my life I make a concise effort to improvemy life and all the people I come in contact with. Wther it's a simple smile, a handshake, or a nice gesture.

 

[MattTheSkywalker]

Everyday of my life I make a concise effort to improvemy life and all the people I come in contact with. Wther it's a simple smile, a handshake, or a nice gesture.

You never do wrong when you increase the happiness in someone else's day.

 

[RADAR]

every once in a while i'll get a service call,only to find out nothing is wrong-alot of these types are shut-ins with no family,and they just need some company-i will take the time to listen/give advice,alot seem to appreciate the time i spend with them....alot of times i havn't the heart to charge them for the trip....its really sad and helps you put your own life into perspective!



RADAR