Ef wemmin that aren't preggos, joosed, crazy, or married...i am available

[Strongbow]

I don't buy it. I still have hope that people can have great marriages and that love can last forever. J and I dated for about a year before we got engaged and we were fine for 5 years until the fun stopped.

So I am reading your post and seeing that you thnk I am wrong and then telling me your relationship was good for 5 years and now it sux. I think 4 or 5 years is about the time frame needed to be completely sick of someone. All of my previous marriages were 4 years, it was like bam, I wake she says we been together 4 years i says GTFO. So tell me why you and J have lost the romance please?

 

[1500]

I usually give wimminz the boot after bout 3-4 years. This one has lasted 2 1/2. She has potential though.

 

[nefertiti]

IMO, marriage ruins relationships...

Only when the people entering the marriage are expecting a fairy tale, or expecting the work/courting to stop.

I've seen plenty of strong marriages that are currently at 25+ years and the common theme is two people who had the awareness to know that for it to last and be happy lasting, you have to commit to it every day in various ways (important to note here that BOTH had the mentality....if only one is doing it, it's not going to work out). Too many people get married to someone they aren't willing to work for, or they marry someone who doesn't have that mentality in return.

We all joke on digi and his marriage comments but the fact of the matter is he is as happy as he is because he GETS that. He still pursues his wife, and I'm willing to bet she still finds ways to fulfill his needs (physically or otherwise).

 

[nangiggles]

marriage doesnt ruin anything.... I lived with mu husband for 4 years, then we got married a year ago and NOTHING has changed,the problems we may or may not have are still there and they didnt start or get worse with marriage... however a lot of people do let themselves go and stop trying because we are made and we are "in it" for life, that's were problems start...

 

[wootoom]

JC, I've said this a million times on this forum. If you don't want to be married then don't get married. It's quite simple.

Pure and simple. Isnt it? LOL

 

[BlueBird]

Pure and simple. Isnt it? LOL

Yep. At least I'd rather spend my time being creative/productive than bitching and whining about what miserable life decisions I've made. Some, and I would speculate, most people, aren't cut out to make the kind of commitment and sacrifice necessary to cultivate a successful marriage. So, yeah, really simple.

 

[Lumberg]

I'm an expert addressing her needs and hitting the underlying problem. She says 'I want' I give it to her. I have no issue with that.

I'll give you a typical day in our life. She is a physical therapist and I am a college professor. I work fewer hours. I've tried her to quit her job or go part time but she will not. She likes working so I support whatever she wants with her career.

A Day in the Life of AV:

06:30ish masturbate. I never get sex and this is a good time to wack one before I shower
06:30 get up shower help get the kids ready for daycare
07:00 25g whey with water, make juice bottle for one girl and get bottles ready for the other little girl
07:30 I take girls to day care - drink Pre-WO drink, feeling jacked
08:00 workout until 9:00 drink post-workout drink, still jacked
09:15 shower, change, head to work
1600: done with work on a typical day, which is twice a week. I am off the other three days of the week but I still go in the office to do research so I am off earlier, I do teach evenings one day a week so my wife handles the kids in the evening on that day
16:15 I pick up kids at daycare
16:45 Start my evening routine: turn on TV so 2 year old has something to do while I throw food in the over, feed the other one, bathe the other one, rush out to make sure fish, chicken and rice is not on fire, pull it out so it is cooked. If I have time I also do laundry and talk to my oldest while she is watching TV to see how her day went
17:00 food is ready, wife comes home, bitches about she didn't see enough patients,
17:30-20:00 play time with my daughter
18:00 she puts the little one to bed, It is her thing and she will not let me do it
20:00 she puts the big one to bed, that is also her thing. Also, since she has done it for the past two years, my daughter doesn't like me reading books to her before bed because my wife has done it the entire time, thus this will also happen with the other little one. Not a good bonding experience but I make sure I spend quality time with my daughter so I deal with it.
post 20:00 my wife is already in bed. I read, surf the net, or whatever.
22:00-24:00 masturbate and then go to bed.

This is my schedule M-F

Sat & Sun: usually go shopping or out to eat with the wife. She is in bed by 9:00. She needs alone time so I also take the big one out and our routine is the bookstore, playground, and Arby's because she loves roastbeef and it is my cheat day so I get one too. She is also like her daddy and likes books so we love the bookstore.

Most men wouldn't do have the shit I do. She'll be doing it all when I leave. I'm going to fight for custody of at least one daughter. I want both, but I doubt a court will let me.

Dude sorry your marital relationship sucks, you are a highly involved Dad and your kids will thank you for that as they get older.

What kind of patients does your wife see? Is she a doctor?

 

[binö]

AV does your wife know about the pending divorce?
and reading thru your avg day, it doesn't seem that bad at all...i'm envious to be honest.
chill work week, good money, loving kids to come home to and spend time with...i sure hope
that when you split you feel happy, it would suck if you didn't

 

[rnch]

unattached, available ladies.....HOW can you turn this man down?

 

[nefertiti]

omg omg omg.....rnch?! hai!