Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below help everyone....currently im working at a mall. i sell phones out of one of those kioskes in the mall.. anyways....ive gotten qutie a few phone numbers from attractive females. theyve given their numbers to me (ive never been the real confident type to just ask girls for their numbers). in a sense i feel im lucky that they come up to me and want me to call them but im always scared that they might get to know me a little and ill be a disappointment...i never have the nuts to call them..and if i do, im always afraid to make plans in fear that theyre going to think im lame or something. i know i sound like a little fuckin baby but to me this is becoming a problem. anyone else have this issue? and how do you overcome it? ive read david d and many other works like his and it helpsto a point but getting security about myself is what i cant help. k
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bluetwistedsteel67
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bro, you've been posting the same shit for about 2 years. It's always the same, "I'm too ugly", "I'm afraid to approach a girl", "she'll think I'm lame".........You've got to get over this shit, it's weak! Man up and get in the game little brother. You may crash and burn a few times but you'll eventually get there. Very few players are born with game (fortunately for me, I was - but don't let that discourage you) most have to hone their game over time. If it's a confidence thing, start with some of the uglier women and practice on them that way when you fuck it up it won't be like you blew a once in a lifetime opportunity. I'm half kidding with you but the fact is the guys that get laid KNOW they can get laid and the ones that don't just lack the confidence.
NJL52
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Best thing to do is be cocky. Switch the role, instead of not trying to act like a fool, imagine it as if the girl's job is to not act like a fool. If you put too much pressure on yourself you are sure to fail.
A trick to build confidence is go to a mall like 30 minutes away. While there, walk up to as many girls as possible and just say Hi and try to start a conversation. Even if you make a fool of yourself you are far away and you will never see them again. This is a realy good tool to build confidence.
A trick to build confidence is go to a mall like 30 minutes away. While there, walk up to as many girls as possible and just say Hi and try to start a conversation. Even if you make a fool of yourself you are far away and you will never see them again. This is a realy good tool to build confidence.
NJL52
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Matt_M. said:
I said "cocky" just because it helps build confidence more then "confident." Subjectifying women makes your self image stronger then considering yourself on an equal level.
He wasn't asking how to land a girl, he was asking how to build confidence. And 99% of the time the two can't be done analogously.
I suggest just building confidence for a bit before you actually attempt to get with a girl. And when you do attempt to get with a girl, be, like Matt M. said, confident not cocky.
Good luck!
bluetwistedsteel67
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Matt_M. said:
No it doesn't, girls may say that they're turned off by cocky but it's bullshit. Cocky works if you can back it up with a sense of humor and other game.
needtogetaas
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there is no hope for you.sorrymarkshark said:
Sassy69
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markshark said:
Dude you have bigger issues than dealing w/ girls - you have such a low opinion of yourself you can't convince other people you are worth their time. We've already seen pix of you and I may have even said somethign to the effect of ".. if I were 20 yrs younger..." I don't know if you need to just start working on feeling like you're just fine as you are or you need to just let yourself not pre-worry about what you think other people will think of you & just be you. Its amazingly liberating to just go w/ the attitude of "If you don't like it ("it" being yourself or what you are doing or what you are wearing or whatever), don't fucking look at it." Its not your job to impress other people - its your job to be happy w/ yourself. I have yet to see one physical aspect of you that is even remotely noteworthy that would make me think "What a tool" if I were just walking by you in normal life. You're fine. You just need to let yourself be fine. The rest falls into place.
Let's comment on bts67... dude is about 2x as old as you (sorry to give away your age bts...
) -- that means you have at least as old as you are now to get that body to be in the same perceived position as bts. Or you can just relax and not be so hard on yourself and enjoy the great position you are in NOW instead of in 20 or so years.
i listened to what some of you have had to say...so today i made plans to hang out with 2 girls this week...one tomorrow and one the next day. i dont know what to do with them...i work til 11 at night and they are both 18 and both work at the mall...so ill try and figure something out.
pimpin bit#%s ....
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markshark said:
The big thing that I get from your post is that you have FEAR.. Think about fear for a second with me here.. When you were 5 years old you had FEAR that you couldn't ride a bicycle, or FEAR of dark.. Now it's laughable how you once FEARED them isn't it? The old famous quote "There's nothing to fear but fear itself" becomes more true as you age and you learn about life.
You will believe whatever you tell your subconcious mind to believe.. if you THINK you're scared, you're scared.. if, however, you decide that you want to change your mind and that you are a great guy and that you love women and they like you, then YOU"RE RIGHT.. Get a grip on your subconcious mind so you can let go of your penis and get some ass...
T-Matt
well guys ive failed and backed down...one girl called me tonite to hang out with her and her brothers and his friends. they were all drinking and i dont drink plus i have an issue where most other guys like to talk shit on me, call me a pussy, etc before i even open my mouth so i decided not to go. im not really posting this to complain or pity myself but kind of as a log that i can go back to and read in hopes that if one day i get out of this state maybe i can shake my head at it.
Jesus man, do you really think some guys are going to call you a pussy when you are just hanging out with them and their sister?markshark said:
When you have no fear of crashing and burning with chicks then you will be able to relax and be able to interact and have fun with them. That is your whole problem distilled down to one sentence.
bluetwistedsteel67
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Perfectly stated. I'll tell you bro, I have crashed and burned many times but I laugh that shit off because along the way I have gotten to see alot of really beautiful women get naked. Now I'm a bit older and the novelty of getting some ass is not the same as when I was 25 but those memories always make me smile. Just act cool but not too cool, dress well but don't look like you're trying to hard, be funny the same way you're funny with your guy friends. To quote a line from Fast Times at Ridgemont High - "The attitude dictates that you don't care if she comes, stays, lays or prays when you've got that women do respond". Translation - be yourself, not the version of yourself that you think some biatch wants to see. By doing this you will appear confident and unaffected which in most womens eyes equals cool and attractive. Shit I think some girls trying to climb through my window right now.superdave said:
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