Does family really come before work?

[scooter22]

I say no... If you don't work, you don't eat or have a place to lie your head.... Discuss.

 

[-SD-]

people talk shit all day long about family before work but when push comes to shove it doesnt.

 

[scooter22]

people talk shit all day long about family before work but when push comes to shove it doesnt.

Exactly what I was thinking. Most people spend more time with their co-workers than their family.

 

[timtim]

family, school, fraternity.

 

[Lestat]

depends on the situation i suppose, sometimes family is dependent on your work.

 

[Razorguns]

most companies have a simple policy. use your holidays. if not - no unless someone died.

dance puppet dance

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[scooter22]

most companies have a simple policy. use your holidays. if not - no unless someone died.

dance puppet dance

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I'm a dancin'!..... I don't like it that way, but it's just the way it is for the majority of people.

 

[-SD-]

thats why i dont have a family until after school and im good and ready career wise.

 

[javaguru]

people talk shit all day long about family before work but when push comes to shove it doesnt.

My mom got pissed a few years back when I missed Thanksgiving for work to meet a project deadline, it involved a 5k completion bonus.

 

[-SD-]

My mom got pissed a few years back when I missed Thanksgiving for work to meet a project deadline, it involved a 5k completion bonus.

how dare you selfish bastard, it was only 5k lolol

 

[needtogetarmy]

Work should be centered on the family. I chose the profession I am in now so I could get paid good money and have summers off to be with my family.

 

[titeNtonedN08]

that's my dad's motto and he used it to justify being a workaholic..

as a grown-up i usually avoid family functions unless i really miss 'em so i guess i'm following suit... i dont have kids yet so dont know what that's like.

 

[eddymerckx]

yes.

 

[the_alcatraz]

Though each have their place, Family comes before anything and everything.

 

[all the whey]

I say no... If you don't work, you don't eat or have a place to lie your head.... Discuss.

I think you need both.

If you watch the TV Show Cheaters. The women who get caught cheating either says "You are always at work and don't spend enough time with me" or "You don't work enough and don't have enough MONEY!"


So, I guess you are fucked either way.

 

[EnderJE]

I used to think that way. I still use work as an excuse to avoid my inlaws; but if you believe then work comes before family and you have kids, then I'm really sorry for your kids.

 

[nefertiti]

balance in life is key...If I'm ever a mom, I'll be damned if I'm a mom who misses her kids little league games. Fuck no.

 

[scooter22]

I don't value work more than family, it's just that I couldn't have or support family without work.... You can't say no to work... You couldn't stay home for a lengthy period with a dying relative if you have to put food on the table.

 

[javaguru]

balance in life is key...If I'm ever a mom, I'll be damned if I'm a mom who misses her kids little league games. Fuck no.

Exactly, you expect Steve to miss the game supporting the family.....

 

[nefertiti]

Exactly, you expect Steve to miss the game supporting the family.....

Nope. I'll never depend on anyone to support me, first of all. And second, I'd never have children with someone who wasn't willing to leave work early from time to time to be present in our child's life. Balance means sometimes work takes precedence, but sometimes family does, even for the small things.

 

[scooter22]

Nope. I'll never depend on anyone to support me, first of all. And second, I'd never have children with someone who wasn't willing to leave work early from time to time to be present in our child's life. Balance means sometimes work takes precedence, but sometimes family does, even for the small things.

Most people don't have the luxury of being able to take off work early to watch their kid's ballgame... Not if they want to keep their job...

 

[javaguru]

Nope. I'll never depend on anyone to support me, first of all. And second, I'd never have children with someone who wasn't willing to leave work early from time to time to be present in our child's life. Balance means sometimes work takes precedence, but sometimes family does, even for the small things.

My father busted his ass and expected nothing in return...ensuring the family had a roof over it's head and food on the table, and some college money for me..even though I joined the Army to get an education is greater than attending a soccer match. He attended a few football games and wrestling matches but I understood what he was doing and got a work ethic. Nefertitties, would rather raise a parasite MTV addicted teen that thinks everything is about them...cause it ain't. My father sat me down and instilled the importance of learning the math and science..as well as the work ethic.

 

[stosstruppe]

I think you need both.

If you watch the TV Show Cheaters. The women who get caught cheating either says "You are always at work and don't spend enough time with me" or "You don't work enough and don't have enough MONEY!"


So, I guess you are fucked either way.

 

[drsketch]

No, money makes the world go around. Without it you are nothing and will have nothing so I think it is my responsibility to keep making it,.

 

[silverstar1025]

balance in life is key...If I'm ever a mom, I'll be damned if I'm a mom who misses her kids little league games. Fuck no.

Exactly! Work hard and bring in the money, but don't miss things. I had friends when I was in sports in school their parents NEVER came to games. How sad for them! My Mom was always there making me turn red yelling for me at the games. lol

 

[EnderJE]

Given that we're all different people and we're all in different situations and respond to things differently, I think that it depends on the specific situation per person.

 

[silverstar1025]

Given that we're all different people and we're all in different situations and respond to things differently, I think that it depends on the specific situation per person.

Oh be quiet!

 

[EnderJE]

Oh be quiet!

 

[silverstar1025]

lol you dork!

 

[EnderJE]

lol you dork!

You me. Don't lie to yourself. You know you do.

 

[silverstar1025]

You me. Don't lie to yourself. You know you do.

I know I know..

 

[EnderJE]

I know I know..

 

[roadwarrior]

I say no... If you don't work, you don't eat or have a place to lie your head.... Discuss.

It depends. A primary wage earner has to prioritize work over the "fun" things but a sick or injured child will cause one to leave work immediately no matter what. I have missed the last 4 birthdays for all 4 of my kids and my wife as well as mothers day, fathers day, and my birthdays. Doesn't matter as I am building my business and they understand. I travel all over the world and call every night at bedtime no matter what timezone i am in to say good night to my kids. I come home every weekend to see them even if it means a red eye fro CA on Friday night only to fly bak out on Sunday afternoon. Sunday morning is family time fro brunch and talk. I have left a project midstream in KS to fly home because one of my boys was injured. My guys covered for me. I just flew out to cover for one of my guys because he had to go home because his daughter got very sick. We are now giving him a month of paid leave to be home with her. My working as i do allows my wife to be home and care for the kids. We also have a great extended family that cares for them.

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[nefertiti]

Nefertitties, would rather raise a parasite MTV addicted teen that thinks everything is about them...cause it ain't. My father sat me down and instilled the importance of learning the math and science..as well as the work ethic.

LOL....like you know anything about how I'd raise my children. Please.

My parents worked damn hard and made a point to be present in my life. That meant one was always there to support me in my endeavors, to help with homework, etc etc. I didn't watch TV because I was too busy learning and being active and living life. Keep your nasty comments to yourself.

 

[calveless wonder]

LOL....like you know anything about how I'd raise my children. Please.

My parents worked damn hard and made a point to be present in my life. That meant one was always there to support me in my endeavors, to help with homework, etc etc. I didn't watch TV because I was too busy learning and being active and living life. Keep your nasty comments to yourself.

 

[nefertiti]

I know I got kinda feisty, but that comment rubbed me the wrong way. He and I are coming from two different backgrounds and as much as he admires his father, I love and admire my parents. I get extremely protective of the people I love and shitting on the way they did things is just...not acceptable to me.

 

[Smurfy]

javaownt

 

[timtim]

my dad would leave the house at 3:30am and get home between 6 and 7 every night. my brother and i played travel hockey for 8 months out of the year for a combined 10 years and had practice 4 nights a week and would travel friday night through sunday afternoon every week. split between my brother and i, my dad attended 90% of all practices and games. my mom 100%. one was always with 1 of us. i was very, very lucky. my parents sacrificed every minute for us and still worked their asses off. i remember going to maine on friday night for 2 games on saturday, then to lake placid, ny for 1 game on sunday and then home. the next week to delaware and rhode island, and so on and so forth. they were machines.

 

[rnch]

family was a distant second when i was a kid.....my father's job always came first....he died less than a year after finally retiring...

 

[ortiz34]

family was a distant second when i was a kid.....my father's job always came first....he died less than a year after finally retiring...

I hear stories like that alot, when people retire they pass away quickly.
Kinda f--d up. I'm sure he worked his arse off to feed and support you.

 

[Smurfy]

my dad would leave the house at 3:30am and get home between 6 and 7 every night. my brother and i played travel hockey for 8 months out of the year for a combined 10 years and had practice 4 nights a week and would travel friday night through sunday afternoon every week. split between my brother and i, my dad attended 90% of all practices and games. my mom 100%. one was always with 1 of us. i was very, very lucky. my parents sacrificed every minute for us and still worked their asses off. i remember going to maine on friday night for 2 games on saturday, then to lake placid, ny for 1 game on sunday and then home. the next week to delaware and rhode island, and so on and so forth. they were machines.

how did your dad do that if he was working from 3:30am to 6/7pm everynight?

 

[timtim]

how did your dad do that if he was working from 3:30am to 6/7pm everynight?

practice was usually 8, 9, or 10 at night, the earliest slot we ever had was 7 and that was moms. it was amazing to experience. he would go on 4 or 5 hours sleep a night for years. the 10 oclock practices were usually moms, but it didnt matter. there were years when i had 9 and my brother 10, whats an hour?

he always says those were his happiest times too. i always say the practice, the driving, the never having weekends (literally -september to april and summers me and my brother were in various areas of canada for 2 to 4 weeks at a time at camps). he says he wouldnt trade those years for anything.

when he got diagnosed with prostate cancer (has since fully recovered) he told my mom he thinks about those years nearly everyday. the day he got diagnosed he told my mom no matter what happened to him, he enjoyed his kids so much that everything was worth it. remarkable man. i didnt have to look for a hero/role model outside my home.

 

[rnch]

I hear stories like that alot, when people retire they pass away quickly.
Kinda f--d up. I'm sure he worked his arse off to feed and support you.

yep! he left my mother a youthfull looking, financially secure widow who has NO interest in re-marrying. she has always said in the great lottery of life she won the powerball with my father.

 

[nefertiti]

practice was usually 8, 9, or 10 at night, the earliest slot we ever had was 7 and that was moms. it was amazing to experience. he would go on 4 or 5 hours sleep a night for years. the 10 oclock practices were usually moms, but it didnt matter. there were years when i had 9 and my brother 10, whats an hour?

he always says those were his happiest times too. i always say the practice, the driving, the never having weekends (literally -september to april and summers me and my brother were in various areas of canada for 2 to 4 weeks at a time at camps). he says he wouldnt trade those years for anything.

when he got diagnosed with prostate cancer (has since fully recovered) he told my mom he thinks about those years nearly everyday. the day he got diagnosed he told my mom no matter what happened to him, he enjoyed his kids so much that everything was worth it. remarkable man. i didnt have to look for a hero/role model outside my home.

Incredible...THAT'S what I'm talking about right there. THAT is the kind of parent I'd be.

 

[timtim]

Incredible...THAT'S what I'm talking about right there. THAT is the kind of parent I'd be.

yea. they were going to take out a loan from their home equity to send me to a prep school for hockey but i got hurt and it never materialized. both my parents were hardcore at parenting. i was very fortunate.