Do you see any of your parents in yourself?

[-Ariel-]

My S O is in expressive arts therapy, and one of the thing she studies is childhood and parental relations in relation to self expression... I'm not in her field so thats just a little of what I know, however, last night we had a conversation about how much of our parent's persona have we picked up on... and really I understood that in my case, I really didn't pick up any overt personality traits, but more of ideas and principles... that I really don't follow half of the time. Her persona reflects a staunch combination of her mother and father personality... Does anybody now see alot of their mother and father reflected in them?

The only thing I clearly understand is that the persona pattern is clearly not genetically inherited, some behavioral traits appear to be though...

Side question, for those that have kids, would you want your kids to have a similar personality to you?

 

[SaladFork]

I'm just like my father in alot of ways... Nothing like my mother.

 

[Scotsman]

I'm a sarcastic smartass just like my dad. I tried a lot growing up to pattern myself after my dad, he's the best in my opinion.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[Smurfy]

A LOT.

from my mom:
need to be alone very often
very low inclusion needs
not very affectionate
very systematic
"everything has a place and should be put away"
rules are important
keep everything bottled up inside
dont show emotions

from my Dad:
sense of humor and wit
emotional intelligence
natural intelligence ( although i could never be as smart as he id)
logic and common sense
explosive temper when pushed past a point
ambition
work ethic

 

[calveless wonder]

of course...we pretty much all are, depending on who was the dominant influence in the family and how much your parents were around.

I have my dad's : perfectionism, business savvy, analytical mind and overall intelligence, ambition

my mom's: Charisma,sense of humor, temper, ADHD, brutal honesty and toughness

 

[stilleto]

my father was super creative, artistic, and funny. I am all of those things. he was also brilliant, with an outrageously high IQ. My IQ is high, but not like his was.

he didn't work though, ever, while my mother was extremely ambitious and hard working. I landed somewhere in the middle, where I DO work and i work hard, but i wouldn't ever start a business like my mother did, and i'd also be perfectly happy staying home too.

my father liked to be alone a lot, and so do I, where my mother hates it.

 

[-Ariel-]

I'm just like my father in alot of ways... Nothing like my mother.

Your dad really rocks then, I bet you guys were close, my dad is one of my heroes... a leader in his community as a ER doc, but his family life is his well being... if I could be half the dude he is then I"m allright.

You just triggered a thought, yeah I did pick up on the way he treats my mom, like he treats her like a queen, however, they didn't really date, they just got married and that was a different culture and time, it cost me alot of dates due to my overeager nature, I learned a little bit, pulled in the reigns and stopped being a dork. That made things so much better. Its weird when you are young you feel chemistry so much easier with people, as you get older, this recedes alot.

 

[Chocolate_Thunder]

My S O is in expressive arts therapy, and one of the thing she studies is childhood and parental relations in relation to self expression... I'm not in her field so thats just a little of what I know, however, last night we had a conversation about how much of our parent's persona have we picked up on... and really I understood that in my case, I really didn't pick up any overt personality traits, but more of ideas and principles... that I really don't follow half of the time. Her persona reflects a staunch combination of her mother and father personality... Does anybody now see alot of their mother and father reflected in them?

The only thing I clearly understand is that the persona pattern is clearly not genetically inherited, some behavioral traits appear to be though...

Side question, for those that have kids, would you want your kids to have a similar personality to you?

To answer the title of the thread, yes I unfortunately do.

 

[SaladFork]

Your dad really rocks then, I bet you guys were close, my dad is one of my heroes... a leader in his community as a ER doc, but his family life is his well being... if I could be half the dude he is then I"m allright.

You just triggered a thought, yeah I did pick up on the way he treats my mom, like he treats her like a queen, however, they didn't really date, they just got married and that was a different culture and time, it cost me alot of dates due to my overeager nature, I learned a little bit, pulled in the reigns and stopped being a dork. That made things so much better. Its weird when you are young you feel chemistry so much easier with people, as you get older, this recedes alot.

My dad was cool when I was younger but never around. He owned his own business and was always at work. However, I have not spoken to anyone in my family in a very long time. I talk to my little sister on email and shes on my facebook, but haven't seen anyone in almost 10 years. They bring so much drama I found I am better off not dealing or having to hear about the bullshit. I have two younger brothers I have never met.

 

[velvett]

Yes I do, mostly my father but some of my mother.
Good and bad depending on your perspective.