Do you believe in the concept of soul mates?

[PinK233]

I'll believe it when I meet him

 

[polarpixie]

but the concept of finding that perfect one, is not far fetched provided that both people are pretty aware of themselves, their issues, their wants, needs etc. and if they find that person that meets most of matches of those qualities or needs, that person is normally deemed soul mate. its the best suited person for an individual, one that completes the other. or at least thats how it seems to me.

I think that for today, I agree with this the most....for today.

 

[VicTusDeuS]

I want to settle. Im sick of dealing with girls and their childish bullshit. I just want one and thats all..

 

[Rockafella Skank]

The very notion of "soul mate" is absurd. Every single relationship -- business, family, friends and spouses -- requires work. "Soul mate," a construct of culture, implies the relationship is effortless. Nothing worth having is effortless. Besides, the astronomical odds of two people being the same place at the same time to meet a soul mate ... it's unfathomably asinine. And it's promulgation serves to keep the vast majority of people who believe in such serendipity unhappy and searching for something that doesn't exist.

 

[polarpixie]

Soul mate," a construct of culture, implies the relationship is effortless.

I don't agree with that part of what you said. I suppose it depends on your definition of soul mate, but I've never felt that it implies it to necessarily result in an everlasting union . After all, there are so many factors that come into play in modern society that affect the outcome of relationships these days, effort is, as you said, required in order to make a relationship successful. I don't believe that the existence of a 'soul mate' necessarily concludes in a blissful union, nor that you may ever be lucky enough to cross paths. In my view, one's soul mate, if such a thing exists, consitutes finding someone who you would bond instantly with, who is so much like you in so many ways, who has an insight and deep understanding of you as a person because you are so much like, who you may have been living parallel lives with before you ever crossed paths, if you ever do.

 

[vinylgroover]

How can there be one person that defines your 'soul mate' if you are developing as a person all the time. I maintain that your 'soul mate' is someone that is compatable to you at a particular point in time given your circumstances at that time. If you wait, five years down the track it could be someone else, someone totally different.

 

[mrbill]

No.

I believe that we are compatible with a number of different people depending on what circumstance or period in ones' life you are at.

exactly

 

[polarpixie]

How can there be one person that defines your 'soul mate' if you are developing as a person all the time. I maintain that your 'soul mate' is someone that is compatable to you at a particular point in time given your circumstances at that time. If you wait, five years down the track it could be someone else, someone totally different.

That's true. You do grow and develop as a person all the time (hopefully). But haven't you ever met someone, that you have connected with so deeply, that regardless of how much you change, you and this other person have such an incredible connection, understanding and insight into each other's minds, that no one else has ever even come close? Note, I'm not saying that this guarantees a successful love relationship, or that it's impossible to ever love anyone else, but you never quite reach that level of connecting. Who knows, maybe this is one of those things you figure out only when you are on your deathbed....

 

[vinylgroover]

Well that's essentially what i'm saying. If however,you choose for some reason though not to be with that person, a year or two or three etc down the track another person will come along and you will say the exact same thing about him or her.

If you do choose to be with that person for the rest of your life, then that person is compatable to you at that point and circumstance in your life.

With the benefit of hindsight, the girls i have gone out with have been so different to each other as i have developed. So my answer to your question with the benefit of hindsight is no. Had i taken the plunge with anyone of my ex's then my answer would have been yes, at that time.

See what i'm saying. Don't think of that person as a your pre-ordained or pre-determined soulmate because there is no such thing. Think of that person as the most compatable person at that point in your life. If that then satisfies your criteria to be with that person in perpetuity then so be it. It's not as romantic as thinking there is a soul mate out there for you, but it's real

 

[polarpixie]

Well that's essentially what i'm saying. If however,you choose for some reason though not to be with that person, a year or two or three etc down the track another person will come along and you will say the exact same thing about him or her.

If you do choose to be with that person for the rest of your life, then that person is compatable to you at that point and circumstance in your life.

With the benefit of hindsight, the girls i have gone out with have been so different to each other as i have developed. So my answer to your question with the benefit of hindsight is no. Had i taken the plunge with anyone of my ex's then my answer would have been yes, at that time.

See what i'm saying. Don't think of that person as a your pre-ordained or pre-determined soulmate because there is no such thing. Think of that person as the most compatable person at that point in your life. If that then satisfies your criteria to be with that person in perpetuity then so be it. It's not as romantic as thinking there is a soul mate out there for you, but it's real

I see what you are saying, and I'm not trying to be argumentative when I ask, doesn't that just make it easier for people to excuse cheating? "Well, you've changed baby...so I had to run off and sleep with dirtbag#10/dirtbaggess#25...". If people changed sooo much over time, that their most compatible person is different at different phases in their life, then what is the point in getting married to someone, when a few years down the road, they are not going to be so compatible with you anymore?