Do you believe in the concept of soul mates?

[polarpixie]

Please indulge me. I'm sure this question has been asked more than once around here, but, I have a question regarding your thoughts on the existence of soul mates, especially for those of you who are in love or are married. Do you feel like you have found your other half?

I have this theory that most people seem to just settle for someone around the time that they should settle down, in their mid to late 20's, and end up with whoever they end up getting along fairly well with at that time. That's not to belittle what this type of relationship offers, because, it takes alot more work to make a relationship lasting and successful, soul mate or not. But my question is, am I wrong? Do soul mates not exist? Is it only what you make of it, your emotions, and how you come to 'accept' someone? This question sounds more and more silly as I type it out...but I'm curious to find out what your thoughts on the whole 'soul mate' concept. Is everlasting love really only what you make of it? Is it only some of us romantic fools who seek to connect with someone on a plane that no one can possibly touch and so hold out for something that may never exist?

I know it is all so much more complicated...but, my main question is, do you believe in soul mates or not? Feel fee to expand on why you believe in such an idea or not.

 

[polarpixie]

Sorry to start a new thread and roll, but I am tired as all hell and I need to go to bed. I wanna see some replies tomorrow tho!!!

 

[bignate73]

with people's different backgrounds sometimes its not a matter of "settling", its fulfilling a void or need. depending on their upbringing, it can be many things. but the concept of finding that perfect one, is not far fetched provided that both people are pretty aware of themselves, their issues, their wants, needs etc. and if they find that person that meets most of matches of those qualities or needs, that person is normally deemed soul mate. its the best suited person for an individual, one that completes the other. or at least thats how it seems to me.

many people do "settle" though prematurely due to the issues they have. fear of being alone, need to be taken care of, need to be controlled, etc. many other things as well. its sad, but not everyone will find true happiness, because they lack patience, intestinal fortitude to be alone, or whatever. but thats probably where this term originated, those that are married, and those that were "meant for each other". ie. the best suited through weeding through the multitude.

 

[Taps]

I have no frame of reference, but I like to think there's someone out there who's ment for me. What would really suck is if I met her and didn't realize it. lol

Damn, maybe I already know her.

I should start being nicer to the women in my life....

Oh, and settling is BS. I'd rather be single the rest of my life.

 

[Latimer]

I don't believe in soul mates or love at first sight either. I do believe that there are certain people out there that are highly compatible with each other, but not just one special person, yet many throughout the globe that share the same qualities that would mesh well with your own. It's a novel idea though and I would venture to say that most people are naive enough to buy into it.

 

[toga22]

When I was a little girl I believed in Prince Charming too...lol

Soul mates...well, I think that is just a modern day fairy tale as well. A relationship will only be what the 2 people are willing to put into it. A relationship that has trust, respect communication, the ability to make sacrifices, and friendship will have everything. But I do believe that every relationship is going to have it's rough times...no matter what you do. It is how you make it through these times that will determine how well connected you remain.

~toga

 

[needsize]

My wife and I both believe in it, and that we found each other because of that. That being said, no relationship will work unless you both put the effort into it that it needs, soulmate or not, there is no easy way to a good relationship!

 

[Peyote Killa]

When I was a little girl I believed in Prince Charming too...lol

Soul mates...well, I think that is just a modern day fairy tale as well. A relationship will only be what the 2 people are willing to put into it. A relationship that has trust, respect communication, the ability to make sacrifices, and friendship will have everything. But I do believe that every relationship is going to have it's rough times...no matter what you do. It is how you make it through these times that will determine how well connected you remain.

~toga

Very well said, I would have typed something very similar to this.
Great words from a chick wearing a toga, not much more a guy can ask for.

 

[pushing_fe]

no relationship will work unless you both put the effort into it that it needs, soulmate or not, there is no easy way to a good relationship!

I couldn't agree more. I believe in the idea of soulmates as well. However, I feel like many soulmates never find each other because they listen to their minds more than they listen to there heart and soul.

 

[aalox]

I think that some people are naturally better suited for one another as far as relationships go, for reasons rooted in psychology. So there are many potential mates, not just one. I don't think the soul has anything to do with successful matches.