Divorce

[Slice of Peach2]

My divorce was final in October of last year. It was not that painful, I had good reason to leave.

You have to do what is right for you. For a straight up divorce/no kids it shoudn't be too expensive. Kids complicate matters a bit. I was lucky I didn't have any.

Sometimes people get married to people they know are not good for them but they marry this person anyway because they think maybe they can help.

 

[RIZZO]

A divorce is one of the messiest things for both involved and especially the children.One day the kids are deciding if they want to ride their bikes or go swimming and the next they have to decide whether they want to stay with mommy or daddy?? That is a lot for an adult let alone a 7 year old kid. The more toys the worse it gets and I saw where one crazy guy was pissed about having to sell their home and split the $$$ so he got a wrecker and knocked down half of the house!! SICK! Divorce is becoming like bankruptcy and it is too easy to get. Some states are making couples go through counseling for several weeks before they get married so they can really see what they are getting into.They can still go to VEGAS or the islands and get married if they do not want to wait that long, but communication is something that is lacking and needs to be addressed in many cases.

 

[MUSTANG_18]

Sorry to hear about this Formula, it'll get better. If you ever need somone to talk to you can e-mail me anytime.

M18

 

[Bikini Mod]

Sometimes people get married to people they know are not good for them but they marry this person anyway because they think maybe they can help. [/B]

Couldn't have said it better myself. No victims, only volunteers......actually, when children are involved - yes, there are victims....but as long as one parent does NOT have thier head of thier ass, the children do far better than to have two parents that are so absorbed by the turmoil and hurt of thier own problems that they end up virtually ingoring the most important things in their lives - THE INNOCENT CHILDREN who did not ask to be born, but deserve to be loved and treated as pretty much the center of the universe (most of the time anyway) regardless of how BRAINDEAD and SELF-ABSORBED their parents may be.

 

[slash747]

My ex - fiance and me broke up anout 2 years ago after I caught the whore fucking one of my college professors. According to her he was more stable and more mature than me.. ( He was rich )

First few months are pretty hard but dont let it get you down. Find something you love and let it keep you occupied. For me it was the gym and riding my motorcycle.

My ex talked alot of trash, and it was really messy until I sat back and thought to myself one day, how can I let someone that I fucked in the ass bother me. hehe

Good luck bro, and I truly wish you the best of luck..
And always remind youreself thaT it will definately get better.

 

[Rex]

Couldn't have said it better myself. No victims, only volunteers......actually, when children are involved - yes, there are victims....but as long as one parent does NOT have thier head of thier ass, the children do far better than to have two parents that are so absorbed by the turmoil and hurt of thier own problems that they end up virtually ingoring the most important things in their lives - THE INNOCENT CHILDREN who did not ask to be born, but deserve to be loved and treated as pretty much the center of the universe (most of the time anyway) regardless of how BRAINDEAD and SELF-ABSORBED their parents may be.

My mom was at fault for the divorce. My dad had the chance to run her into the fucking ground, take the house, get full custody of me and my brother, but instead of taking out his anger and making my childhood a hell of a lot worse than it was already he did what was in our best interest. He stepped back and let her have the house, have joint custody, had me and my brother live there so our lives weren't fucked up some more. It took balls for him to do what he did, and I admire him for it. It's odd how it all worked out for him too, because when I started highschool, he just bought a house in another neighborhood and the highschool out here was better than the one in my old neighborhood.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Rexie - it does my heart good to know that YOU KNEW who was doing the right thing for the you (the child) and HOW HARD it was for him to do it.

Beleive me when I tell you, no matter how hard you think it was for your dad, multiply that by a thousand and then you STILL could not imagine....and little brotha, I hope that you will NEVER know.

 

[Slice of Peach2]

Rexie - it does my heart good to know that YOU KNEW who was doing the right thing for the you (the child) and HOW HARD it was for him to do it.

Beleive me when I tell you, no matter how hard you think it was for your dad, multiply that by a thousand and then you STILL could not imagine....and little brotha, I hope that you will NEVER know.

I agree, as a child of divorce it is a hard row to hoe.

 

[Formula]

Luckly there was no kids. I think that was an omen. We've been trying for about a year to twork it out but came up empty. I take reponsibility for my part but she still doesn't. I know I've learned a lot for this experience. We had been dating for 7 yrs married 3. Living together for 8 1/2. Too much too soon. That's a lot for a 19 yrs old to handle. We just grew apart. I never cheated neither did she as far as I know. But somewhere the love went away. I blame myself for not being stronger and telling 3 yrs ago that I didn't want to go through with it but I felt reponsible. I'm having a tough time forgiving my mistakes. I pray to god he gives her someone who truly could make her happy. I couldn't and I'm soo sorry for that. I never ever wanted to hurt anyone. My cross to bear for a while and it just gets harder everyday.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Formula we all get into bad situations DESPITE the best intentions......talk to someone about it. You will see that you are aloud to make mistakes and you are ALSO ENTITLED TO FORGIVE YOURSELF!

It is tough, but that which does not destroy us, makes us stronger. Hang in there.