Disastrous Day!!

[biteme]

First, My daughter calls me from her mom's house to tell me that she wrecked on her motorcycle and hurt her leg and can't walk and to please not be mad at her stepfather (even though she doesn't like him) for getting her a motorcycle when he knows that I disapprove. Next, I get home from work and she calls me again to tell me that her stepfather had to be taken to the emergency room because he shot himself in the leg with a nailgun and the nail went all the way into his thigh. How in the hell can someone do that? She said that she was telling him that she was afraid of the nailgun and he wanted to show her that there was nothing to be afraid of, so he pointed it at his leg and said, "Look I can't hurt myself", and began pulling the trigger. I guess he thought the safety was on. Fucker was probably drunk. My daughter said all he did was sit there and say, "Oops I guess I hurt myself, go get me a beer." A couple of weeks ago, he had to be taken to the hospital because he got his hand stuck in bobwire and was cut severely. This guy's a walking accident waiting to happen. Starting to scare me with my child being around him.

 

[Rex]

That sounds like a bad situation for your daughter to be in. Thank God it wasn't worse of an accident.

The stepfather needs his ass beat. What kind of person can shoot himself with a nail gun, and be allowed to take care of children.

 

[biteme]

That sounds like a bad situation for your daughter to be in. Thank God it wasn't worse of an accident.

The stepfather needs his ass beat. What kind of person can shoot himself with a nail gun, and be allowed to take care of children.

Thanks. I try not to be too judgemental but that's what I'm thinking also.

 

[tuc biscuit]

Man get recording these incidents in a diary with times and dates and details, if you aren't already, could come in very handy.

 

[Rex]

Biteme: How old is your daughter to be riding a motor cycle? I'm not too familiar with the driving regulations, but motor cycles scare the shit out of me. You fall off and the only thing stopping you from hitting the ground is the air.

Like Tuc said get that shit documented.

 

[biteme]

Biteme: How old is your daughter to be riding a motor cycle? I'm not too familiar with the driving regulations, but motor cycles scare the shit out of me. You fall off and the only thing stopping you from hitting the ground is the air.

Like Tuc said get that shit documented.

Yeah, She's 11. And it's a dirt bike. So I'm pretty sure it's legal. I'm going to look further into and see if there's anything I can do.

 

[Code]

All this time I thought it was Barbed-Wire.

 

[onerepmaximum]

I definitely would be nervous with someone like that taking care of my child. I hope that your daughter is ok.

 

[lucidblue]

Wow, I'd be flipping out if I were you. It doesn't say much for your ex or her new husband that they bought your daughter a dirt bike when you don't approve. I'm sure it's legal for her to be riding one, but that's not the point. Especially, since your daughter knows you don't approve. It allows her to play you guys against each other (believe me I know, I used to play my mom/stepdad against my dad/stepmom all the time). My parents all got along well, but my dad wasn't as strict as my mom, so it caused issues. However, he would never have bought me something like a dirt bike if my mom had an issue with it.

As for the nail gun thing, this guy sounds like a stupid piece of shit. You said he was probably drunk, is he an alcoholic? That would really make me nervous, especially since he could've screwed up and hurt your daughter with the nail gun by mistake.

 

[from zero]

As for the nail gun thing, this guy sounds like a stupid piece of shit. You said he was probably drunk, is he an alcoholic? That would really make me nervous, especially since he could've screwed up and hurt your daughter with the nail gun by mistake.

My thoughts exactly. This guy is trouble bro. What if he had been joking around and thought the safety was on and pointed it at your daughter?

 

[Y_lifter]

All this time I thought it was Barbed-Wire.

Bob's Brand Barbed Wire...

 

[sh4dowf4lcon]

Whip his ass for the motorcycle thing...

 

[Shak]

sounds like you need full custody of your daughter ASAP.

i hope she's alright.

 

[biteme]

Wow, I'd be flipping out if I were you. It doesn't say much for your ex or her new husband that they bought your daughter a dirt bike when you don't approve. I'm sure it's legal for her to be riding one, but that's not the point. Especially, since your daughter knows you don't approve. It allows her to play you guys against each other (believe me I know, I used to play my mom/stepdad against my dad/stepmom all the time). My parents all got along well, but my dad wasn't as strict as my mom, so it caused issues. However, he would never have bought me something like a dirt bike if my mom had an issue with it.

As for the nail gun thing, this guy sounds like a stupid piece of shit. You said he was probably drunk, is he an alcoholic? That would really make me nervous, especially since he could've screwed up and hurt your daughter with the nail gun by mistake.

Yes, he's an alcholic according to his ex-wife. That's the reason she left him. Said he drank a 12 pack every night. Get this, he's a vice principal at a private school. I definitely have thought about what if he pointed it at my daughter instead? The whole thing is really sad. Even if I get custody, she will still be around him at times. Nothing I can really do. I have argued with him in the past to no avail. So I just avoid him now, it's best because I might punch his lights out if I get close to him.

 

[sh4dowf4lcon]

Time to punch his lights out bor...maybe past time

 

[lucidblue]

Time to punch his lights out bor...maybe past time

Not a good idea, this will make him look just as bad and stupid as the stepfather (even though I'd want to kill the guy too). Make sure you look like the more mature person. If you physically fight with him, it will confuse your daughter and probably scare her.

 

[biteme]

Not a good idea, this will make him look just as bad and stupid as the stepfather (even though I'd want to kill the guy too). Make sure you look like the more mature person. If you physically fight with him, it will confuse your daughter and probably scare her.

You are wise and mature. Physcial violence is rarely the answer, although the threat of it can work wonders. As much as I dislike the guys actions, I have no real desire to get physical with him. And it would only make me look bad. The answer is to make it a legal issue, which in time may happen. He needs to be forced to confront his drinking problem, I need to figure out a way for this to occur.

 

[biteme]

Shadow, Lucid Blue, SHak, REx, and all the rest. Thanks for the suggestions. I will print this page out and maybe mail it to the guy.

 

[sh4dowf4lcon]

Physical violence is rarely the answer, but once in a while it is the thing to do. When it comes to our children and their overall safety, an ass whipping will sometimes help a third party open their eyes.

I wouldn't want your daughter to be scared or confused, but if she is being "parented" by an alcoholic she may already be scared and confused.

Sorry you are having a tough day bro, good luck. In most places a simple assault is like a class c misdemeanor with a small fine ($150-$250) and no jail time. Usually just a ticket unless there are weapons involved. About four years ago this guy made offensive comments to my wife in a parking lot, and when she told me he and I got it on. I punched him he punched me and we wrestled a little throwing a few punches...Garland police came and wrote both of us a citation and made us leave the parking lot. When I appeared in court the other party was not present and the city attorney threw it out...cost me $0 and a torn Polo...but it was worth it to see his mouth bleeding.

I am not a violence advocate usually, but children and family can get me riled up a bit...

 

[biteme]

Physical violence is rarely the answer, but once in a while it is the thing to do. When it comes to our children and their overall safety, an ass whipping will sometimes help a third party open their eyes.

I wouldn't want your daughter to be scared or confused, but if she is being "parented" by an alcoholic she may already be scared and confused.

Sorry you are having a tough day bro, good luck. In most places a simple assault is like a class c misdemeanor with a small fine ($150-$250) and no jail time. Usually just a ticket unless there are weapons involved. About four years ago this guy made offensive comments to my wife in a parking lot, and when she told me he and I got it on. I punched him he punched me and we wrestled a little throwing a few punches...Garland police came and wrote both of us a citation and made us leave the parking lot. When I appeared in court the other party was not present and the city attorney threw it out...cost me $0 and a torn Polo...but it was worth it to see his mouth bleeding.

I am not a violence advocate usually, but children and family can get me riled up a bit...

I don't blame you. And you are probably right. Like I said, I might send this page to the guy and that may open his eyes. That and the fact that I just bought a house right down the street from them.

 

[Becoming]

Maybe go on a short vacation with your daughter for about a week, and in the meantime, drop a 12 gauge off over there, tell him is a suprise for the daughter and ask him to make a safety video for your daughter before you get back... the problem should take care of itself...

No really though, I would just document the stuff as recommended above, and definitley NOT get violent (though I am sure I would have a hard time doing the same) as this may be used against you later...

I don't know about sending the page to the guy.... especially if you plan on using my shotgun suggestion later on....

 

[Devastation]

holy shit he shot himself in the leg with a nail gun and asked for another beer? i would not mess with this guy

 

[Becoming]

Tell him you don't believe he did not start screaming and ask him to prove it by doing it again....