depression and lifting

[kaukasion]

me and my dad found my mom dead thurs the 12th
and ive had a hard time lifting
and it feels like i may have lost the drive to push myself hard enough
has anyone around here been through something like this and still did weight training
or should i stop for longer until i can focus
but after a week off ive already moved down a bit


what do you think i should do

 

[jimc]

wow i'm sorry for ur loss. that's hard for me or anyone to say what u should do. but if i had to say anything it would be to lift. i think it would help.

 

[kaukasion]

it feels like it does help
but i just cant get into it when im down there
its like a lost my drive
and cant push myself as hard

thanks for the support
im sure i will be alright its just gonna take some time
i guess

 

[Lee]

sorry to hear about your mom. ive had some problems with depression in the past, and if it got too bad i would take a week off, and just tried to focus on positive things in my life to try to get myself out of the depression. i hope you get through it ok.

 

[H_T_]

time. you're not supposed to be feeling wonderful right now. you need to give things time, you just suffered a devastating loss.

 

[novamanms]

Time will definitely help. When my dad died, it definitely took the wind out of my sails for awhile.

If anything, I would say it'll help get anger out of your system. But you've got to get to that stage first.

 

[nelmsjer]

Keep lifting, but don't let any loss of lifts get to you psychologically, if possible. Just go in with a different mindset. Keeping some normalcy in your life will help you transition through this difficult period. Your body is using a lot of emotional energy right now, which will definitely affect your recovery. My whole point to all this is go in with a "maintenance" mindset...and no more. Go experiment with new exercises. Play more in the weight room. Enjoy it and learn new things. As everyone said...you need time.

All that said: I am horribly sorry for your loss and will say a prayer for you and your family.

 

[blut wump]

The loss of a parent was the most devastating experience of my life and I commiserate on your loss. Try to stay active while you grieve if you can and do the same for your father who is probably suffering too. The grief you are feeling, if allowed its way, can turn into a depression that can last months. All the best to you both.

 

[silver_shadow]

sorry for your loss bro... yes, my mum died of cancer a few years ago. i busted ass then to try and get over the depression and it helped to an extent. i always bust ass when i'm depressed... even when i was going through a painful breakup.

 

[casualbb]

man im so sorry to hear that.

here's my advice, from personal experience

I let myself stop lifting -- big mistake. It was so hard to started again, and in retrospect it made me feel worse because i really enjoyed training. I was just super-low on energy all the time.

my advice to you is drag yourself into the gym and do a chill maintainence routine. you don't want to exhaust yourself if your having emotional trauma. but i REALLY recommend you keep the habit, so you don't lose it and to get a shot of endorphins every other day.