Depressed to the max.

[et2001]

I am in an extreme depressed state. First of all, forgive me for posting here, I just figured this is the most read board on elite. Hope someone will read my post and respond with some suggestive help.

First, I lost my job last January and have been looking for permanent work since then. My credit is now all screwed up because of it. On top of that, my fiancee left me about four months ago and I can't hardly get over it. I am missing her less, but I am really down on myself thinking of what I might not have are what I was doing wrong. I have gone from 240#s to 200#s, all muscle loss and feel soft and skinny.

I haven't done a cycle in about 6 months due to lack of money. Hell, I can't even pay my bills, much less pay for a cycle. My fiancee also messed with my head. She seemed to be the perfect lady (we've all known those types), but after looking back in retrospect I see where she was a little manipulative. I thought I was smater than this, but I guess I was hust so in love that I was blind. I am white and I was engaged to a black woman. The first time that we had sex she said that she saw that it wasn't true what they say about white men referring that I had a big penis, but I know that I am probably just a little above average. I then said that I know that I am not the largest, but I am not the smallest. After this she said that one of her ex'es had one about 9 1/2 inches and was really thick. Well, you can imagine what that did to my confidence. In the back of my mind I always was concerned with whether or not I was satisfying her. She is a christian lady and after awhile in our relationship she expressed wanting to be celibate until we got married. We never stayed truly celibate, but did not have sex that often either. After within two months of us breaking up, she started staying with someone and I believe it with Mr. hung horse himself.

My confidence is shot. Before, I was the most confident person. I felt I looked good. I was 240#s of solid muscle (I've been training for 13 years and it is my passion), had a nice tan, nice hair, had a good job, transportation. Now I look skinny, feel weak, cut off my hair bald awhile ago and now it want grow back right, i Have a blad spot and receading hair line, and have hair starting to grow on my back and shoulders. I feel like my world has ended and it's not coming back. I also feel like I don't even remember how to work out. I am screwed. I don't feel confident with ever being with a woman again. What can I do? Has anyone ever been in a situation similar to this?

PLEASE RESPOND WITH HELP!!!!!!!!!1

 

[gilly6993]

it sounds to me like you need to seek some professional help my friend......

 

[et2001]

Why do you say this? Do you not think it's just a time that I am going through? I don't know what to do.

 

[georgie24]

proffesional help ? NAH but it wouldnt hurt to seek advice if the problem persist's.

i got fired from a career job i had in august, also lost my fiance, on top of that my BMW got stolen and all i had was liabilty insurance, my yamaha sport bike also got stolen begining of that year so you can just imagine my mental state, however i did pull through the night of terror and anxiety..all i can say is hang in there as long as you can.. there is alot of stuff im leaving out ill save that for another time and place, suicide,craving for a drug to take my mind away or any solution, contemplating ect..
i had no assistance from drugs or alcohol what so ever, although some alcohol would of took the edge off. but i hung and i hung and i hung till one day the load on my mind got lighter and lighter. now i work for a small company and starting all over from scratch the pay SUCKS but im motivated to the max and nobody can take or rattle that.

 

[georgie24]

inositol
kava-kava
5-htp

these will help take the edge off, i would say they fended off impending doom for me

 

[nadr7891]

bro, anyone who tells you they've never been thru this is lying thru their teeth. we've all been there, some of us (me) more than once. what you're dealing with here is obsession, fear and anxiety. the funny thing is (at least it will be funny when you get on the other side of it) is that NONE OF IT IS REAL. the love wasn't real and there's good sex out there everywhere; you can go get it whenever you're ready. your fear is that "ill never get someone like her again." this is an unfounded, ridiculous fear. sometimes the GOOD is the worst enemy of the BEST. in other words, how could you find someone better when you were hooked up with this bitch?

it sounds harsh, and it's much easier said than actually believed when in your condition BUT IT'S JUST PUSSY. It's just another piece of ass who happened to be a little more charming and manipulative than the rest of them; you've been conned... scammed... she pulled the shell game on you. it happens to everybody!

gilly is right. it wouldn't hurt to go see a psychiatrist who can prescribe you something to ease the anxiety temporarily and/or help you sleep. if you're stop sleeping you'll go down the tubes quickly. YOU HAVE TO SLEEP AND EAT REGULARLY. go to the gym when you can but don't worry about it if you don't feel like it. get your shit together and then hit it hard, bro.

if it makes you feel better, just from reading your post i hate the bitch. just remember, nobody in this life gets away with anything. there's always a price to be paid for your actions, good or bad. you may not get to see it but she'll get hers.

Nadr

 

[_Yossarian_]

I think it just takes time bro, it seems you had alot of shit fall apart on you all at once. I think your main focus should be a job, dedicate yourself to finding one. Money might not be the answer to all of life's problems, but lack of it can cause tremendous strain.

Once steady income is coming in, it should be back to the gym. Feeling good about your body and appearance goes a long way in boosting self confidence and esteem. Good luck with everything.

 

[40butpumpin]

losing someone can be a hard sometimes, i realize that. but you have to realize that this woman, a receding hairline, losing your job, and screwing up your credit, are not what makes or breaks a man. these issues/problems are so common it's downright rediculous. but right now you're beating yourself up and blaming yourself for what is beginning to appear to you as your inadequacies. but bro i'm here to tell you that the only inadequacies you have are what you're using to measure your worth. stop obsessing over this woman or why you think she is no longer with you, and focus on you and why you're really not happy. bro you need to get some counseling about why your self esteem is so low. the things that you are so worried about are easilly fixed man, but what you don't even see yet, is that you're looking outside of yourself for your happiness and what will make you feel like a man, but that can only come from inside of you. get some counseling about your poor sense of worth bro, that is what's most important here.

 

[georgie24]

I think it just takes time bro, it seems you had alot of shit fall apart on you all at once. I think your main focus should be a job, dedicate yourself to finding one. Money might not be the answer to all of life's problems, but lack of it can cause tremendous strain.

Once steady income is coming in, it should be back to the gym. Feeling good about your body and appearance goes a long way in boosting self confidence and esteem. Good luck with everything.

your second paragraph describes me right now, im back to work, going to the gym and dieting like i was....5 months later im starting to get consistent again with dieting and training. baby steps...i faught hard EVERYDAY though!!! just to maintain

 

[et2001]

Man, you guys are great!! Thanks soooooo much for responding. I left a lot of my story out because of space and time, but this is truly the worst and hardest time of my life.

I appreciate all of you and your words. Georgie, I hope and pray for you. I fell like if I could just get my body back I would at least feel better about myself, but it seems that every time I try to get back on track something gets in the way. Bodybuilding has always been my passion and actually I have put it first sometimes in my life when I shouldn't have. I haven't been this small in about 8 years, but maybe God Almighty is telling me to put this into perspective and prioritize.

Also, I just hate being deceived by people I feel I can trust. I swear and I mean it, I have never led anyone on and never try to deceive anybody. I am almost too caring, but I don't want to change that.

 

[Anakin]

I think everyone goes through some degree of depression at one time. I'm somewhat deppressed right now and I feel my self confidence is lower than ever (I used to have VERY high confidence/self esteem/you name it). Somehow I have changed the parameters by which I measure myself in the wrong direction, but I'm trying to get back. There's some great advice here but this is what I like the most:

from 40butpumpin
"but what you don't even see yet, is that you're looking outside of yourself for your happiness and what will make you feel like a man, but that can only come from inside of you."

Good luck man!

 

[BigAndy69]

Hey bro, don't worry about your body. You have no serious injuries. The years you spent pumping that iron doesn't just go away. It was a big part of your life and it still is. Bodybuilding is a life long journey for us; just because you've been out of the gym for a while, doesn't mean you are done.

 

[wellbilt]

just hang in there and eventually it will all work out and it definetley helps to have good friends to talk to and have fun with thats what helps the most i think just my 2 cents

 

[georgie24]

just hang in there and eventually it will all work out and it definetley helps to have good friends to talk to and have fun with thats what helps the most i think just my 2 cents

YES...never stay alone in that state of mind. call an old freind or family member that you have not talked to in a while. its a good feeling to lally gag and bullshit and get caught up on the latest gossip.even as a guy i can say gossuping helped steer my mind away from itself. belive me when your in that state of mind you will think of every avenue of relief

 

[thelegacy again]

Bro-I dont wanna sound like a jerk but you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself--I mean your complaining about cock size and hair. Everyone has been through hard breakups and hardtimes you need to man up and deal with it and stop whinning. There is a lot worse circumstances that people go through than yours.

 

[et2001]

Thanks for all responses!!!!!

BigAndy69: I guess I am panicking right now about my size, but it will come back once I get back on track (I hope). I hope muscle memory is for real, I don't know since I really haven't been out of the gym for a lengthy time since I started 13 years ago. Once I do get back, I am very zoned and focused.

thelegacy, Hey I know my comments sound a bit immature, but dude my mind has not been right lately and I guess it would be easy for me to say your words to someone else if I was not in the position that I am in. But still, I appreciate your response and I am going to make it and will for damn sure be a stronger and bigger man with character.

 

[monkey arms]

When going through hell....keep going. Bro my heart goes out to you but let me assure you this too shall pass. I was in your shoes alittle over 2 years ago and let me tell you that I am glad it happened. It has given me more perspective, knowlege and strength because of it. I know that you probably think that you will never feel good again. Bullshit!! Life is a series of ups and downs. Find something to be grateful for and look at the things that are right in your life and stop focusing on the negative. We've all had our ego's stomped on by some hot piece of ass...so what. I look back at that time and laugh now, although I creid for days when It happened. Just give it some time and you'll be back to felling like yourself soon. You may try doing something for someone else in need. It will help you get your mind off your problems and help you regain some selfesteem. I've found that the way I get selfesteem is by doing esteemable acts.

 

[georgie24]

When going through hell....keep going. Bro my heart goes out to you but let me assure you this too shall pass. I was in your shoes alittle over 2 years ago and let me tell you that I am glad it happened. It has given me more perspective, knowlege and strength because of it. I know that you probably think that you will never feel good again. Bullshit!! Life is a series of ups and downs. Find something to be grateful for and look at the things that are right in your life and stop focusing on the negative. We've all had our ego's stomped on by some hot piece of ass...so what. I look back at that time and laugh now, although I creid for days when It happened. Just give it some time and you'll be back to felling like yourself soon. You may try doing something for someone else in need. It will help you get your mind off your problems and help you regain some selfesteem. I've found that the way I get selfesteem is by doing esteemable acts.

GOOD POST MAN

 

[awittyusername]

Bro, I never post. But, after reading I knew exactly what I was going to say. Until, I read nadr7891's Post. That is almost the same exact thing I was going to say. especially

"BUT IT'S JUST PUSSY. It's just another piece of ass who happened to be a little more charming and manipulative than the rest of them; you've been conned... scammed... she pulled the shell game on you. it happens to everybody!"

About 5 yrs ago, I was in your position. A company I was dealing with ripped me off. I woke up one day and found out I was about a Million dollars in debt, and I still had to honor exhisting contract I had. So, I had to sell all the things I worked my whole life for ( my new house, Corvette, motorcycle, and even my gas grill) And, of course my Great girlfriend left me. I had to move in with my parents. Then I went from 180LBS to 225lbs fat. And, I felt exactly like you do now. (and I was losing my hair to)

But, looking back now. IT WAS THE BEST THING THAT EVER HAPPENED TO ME!!!

The next yr I busted my ass. I borrowed money and started over. (again) Worked out harder than i ever did in my life. And, before I knew it I was almost 200lbs ripped. I now have a nicer house and car. I make more $ than I thought I could and get almost any girl I want. Got hair transplants. My life is 100 times better.

But, the best thing was. I LEARNED WHO MY FRIENDS WERE AND NOT TO LET SOME BITCH MANIPULATE ME!!

Start over bro. You did it before so, you can do it again. But, this time your wiser. I promise someday you will look back and laugh.

Get up everyday and bust your ass. And picture how great it will be when that bitch comes crawling back when she realize she blew it.(I promise she will) And you tell her to F-off. Oh dont forget to bang her sister.

 

[wellbilt]

switty said it correct you will find out who your real friends are and its just pussy and you should definetliey be getting to the gym as much as possible its a good way to direct the shitty feelings into a sick mofo workout

 

[UA_Iron]

Its easy to get into a panic state if you are being overwhelmed by many things at once. We have all felt this way to some extent and have all been able to successfully deal with. You gotta take one thing at a time to not be overwhelmed and keep a positive outlook towards the direction you're headed. When I broke up with my ex I finally decided I wasnt going to let some chick bring or take me down and was able to get over it and now can laugh about it. You gotta do the same thing.

 

[RADAR]

Look at it like this!
She wasn't seeing you as the person that you are , or she never would have commented about the dick size issue!
Screw her! Let her have Mr. Sausage........ The first qualities you should look for in a person should be about the person as a whole not the size of his dick!
Hang in there i guarantee you will find Misses right when you least expect it! I DID!

RADAR

 

[searay]

about 5 yrs ago due to a divorce i fell into a funk i couldnt get out of. went to the dr got some prozac and felt great in about a month. about 6 mo later i didnt need it anymore and i was fine. the dr said that sometimes you can get into a depresion that you cant snap out of on your own and a little meds will help u get out of it.

 

[Mavy]

Bro ... there are 2 rules here that I can teach you that should greatly impact your life.

1. Healthy body = Healthy mind.
2. Confidence is the key to success.

Once you see and understand these, and put them to work for you, you will be on your way. Number 2 applies to everything in life .. women, work, business etc..

Give yourself sometime bro, you will come around. I have been through many bad breakups, 1 fucked me up for about a year. Try to look at them as learning experinces though bro. Each one makes you stronger, and you see the bigger picture easier now. Its so true, life is a series of ups and downs, you just have to accept that.

Good luck bro, and hang in there, you will be fine.... (I garantee it).

Mavy

 

[Mavy]

ANd ya ... like the others said ... you need to get a short term goal to get your feet back on the ground before you start to slide into a downward spiral.

1st, I would try to solve your money situation. Its shitty to say, but this will solve a lot of your problems, and take a lot of stress off your mind. Plus its a change ... new people, new job, new money coming in, new challenge ... it will help take your mind off the bad shit. Get yourself together to go on a hardcore job search for the next few weeks, and dont stop until you have one. I mean try your hardest as if you are going to get $100 000 just for getting a job. You can start to work on other things from there. You can consolidate any of the money you own now, start paying things back, ... you will do alright.

2nd, (now that you have some money), get a gym membership and start training again and eating good. A fit healthy body will give you a great sense of well being. Like BA69 said, this will come back to you, its not like you are a newbie to training. Play some football, or squash with some friends or whatever it is you do.

3rd, once you are feeling better in these two aspects and you are getting your life back into control, ... then you can start thinking about women. I would suggest taking some time off from any serious relationships. Play the feild for a bit, have some fun, taste the waters a bit. So many people jump right from one relationship to another and end up in an endless loop. Take some time off to hang with yourself, and see what you want to do with yourself.

You will come around bro ... you will see.

 

[georgie24]

damn good feedback from the ELITE bro's

 

[goatmon]

I feel for you man, especially since I am going through just a small part of what you are. My girlfriend left me too recently, after over two years (we were planning on getting married and all that shit too). And the last thing you need is for someone to tell you to "get over it" it doesn't help a bit to read that shit. What you need is a support system (good friends, family, etc) that you can lean on until you have the strength to support yourself both financially and emotionally. A therapist is a great idea (I'm thinking of doing that myself), but since they are pretty expensive, probably not going to happen until you have a job for a while. Just keep on keeping on and do the best you can, and try to focus on things one and a time so you don't get bogged down with it all at once. The gym is the least of your concerns, everything will come back in time, just give it time.

Good luck

 

[doublebicep]

Mavy - awesum advice! Alot of want your said is a summary of what I have had to learn hard way.

et2001 - Hang in the bro. Read some of the responses in this post a few times. Save them off and review them from time to time. I could have really used this knowledge more then a few times in my life.

Hitting rock-bottom sucks. I know this from experience.

I truly believe that we shape our own destinies. We all make mistakes. At times life seems overwhelming. Take one step at a time, read these responses (esp. Mavy's), and start taking back your life.

God bless and good luck.

 

[str8cubano]

If your not spiritual already, pray and seek God. He is the only one that can help in my opinion. Everyone has a right to their opinion, and in my opinion, He is the only one that has every helped me get through a rough situation. Good luck bro, everyone goes through hell in life sometimes...even rich , famous "supposedly happy people" ...some go through it sooner than others

 

[Mavy]

Mavy - awesum advice! Alot of want your said is a summary of what I have had to learn hard way.

Unfortuntaley me too bro. But in all honesty, I am glad all the shit that has happened to me did. I feel it makes me a stronger person today, and makes things easier to deal with when they come around again. You also learn how to steer clear of getting yourself into these situations in the first place. You just have to live and learn from your mistakes.

Take Care,
Mavy

 

[calveless wonder]

kind of makes me teary eyed seeing all this outreach from completely perfect strangers......seems like alot of people have been there


and no i'm not on clomid!


hang in there bro, lots of good posts on this thread.

 

[variation]

kind of makes me teary eyed seeing all this outreach from completely perfect strangers......seems like alot of people have been there


and no i'm not on clomid!


hang in there bro, lots of good posts on this thread.

ya seriously.. this thread is depressing

man.. it sucks I know.. I've gone through similar... with ex-gf depressed me a lot... I loved her and her kids.. still miss the kids a lot but what she did pissed me off so much the fact of her doesn't bother me a lot anymore.. I still keep in contact with her oldest daughter... but hell..

It can be tough.. and I don't think drugs are the answer for situations like this.. unless it's a biological chemical imbalance.. which causes you depression..

What works best for me is just involve yourself in more activity, but tend to stay away stuff that can get you too emotionally evolved.. but don't try and rush back into a relationship to ease the pain... let that come naturally.. I'm sure it will again.

maybe join a sports league.. one where team members encourage each other...

get some more education?

maybe you can get some support from your parents at this point? I dunno.. if you can't maybe even look into government support for now.. till you can get back on your feet.. (I know lots of people hate those who use this route.. they feel they are paying taxes to help lazy people... but I think situations like this may warrant genuine support..

anyway.. I'd say stay focused.. get into some activities that make you feel good and occupy your time.. and start thinking about a way to get income.. some type of job.. but if you're really depressed don't rush into something and end up getting fired again due to emotional instability..

 

[OMEGA]

REMEMBER:

SOMETIMES its DARKEST just BEFORE DAWN


all this will actually make you stronger if your will can persavere

do not be a slave to circumstance or another person or thing

you have a soul inside of you and a will

and the creator loves you, don't be a fraid to reach out and cry for help
and answer will come

just keep calm think less and be patient and good things will come................


I have been to hell and back 3 times over

was 230 ballooned up to 290

came back down and went back up

got estro fat , crashed hard form stupid mismanged cycles

lost loved ones while going through all that crap, going through a drug issue

the whole thing

belive me it makes you stronger

just break through

man will teach you little

search your self and seek the creator

together all breaches can be healed and you will actually be stronger

and who knows you may have a child one day, or a freind that will need your help as they go through the contortions you are presently under and guess what

YOU WILL BE ABLE TO HELP THEM AND PULL THEM THROUGH the VOID of DARKNESS

your not alone ever.......

 

[the_eq_kid]

I know how you feel man I've been going through the same recently and it is shitty. I wish I could say this was the first time this happened to me but it isn't. All I can say is that the shit hurts for awhile but you will eventually get past and reach a piont where you realize you are better off. You can find someone who really cares about you and you'll get that confidence back. The best advice I guess I could give is to just get back in the gym. You may feel like you don't want to be there at first but after a few times you'll wonder why you ever left. You'll get through it and like so many others have said you'll come through this as a stronger person.

 

[dieselrhodes]

I thought I my girlfriend was the greatest thing that ever happpened. When she decided to leave I was devestated as we were together for years, lived together for 3 of them. Spent just about every minute of those years, travelling, hanging out, working. Problem is I didn't realize just how many problems we really had. It wasn't until years later and once I was completely over her that I realized she wasn't really the one for me. I am married now to a girl I love and really believe that my ex leaving me was the best thing that ever happened to me as I would never of left her.

 

[muscleup]

leave it up to a damn woman...!!!...Stay focused bro,write done your goals in and out of the gym...Revaluate them on a consistent basis...Stick to a good clean diet...PRAY...PRAY SOME MORE...Come talk to us...Go and meet new people, make new friends...Think about how this woman made you feel...Think about long and hard, and then realize that she is not the person you thought she was...But you are still the same person...If you ever need to talk feel free to e-mail me...

 

[et2001]

I really appreciate all of the words of encouragement, you guys are so special and I am going to come out of it. You know, this is kind of like a workout in a sense. It's painful going through it, but it makes you grow and become stronger. I do praise God during this time and the good! God Bless to all!!!

 

[OMEGA]

see your thinking on the right track already

its not going to be easy

but think to your self that this probably wont happen to you again becuase you will be wiser

and you may be able to help someone in your position down the road as well

 

[Big Rick Rock]

Ok... I could tell you that you need to see a professional to help you get over all of this and deal with it... But there is no fun in that so here is different advice.

1- Get your Job situation in order. If you have to move to another state to find something then do it. Make Money!
2- Get back in the gym, even if you never regain your physique, working out can be a good release. Get Active.
3- Don't worry about pussy... seriously... Don't! there is no shortage of it anywhere. If you are really as bad as you say you are and don't have the confidence to approach American Women. You can always send out for one of those 21yrl mail order brides from a 3rd world country... She'll cook, clean and keep you happy... also won't care what you look like. Treat her right and don't bother teaching her to speak English.
PS: I heard Cuba is PRIME right now. The average household income is like $10usd per month. Just be sure to move out to the sticks or hick country away from any other Latin Men(FL,NY,CA)… we can smell the aroma of a good Cuban miles away and it might turn into a repeat from last time.

 

[Mandinka2]

Ok... I could tell you that you need to see a professional to help you get over all of this and deal with it... But there is no fun in that so here is different advice.

1- Get your Job situation in order. If you have to move to another state to find something then do it. Make Money!
2- Get back in the gym, even if you never regain your physique, working out can be a good release. Get Active.
3- Don't worry about pussy... seriously... Don't! there is no shortage of it anywhere. If you are really as bad as you say you are and don't have the confidence to approach American Women. You can always send out for one of those 21yrl mail order brides from a 3rd world country... She'll cook, clean and keep you happy... also won't care what you look like. Treat her right and don't bother teaching her to speak English.
PS: I heard Cuba is PRIME right now. The average household income is like $10usd per month. Just be sure to move out to the sticks or hick country away from any other Latin Men(FL,NY,CA)… we can smell the aroma of a good Cuban miles away and it might turn into a repeat from last time.

Now that is solid fuckin advice to a man down on his luck! With this in mind you should have the conifdence to get back up on that rocking horse and tear another strip off the tree!

 

[Lao Tzu]

Sadly these things are not uncommon, we all have bad spotches in life. there are literally 100s of things that can go wrong in life and many will. Mental illness, physical illness, death, abortion, pregnancy, losing a job, losing trust, addiction, being stuck in a bad job, a bad marriage, having no friends, losing friends, flunking school, breaking up, violent crime, unemployment, etc.

There really isnt much you can do as we all have these things, the best you can do is prioritize them and try to solve them.

My life was hell until about 2 years ago, then it was ok, now its getting bad again but i hope i will be able to pull through this too. But you arent the only one, people are more vulnerable than you can imagine but they are also able to recover and change. Hopefully someday this will just be a bad memory.

You also might want to try some SAMe, but get it at ebay. on ebay its about 25 cents a pill at a store its about $1 a pill. You need 4-8 pills a day to start feeling well again. If that is still too expensive for you ($60/month can be alot when you are unemployed) get some TMG (trimethylglycine) from beyond a century and start taking 3g a day of that. It will do the same thing and its cheaper. 150 grams TMG is $7 at beyond a century, including shipping of $5 that $12 of TMG should be enough for 50 days worth.

I have stress induced depression too from the last 2 months. I have read that chronic stress just overworks your neurons and empties out your neurotransmitter stores until they can't handle it anymore and you get depressed. Methyl donors like TMG or SAMe can help because the methyl compounds they donate help your neurons function more effectively. Inositol didnt do anything for me though, i was on about 10g a day but TMG was amazing. i was thrashing on the ground trying to find ways to kill myself a few weeks ago, now im almost normal even though my problems are still exactly the same now as they were 2 weeks ago.

ANyway, its better to try drugs (antianxiety & antidepressant) than not to. Look around until you find one that works. Trust me, sometimes the depression IS your problem rather than a side effect of your problem. The Depression can become your main problem in life rather than just a side effect if you dont take steps to fight it. I used to think education & money were my main problems but now i know the depression these things caused me was my main problem. now that the depression is better i can address the money & education problems with a more level head.

PM me or email me at [email protected] if you want to. Alot of us have been through this/are going through this kind of crap.

 

[synch22]

well hey long time lurker, spent 2 years in NFL camps got cut after preseason and spent a whole offseason training with a team and same thing happend, now i cant even find a job, i have a degree and all but no work experience cause all i ever did was play ball, it sucks been looking for 5 months now. Im slightly depressed but sometimes think about a college classmate who lost his life in the first days of the war in iraq and he is dead, he was a new dad, like 29 years old and he is gone.. life could be worse, god bless him

 

[glennds]

et we have all been dumped and it can be murder on our self esteem. maybe this evil bitch was not for you. you cannot base your worth on what SHE thinks about you.

you may see yourself as skinny but others may see you as fit and lean. you may be worried about losing your hair but others may see you as more virile and manly looking.

i am a 41 year old guy. noone judges you on your hair or your muscles as you get older. you will be judged on your character and reputation.

trust us, you will get thru this funk. we will all get thru it. maybe we will be lucky and your c*nt of an exgirlfriend will come down with a virulent form of cancer. more likely she will get old and saggy way before you will.

(no i don't want her to come down with cancer, but it is always satisfying to tear down people who have hurt us!)

 

[Sebby]

It is just something you have to get through. Do you need help, maybe if you think you aren't going to get better. Stick to what you know: your buddies, training at the gym - that muscle will come back much faster than you think, don't worry about that. Just get looking for work and fuck the chicks for a while. Play your cards the best you can and you will be fine. There are some real good guys on this board. If you have questions, keep em coming.

 

[Barak]

Bro I am sitting here alone with two kids, as one manipulative bitch jumped on me and our kids, you will survive, get some sleep in you get some antidepressants for the short term and as has been said direct all the pissed off into your workouts, since she ran out on us a little over a year and a half ago, I have gone from 238 and horrible BF% to 190 and 18% am back in school full time/working part time(lost job) and the kids are in counciling and doing great, we are better off without HER and SO ARE YOU. Stay strong Bro, you'll come out stronger and find better trust me

 

[nadr7891]

Get up everyday and bust your ass. And picture how great it will be when that bitch comes crawling back when she realize she blew it.(I promise she will) And you tell her to F-off. Oh dont forget to bang her sister.

and remember this, too. women have a very small window of opportunity to hold power over us. when their looks start to go they are fucked. for us (men) we get more powerful the older we get, up to a point, because our abililty to EARN MORE MONEY goes up the more wisdom and experience we gain. more moeny means more confidence and that's what attracts most women. most guys' "power earning" years occur in their 50's and they get more pussy than they want. when i was about 27 i was talking to my Dad about how depressed i was and how my life sucked and how i would never make any money. he told me to just hang in there, that his 30's and 40's were the best years of his life.

i'm 34 now, own my own successful company, and if you offered me $100K to go back and be 25 again i would tell you to take your money and shove it up your ass. my 20's sucked and my Dad was right. i've had more fun so far in the first half of my 30's than i did in my entire 20's and i expect that to continue. i'll be on a cruise in the Virgin Islands in three weeks with the most beautiful woman i have ever been involved with. she's 24. that never would have happened 10 years ago.

THIS, TOO SHALL PASS.

Nadr