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had a 2nd date tonight with a girl I had lunch with last Saturday.
This girl is 29, I'm very attracted. She is physically beautiful, and very smart. We have quite a few similar interests and great conversation.
She called me today and said she was free and asked if I wanted to get together (we had talked on Monday but it didn't look like our schedules were good this week for another date).
I said yes, we decided on dinner near her place. I went and picked her up, we went to dinner, Plan A had a long wait, so we went to Plan B across the street. Good dinner. She picked up the tab, I had paid for the first date, so I let her take this one. I said I'd get the next one.
After that we thought about grabbing a drink, or she says we can just have ice cream at her place. I said I'm pretty full (wasn't in the mood for ice cream) but don't let me stop you.
We get back to her place, 1 bedroom house. She lives alone. She gives me a little tour. Offers me a glass of wine, I accept, we then go chill in her living room.
We're talking.. its about 9:30pm at this point.. good convo the entire time, but its nothing too flirty or risque... This is just our second time together, and I'm a litle rusty on saying all the right things and making all the right moves... I'm definitely thinking I want to let her know I am very interested. But its tough, we are sitting down on her couch... so wahtever, nothing happens.
At 10:30 I tell her I don't want to keep her up all night, and she kinda says yeah, she is sleepy. I ask her if she'd like to get together again, she said yes. She said "I like how you just ask straight out"... I said "well its either that or wait to see if I get blown off.... or I blow you off.. i'd rather be direct" but she says yeah she'd like to hang out, we talk about some potential activities.. i tell her I want her over so I can make her dinner, and bring her swimsuit so we can hit the jacuzzi after.. she's a big mountain biker so I tell her we can always do that some weeked... and also we need to go back to check out the restaurant that we originally tried to go to, my treat.
So I get up to go out, we're still talking, I put my wine glass at the sink.. walk towards the door... open it, then turn to give her a goodnight kiss.....
here is where I am not sure what went down right or wrong... I kinda leaned in.. she is 5'1" and I am fucking 6'2" so its a bit of a lean to get down to kiss her.... she comes towards me puts her arms around me... and I kinda go in for the kiss and I am not sure if she intentionally turns away or if she was just expecting a hug or what... but I end up hugging her... I'm thinking I got denied but I'm not 100% sure... or what. I might not have been assertive enough, but who knows.. its only our second time hanging out, I'm not sure if she's feeling anything, if she just wants to move slow, or if I am slowly securing myself a spot in the friend zone.
So we have our little hug and I leave.
We've both got busy weekends so next week will likely be the next date. I'm gonna try to go for the maker her dinner and then go to the jacuzzi option.. I figure if she accepts that then there is interest.. if I get blown off.... then that's a definite hint.
I'm definitely rusty on my game.... I complimented her on her shirt (I was with her last weekend when she bought it and told her she looked great in it then)... but besides that I didn't really do much to really kinda show that I was really interested.. my bad, I know.
I'm in no rush at all for things to happen, I just don't want this one to slip away because she's all around great.
I've got a 2nd date with another girl this Friday. Going to a baseball game. I know she is interested, and I know when I go in for the kiss at the end of that date there will be no question of reciprocation.
I can really only juggle two at a time here.. I've got a couple others that are calling regularly. but there are only so many hours in the day and days in the week.
the sad thing though, on top of all this activity.. I'm STILL fucking bumming about the ex.... this shit is child's play compared to the fucking stability, and deep connection I had a month ago. None of this second guessing, none of these games.
This girl is 29, I'm very attracted. She is physically beautiful, and very smart. We have quite a few similar interests and great conversation.
She called me today and said she was free and asked if I wanted to get together (we had talked on Monday but it didn't look like our schedules were good this week for another date).
I said yes, we decided on dinner near her place. I went and picked her up, we went to dinner, Plan A had a long wait, so we went to Plan B across the street. Good dinner. She picked up the tab, I had paid for the first date, so I let her take this one. I said I'd get the next one.
After that we thought about grabbing a drink, or she says we can just have ice cream at her place. I said I'm pretty full (wasn't in the mood for ice cream) but don't let me stop you.
We get back to her place, 1 bedroom house. She lives alone. She gives me a little tour. Offers me a glass of wine, I accept, we then go chill in her living room.
We're talking.. its about 9:30pm at this point.. good convo the entire time, but its nothing too flirty or risque... This is just our second time together, and I'm a litle rusty on saying all the right things and making all the right moves... I'm definitely thinking I want to let her know I am very interested. But its tough, we are sitting down on her couch... so wahtever, nothing happens.
At 10:30 I tell her I don't want to keep her up all night, and she kinda says yeah, she is sleepy. I ask her if she'd like to get together again, she said yes. She said "I like how you just ask straight out"... I said "well its either that or wait to see if I get blown off.... or I blow you off.. i'd rather be direct" but she says yeah she'd like to hang out, we talk about some potential activities.. i tell her I want her over so I can make her dinner, and bring her swimsuit so we can hit the jacuzzi after.. she's a big mountain biker so I tell her we can always do that some weeked... and also we need to go back to check out the restaurant that we originally tried to go to, my treat.
So I get up to go out, we're still talking, I put my wine glass at the sink.. walk towards the door... open it, then turn to give her a goodnight kiss.....
here is where I am not sure what went down right or wrong... I kinda leaned in.. she is 5'1" and I am fucking 6'2" so its a bit of a lean to get down to kiss her.... she comes towards me puts her arms around me... and I kinda go in for the kiss and I am not sure if she intentionally turns away or if she was just expecting a hug or what... but I end up hugging her... I'm thinking I got denied but I'm not 100% sure... or what. I might not have been assertive enough, but who knows.. its only our second time hanging out, I'm not sure if she's feeling anything, if she just wants to move slow, or if I am slowly securing myself a spot in the friend zone.
So we have our little hug and I leave.
We've both got busy weekends so next week will likely be the next date. I'm gonna try to go for the maker her dinner and then go to the jacuzzi option.. I figure if she accepts that then there is interest.. if I get blown off.... then that's a definite hint.
I'm definitely rusty on my game.... I complimented her on her shirt (I was with her last weekend when she bought it and told her she looked great in it then)... but besides that I didn't really do much to really kinda show that I was really interested.. my bad, I know.
I'm in no rush at all for things to happen, I just don't want this one to slip away because she's all around great.
I've got a 2nd date with another girl this Friday. Going to a baseball game. I know she is interested, and I know when I go in for the kiss at the end of that date there will be no question of reciprocation.
I can really only juggle two at a time here.. I've got a couple others that are calling regularly. but there are only so many hours in the day and days in the week.
the sad thing though, on top of all this activity.. I'm STILL fucking bumming about the ex.... this shit is child's play compared to the fucking stability, and deep connection I had a month ago. None of this second guessing, none of these games.
