damn my step-son is in trouble

[hondas2k666]

i know this doesnt go here but i dont know where else to put it. my step-son has been on probation since september 2006, he was given 1 year of probation for possession of marijuana,possession of weapon, school zone, intent to distribute, and about 2 months after all that, he was arrested for disorderly conduct because he was drunk. he had court for all the charges on the same day and the judge said hes gonna give him a choice to take 60 days in a juvenile detention or 1 year of probation so he took the 1 year probation. he is in an adult school and needed 50 credits at the time which is 10 classes, now he only needs 10 credits to graduate by june. and in february 2007(last month) he was arrested for possession of alcohol, the charge was possession of alcohol while underage. he went to his probation officer and told her and she said she has to violate him because the judge knows that hes on probation, but she going to tell the judge that hes been doing good and she will suggest a 6 week boot camp program instead of going to juvie bexcause juvie wont do anything but make things worse for him. hes also been going to a drug and alcohol counseling, he gets the drug/alcohol test twice a week and he hasnt failed any of them. his court date just came and its on march 30th 2007. so what im trying to figure out is if there is a big chance that he will be sent to a juvenile detetion home or will he just have to go to alcohol meetings instead?

even though hes not my real blood son, it still bothers me. hes a good kid but just makes stupid decisions and hes still young. hes 17, 18 in july.

anyone with any imput?

im really worried about him

 

[al420]

A good lawyer should be able to keep him home, IMO.

 

[wrknonit]

A good lawyer can only help. However, maybe a boot camp environment can serve as a wake up call. Maybe they can get him to fly straight before he ends up in an adult facility.

 

[jetty]

Boot camp sounds right. There is also a great documentary on HBO this month about Alcohol and Teens. It nearly put me in tears and i wished i'd seen the movie when i was younger. Also, let him spend an hour or two in a real prison and get a taste of the life he's headed towards. Try San Quentin for a day that will have him mowing your neighbors yard for free and taking choir lessons at your local church. Believe me!

 

[Ralkoh]

I agree with Jetty, boot camp sounds like a good choice for him if you can get him in.... Alot of good kids make the wrong choices, I know my son just turned 18..... I hope all works out for him..

Good Luck

Peace

 

[NYBodyguard]

yeah hes heading straight to a fucking max if he dont change quick its already at an age where people dont change, you should stop trying to see how you can give him a temp fix and think long term, most people doing serious time started out exactly just like him

I feel for you but your not doing him any good even thou you think hes the smartest thing ever and will be a great businessman etc think real you will only be fucking him and yourself up

 

[SpyWizard]

wow, sounds like my niece... try to make it ok for him, his only real option is go with the program, or run away..

once he is 18 things will be different and they will just close his record (seal them) so he can still have a future if he wants..

that's the real thing..

my niece was in foster care, her parents after 1 year of going through all the programs went before a judge and said they would sign over their parental rights to my wife and I...

If he will do the boot camp, that means he still cares... our niece didn't she ended up running away, staying with friends, we talk to her about 1x week, her social workers, lawyer, case worker have all told her she is nuts for slapping our hands away from her...

our requirments

go to school (any school)
get a job that will pay the $20 per month for the cell phone we gave her and $45 per month for the car we gave her


she refused.. and ran away..

cops and detectives told us the same thing, at 17 1/2 they won't go looking for her. So far i have had to go and get her from the cops, the last time i told them i wouldn't come, she would leave my house after i came to get her, for them to do whatever they wanted.. they released her, at 1:30am on her own..

I have to keep her listed as a runaway, otherwise any damage, and or truancy issues, they courts could fine us...

She just got her GED this week, she turns 18 april 19th... so good luck to her, God Bless...

 

[youngbull]

i know this doesnt go here but i dont know where else to put it. my step-son has been on probation since september 2006, he was given 1 year of probation for possession of marijuana,possession of weapon, school zone, intent to distribute, and about 2 months after all that, he was arrested for disorderly conduct because he was drunk. he had court for all the charges on the same day and the judge said hes gonna give him a choice to take 60 days in a juvenile detention or 1 year of probation so he took the 1 year probation. he is in an adult school and needed 50 credits at the time which is 10 classes, now he only needs 10 credits to graduate by june. and in february 2007(last month) he was arrested for possession of alcohol, the charge was possession of alcohol while underage. he went to his probation officer and told her and she said she has to violate him because the judge knows that hes on probation, but she going to tell the judge that hes been doing good and she will suggest a 6 week boot camp program instead of going to juvie bexcause juvie wont do anything but make things worse for him. hes also been going to a drug and alcohol counseling, he gets the drug/alcohol test twice a week and he hasnt failed any of them. his court date just came and its on march 30th 2007. so what im trying to figure out is if there is a big chance that he will be sent to a juvenile detetion home or will he just have to go to alcohol meetings instead?

even though hes not my real blood son, it still bothers me. hes a good kid but just makes stupid decisions and hes still young. hes 17, 18 in july.

anyone with any imput?

im really worried about him

I had a brother that seemed to make stupid mistakes one after another and he finally ended up in prison. He is a good guy and would give you the shirt off his back but it took some time away from home to set him right.

 

[paramp]

undefinedSir, I worked in a juvenile work camp as a National Guardsman MP (DOD run) a number of years ago and what I can tell you is that these type of programs are extremely expensive to man, maintain, etc. Normally the courts will do what ever they can to limit the number of "offenders" sent to these type of places. With the probation officers possitive endorcement and with the realitively minor offences I would believe that he stands a better than good chance that they will extend his probation. Of course each state is different.

i know this doesnt go here but i dont know where else to put it. my step-son has been on probation since september 2006, he was given 1 year of probation for possession of marijuana,possession of weapon, school zone, intent to distribute, and about 2 months after all that, he was arrested for disorderly conduct because he was drunk. he had court for all the charges on the same day and the judge said hes gonna give him a choice to take 60 days in a juvenile detention or 1 year of probation so he took the 1 year probation. he is in an adult school and needed 50 credits at the time which is 10 classes, now he only needs 10 credits to graduate by june. and in february 2007(last month) he was arrested for possession of alcohol, the charge was possession of alcohol while underage. he went to his probation officer and told her and she said she has to violate him because the judge knows that hes on probation, but she going to tell the judge that hes been doing good and she will suggest a 6 week boot camp program instead of going to juvie bexcause juvie wont do anything but make things worse for him. hes also been going to a drug and alcohol counseling, he gets the drug/alcohol test twice a week and he hasnt failed any of them. his court date just came and its on march 30th 2007. so what im trying to figure out is if there is a big chance that he will be sent to a juvenile detetion home or will he just have to go to alcohol meetings instead?

even though hes not my real blood son, it still bothers me. hes a good kid but just makes stupid decisions and hes still young. hes 17, 18 in july.

anyone with any imput?

im really worried about him

 

[jochensa]

get a good lawyer my friend. should be able to build a good enough case to keep him home. as much as boot camp sounds like a story book ending it is one a fantasy ending. you dont want him to rub elbows with the dregs of society in the boot camp. it only works on TV. he is only going to get so many chances with that PO tho. Have a sit down with him (just you and him). it worked with my 20 yr old brother in law. I just told him he was hurting the family, who had already been thru enough. forget about yourself for a sec and think about how it would hurt those you love to see you get locked up......something like that. Or just tell him to be more careful. Let his freinds/him come by your place and have a few or stay over.............