I work as a bouncer and as was already said, its a job and i'm there for the paycheque not to prove that i'm tough. If one of my boys was getting wailed on regardless of if it was his fault i'd back him up. Working as a bouncer is all about control, you have to be in contol of yourself and all the people in your bar. i've been in the middle of situations similar to yours, where there is a thirty person brawl in the bar and i have to jump in there with three or four other guys and break it up, when that happens you use what ever it takes to get them outside, once things move outside its no longer my problem. And like most bouncers i've lost it a few times, i've only thrown punches three times and 95% of the time i pride myself in walking a guy out and never having to get physical. My job is all about making sure the bar is a fun place to party and safe for everyone, staff and patrons. And if you are asked to leave, just leave don't mouth off or get pissed off about it, just walk out and go to another bar.