Chris and Smurf

[-SD-]

Nan, when you hit your 40's, there is freedom you get where you don't care who likes you or dislikes you. Just be yourself and the right people will like you.

That strategy only works if youre not married

 

[blueta2]

How so SD?

 

[-SD-]

Because you have to have a good relationship with your spouse. So thats one person you would care if they liked you or not.

 

[blueta2]

Because you have to have a good relationship with your spouse. So thats one person you would care if they liked you or not.

this has nothing to do with my comment. Of course spouses need to like each other. It's about what society thinks. I would assume if two people are happy, they like each other and present their true selves.

But people tend to care what everyone thinks.....when you actually stop caring and just be YOU, there is a peace to that.

 

[-SD-]

this has nothing to do with my comment. Of course spouses need to like each other. It's about what society thinks. I would assume if two people are happy, they like each other and present their true selves.

But people tend to care what everyone thinks.....when you actually stop caring and just be YOU, there is a peace to that.

You have to have at least a modicum of caring what society thinks of you otherwise people would walk out their front doors naked for strolls down the block. And not everyone looks good like everyone on EF

 

[blueta2]

You have to have at least a modicum of caring what society thinks of you otherwise people would walk out their front doors naked for strolls down the block. And not everyone looks good like everyone on EF

You will catch on one day ;-)

 

[cryptosporidium]

this has nothing to do with my comment. Of course spouses need to like each other. It's about what society thinks. I would assume if two people are happy, they like each other and present their true selves.

But people tend to care what everyone thinks.....when you actually stop caring and just be YOU, there is a peace to that.

i think thats half true, because it comes as a trade off. when you behave as a true individual, society starts to make things a lot harder for you and that isnt peaceful at all. everything about the system is geared to keep you a part of it.

 

[-SD-]

You will catch on one day ;-)

like how to look good?

lol

 

[goin on 4T]

Nan, when you hit your 40's, there is freedom you get where you don't care who likes you or dislikes you. Just be yourself and the right people will like you.
You and I have busted each others chops, but believe me, it's nothing personal. It's a juicer board where we all act like f-tards sometimes, I actually think you have a HUGE heart and are super sensitive and I respect that xoxo

Is that why the younger guys at the gym call me a grumpy old man?

 

[caligirl85]

i think thats half true, because it comes as a trade off. when you behave as a true individual, society starts to make things a lot harder for you and that isnt peaceful at all. everything about the system is geared to keep you a part of it.

This is pretty deep ^^. I read a book recently called Escape From Freedom...sort of along those lines. Some societies fight so hard to be "free" but in reality most people can't handle it. Being truly free can be a lonely and anxiety filled place to be.