Chicks ... What the f, seriously ...

[gettinlarger]

So I'm talkin to my girl, and I can tell she's bummed out or whatever, so I ask her what's bothering her. She says she really doesn't want to talk about it. But, I was persistent (in a nice way) trying to get it out of her. She finally tells me that sometimes she doesn't feel like she has a boyfriend (She goes to school an hour away), and then contradicts it, saying she is afraid of things getting too serious. We have been together 6+ months now, and so far, things are great. Then something stupid like this.

My head is telling me to just get rid of her, cause one of these days in the future, I'm gonna be really busy with a job (I just graduated, so I'm still lookin for full time work), and it's gonna end anyway cause I'm never gonna see her. However, I know it's only because she was thinking about it too much and you know how one thing will lead to the next in your head and you get really fucked up ideas. But, I also don't wanna deal with that crap every so often ...

Thoughts? Opinions? Suggestions?

 

[HG Pennypacker]

So I'm talkin to my girl, and I can tell she's bummed out or whatever, so I ask her what's bothering her. She says she really doesn't want to talk about it. But, I was persistent (in a nice way) trying to get it out of her. She finally tells me that sometimes she doesn't feel like she has a boyfriend (She goes to school an hour away), and then contradicts it, saying she is afraid of things getting too serious. We have been together 6+ months now, and so far, things are great. Then something stupid like this.

My head is telling me to just get rid of her, cause one of these days in the future, I'm gonna be really busy with a job (I just graduated, so I'm still lookin for full time work), and it's gonna end anyway cause I'm never gonna see her. However, I know it's only because she was thinking about it too much and you know how one thing will lead to the next in your head and you get really fucked up ideas. But, I also don't wanna deal with that crap every so often ...

Thoughts? Opinions? Suggestions?

My opinion is that Hostess Cupcakes are better than Twinkies.

 

[JohnyJuice]

good luck bro. I would keep your emotuions anf eelings under lock, cause if you dont you will get hurt. She is the typical, indecisive woman.

 

[PHATchik]

It's only natural for someone to question their relationship or their feelings. You can't say oh man, she's nuts simply because she is having doubts about where this relationship is at. First of all, it's a long distance relationship even if it is only an hour. That's incredibly hard to deal with when you can't see the person you love, go to dinner, kick back and watch a movie, or even just snuggle anytime you want. They are hard to deal with and sometimes, you question whether they are worth them.

Also, you have to decide if you even think this relationship is important. You said you don't want to deal with that crap. That's part of being in a relationship, dealing with the other person's problems and little idiosyncracies (sp?). If you've been together for 6 months, you should have a pretty good idea of what kind of person she is. Does she make you happy? Is the relationship worth keeping? Do you love her? Ask yourself these questions. Finding that person that you can yes to all three of those questions about is too damn hard to throw it away because it won't be easy.

 

[Lumberg]

So I'm talkin to my girl, and I can tell she's bummed out or whatever, so I ask her what's bothering her. She says she really doesn't want to talk about it. But, I was persistent (in a nice way) trying to get it out of her. She finally tells me that sometimes she doesn't feel like she has a boyfriend (She goes to school an hour away), and then contradicts it, saying she is afraid of things getting too serious. We have been together 6+ months now, and so far, things are great. Then something stupid like this.

My head is telling me to just get rid of her, cause one of these days in the future, I'm gonna be really busy with a job (I just graduated, so I'm still lookin for full time work), and it's gonna end anyway cause I'm never gonna see her. However, I know it's only because she was thinking about it too much and you know how one thing will lead to the next in your head and you get really fucked up ideas. But, I also don't wanna deal with that crap every so often ...

Thoughts? Opinions? Suggestions?

Next time don't ask her what's bothering her. Talk about opening up a can of worms.

Women have tongues. They talk enough about shit you don't want to hear. The last thing they need is someone encouraging them.

 

[the nature boy]

Re: Re: Chicks ... What the f, seriously ...

My opinion is that Hostess Cupcakes are better than Twinkies.

ring dings are better.

 

[notoriousQQ]

If you are in a relationship, you must have open lines of communication. You did the right thing by being supportive and encouraging her to talk about whatever was on her mind.

Look at it this way: Either you talk to her about what is bothering her or else she finds somebody else that will help fill that emotional role for her.

If you don't want to be in a relationship, fine, but, if you are then it is part of the territory.

 

[Lumberg]

If you are in a relationship, you must have open lines of communication. You did the right thing by being supportive and encouraging her to talk about whatever was on her mind.

It's one thing to ask what's wrong. It's another to be "persistent (in a nice way) trying to get it out of her."

C'mon man at this point you are just cannon fodder for the female sex.

 

[louden_swain]

I will be blunt.

It sounds like she doesn't know what the hell she wants. If I were you, I would dump her. There are plenty of nice women out there who have their shit together. If you were to dump her, something tells me she would be calling you up asking you if you would want to get back together. There is plenty of time for women. Its OK to be picky. . . find someone you really like. Play the field a little bit. Thats just my opinion. The last thing you should do is let this chick play mental games with you. If she keeps this up. . . get rid of her. . .its that simple!!! I will be on the training board!

 

[alien amp pharm]

Let me tell you a quick story:

My girlfriend at the time loved Potato soup from OCharley's. So I tried to be nice and learned how to fix it. I tried at leat 5 different times, but it was never good enough for her. (not even sure if she ever really thanked me for trying).

Anyways, my roommate worked there, so one night I had him bring some home fresh from the place. She came over and I gave it to her. Guess what, SHE STILL COMPLAINED that it sucked.

You should've seen her embarrassment when I told her the truth.

Moral of the story: Women will always find something to gripe about, even if it has to be created by them.

 

[notoriousQQ]

This is dynamic topic, because, once the conversation has been initiated, if he drops it and doesn't ask whats wrong she will get mad because he doesn't care and that he should have known she wanted to talk about it and he should have been supportive and attentive. If he continues on he is at her mercy as you say.

 

[PHATchik]

Re: Re: Chicks ... What the f, seriously ...

Next time don't ask her what's bothering her. Talk about opening up a can of worms.

Women have tongues. They talk enough about shit you don't want to hear. The last thing they need is someone encouraging them.

It's nice that he cared enough to try to find out what was wrong with her. Sometimes though, you just dont' want to talk about things. In fact, it'll happen a lot believe it or not.

 

[notoriousQQ]

Let me tell you a quick story:

My girlfriend at the time loved Potato soup from OCharley's. So I tried to be nice and learned how to fix it. I tried at leat 5 different times, but it was never good enough for her. (not even sure if she ever really thanked me for trying).

Anyways, my roommate worked there, so one night I had him bring some home fresh from the place. She came over and I gave it to her. Guess what, SHE STILL COMPLAINED that it sucked.

You should've seen her embarrassment when I told her the truth.

Moral of the story: Women will always find something to gripe about, even if it has to be created by them.

Alien - how is the food at O'Charleys? They just opened one up near me and I haven't tried it yet.

 

[Frackal]

LOL Alien Amp, what a fucking bitch

 

[alien amp pharm]

I've always liked it, but the one here has bad service

 

[notoriousQQ]

I've always liked it, but the one here has bad service

what kind of food? like an outback/54th street bar & grill etc.?

 

[PHATchik]

I've always liked it, but the one here has bad service

It definitely has bad service at that one, but I'll agree the food is good. They have everything from chicken to steaks to sandwiches. The soup isn't half bad either.

 

[Sinistar]

fucked if you do fucked if you dont pretty much. go tell her to find another guy who likes his head up her ass.

 

[satanic goatslayer]

Beat and degrade her until she is too scared to voice her opinion - then beat her some more.

That'll learn her.

 

[Testosterone boy]

I have found it very liberating to mingle with attractive women and exercise zen like control of the mind. I did this for years with great satisfaction. Then I decided to let women be important again......big mistake. I'm back to zen like control of the mind.

I see them and think "fucked in the head," works like a charm. And suddenly everything they say makes so much sense with this philosophy.

I consider becoming a eunich a few times a year. Thats just me though. Notroious will you that you must lick their assholes clean.

 

[Paulos]

Re: Re: Chicks ... What the f, seriously ...

Next time don't ask her what's bothering her. Talk about opening up a can of worms.

Women have tongues. They talk enough about shit you don't want to hear. The last thing they need is someone encouraging them.

Holy shit that deserves recognition Broly, LOL.

 

[HG Pennypacker]

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ring dings are better.

I think so, as well, but the last time I metioned Ring Dings, there were some cornfed Midwest types who had never heard of them.

 

[beastboy]

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I think so, as well, but the last time I metioned Ring Dings, there were some cornfed Midwest types who had never heard of them.

Not everyone can have that lean anorexic look like yourself.

They are called Ding Dongs here.

 

[HG Pennypacker]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Chicks ... What the f, seriously ...

Not everyone can have that lean anorexic look like yourself.

They are called Ding Dongs here.

Listen Gertrude, we have Ding Dongs here as well. Trust me on this......there is a big difference between Ding Dongs and Ring Dings.

 

[WODIN]

Ho-ho's are the bomb you turd burglers.

 

[gettinlarger]

Yodels, brolies. Yodels.

Thanks for everyones comments. I appreciate them a lot.

 

[beastboy]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Chicks ... What the f, seriously ...

Listen Gertrude, we have Ding Dongs here as well. Trust me on this......there is a big difference between Ding Dongs and Ring Dings.

Yeah, but do you have Faygo?

 

[the nature boy]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Chicks ... What the f, seriously ...

I think so, as well, but the last time I metioned Ring Dings, there were some cornfed Midwest types who had never heard of them.

"And I got news for you. I show up with Ring Dings and Pepsi, I become the biggest hit at the party. People be coming up to me, "just between you and me I'm really excited about the Ring Dings and the Pepsi."