Can there be love without lust?

[deco]

Let's say you met a girl and he she slowly started to fall in love and then only she decided to fuck you. And to spice it up she wasn't a virgin when you met her.

I keep seeing these myspace quizes where girls say you can't have love at first sight, only lust.

I personally think I would be cheated if some girl fucked everyone and then decided I'm the one she loves so its time to fuck me too.

 

[KillahBee]

Let's say you met a girl and he she slowly started to fall in love and then only she decided to fuck you. And to spice it up she wasn't a virgin when you met her.

Goes both ways, guys and girls but the problem is guys would usually hit it given decent body, where as girls tend to be a little more picky sometimes.

I keep seeing these myspace quizes where girls say you can't have love at first sight, only lust.

I personally think I would be cheated if some girl fucked everyone and then decided I'm the one she loves so its time to fuck me too.

ah yes, the mecca of deep thought

 

[heatherrae]

HUH???? I didn't really get the rest of the question, but I do think there is love without lust. I also believe in love at first sight.

 

[mustang_00]

i went outside to smoke a cigarette and i saw a snake slither under my hot tube.... i'm pretty sure i just quit smoking and going outside all together.

 

[Sub-Zero]

Let's say you met a girl and he she slowly started to fall in love and then only she decided to fuck you. And to spice it up she wasn't a virgin when you met her.

Goes both ways, guys and girls but the problem is guys would usually hit it given decent body, where as girls tend to be a little more picky sometimes.

I keep seeing these myspace quizes where girls say you can't have love at first sight, only lust.

I personally think I would be cheated if some girl fucked everyone and then decided I'm the one she loves so its time to fuck me too.

this is one confusing ass post.

id concur that girls are crazy hookers though, but guys can be too. but everyone already thinks guys are scum. but girls are too

 

[deco]

ignore the second sentence

 

[danymal04]

lol this shit is hilarious sorry.... lmao


keep it going for the comics -dane cook

 

[pabloamiera]

mine is tight

 

[rudeboyja]

love is fiction. Lust is real

 

[Phenom78]

Your question is ill conceived.

Love is an action, not a feeling. If you were to for example help a leper you might feel othing but physical revulsion while doing so, but it would be a great act of love.

But the answer to your question is that the more she conceives of you as a long term prospect, the less likely she will be to screw you right away. Because from experience she knows that guys she fucks right away will not perceive her as a long term prospect. So it isn't necessarily a bad thing.

Or it could just be she just doesn't find you all that attractive.

 

[deco]

What if a guy/girl loves u but lusts after everyone else? can that be possible?

 

[Miss24k]

What if a guy/girl loves u but lusts after everyone else? can that be possible?

Then he or she doesn't truly love you.


I don't know what the hell you're talking about in your orginal post though. lol.

 

[deco]

well then that means that in order to love you must lust to so technicaly love at first sight could be true???

 

[biteme]

HUH???? I didn't really get the rest of the question, but I do think there is love without lust. I also believe in love at first sight.

Apparently so does the girl I met the other night, but everyone here says she must be crazy.

 

[Phenom78]

Apparently so does the girl I met the other night, but everyone here says she must be crazy.

Only because she is saying it to you

Think it through brohaim.

Love is a conscious choice we all must make. When it involves a man and a woman other things are involved such as attraction, compatibility, commonality of interest etc etc etc. All those things aren't love. But they are nonetheless important to the overall success of a relationship.

When someone is willing to make a long term commitment without knowing if all those other aspects are present it is judged as at best an immature decision, and at worst an insincere one.

 

[deco]

Only because she is saying it to you

Think it through brohaim.

Love is a conscious choice we all must make. When it involves a man and a woman other things are involved such as attraction, compatibility, commonality of interest etc etc etc. All those things aren't love. But they are nonetheless important to the overall success of a relationship.

When someone is willing to make a long term commitment without knowing if all those other aspects are present it is judged as at best an immature decision, and at worst an insincere one.

that's my outlook on it basically even if i didn't make any sense. I think love is a decision. Well put.

 

[PBR]

"Love waits on welcome,
not on time"....
there must be an "attraction" in the first place upon any new encounter or meeting, otherwise there would be no contact made- other than perhaps a visual glance.
"Lust" is IMO an immediate sexual response- with little depth or consideration taken into account.

 

[danymal04]

keep seeing these myspace quizes where girls say you can't have love at first sight, only lust.


Oh yeah, I'd bang deco...that must be love


And we got DR. Phil up 3 threads from me really explaing what love is...Come on dude, what are we in 3rd grade... fuckin wake up..if you don't know what love is /lust is... you haven't been around the block that many times period....

 

[GoldenDelicious]

I personally think I would be cheated if some girl fucked everyone and then decided I'm the one she loves so its time to fuck me too.

you shouldnt feel cheated. just lied to. in that context, "i love you" = guilt anchor

 

[danymal04]

are talking about your marriage deco? I dont get it... whats the whole story here?

 

[Sub-Zero]

well then that means that in order to love you must lust to so technicaly love at first sight could be true???

lust is wanting to jump someones bones without caring about them as a person

love is wanting to jump their bones and blow their mind too

 

[danymal04]

can their be love without lust... lets get back to the original question

can their be lust without love is the real question


I say no to the first after thinking oh so deeply...

and I say yes to the second... all depending on the person and their morals, its up to them on that one. The first one is hard to say yes to so you gotta say no. How about I keep it real and say no to both. But like I said, thats just ME... cause every girl I lust after... I love... there are a million different meanings for love too...love is just a word my man, thats what i comes down to. Love is a word... caring is an action... caring for ones feelings, caring for ones healthy, caring for ones life... thats love... like i said...love is every postitive thing about a person put together into one and thats how you feel about someone if its real.

 

[deco]

I don't know what love is, my girlfriend always asks me why I dont say it no more and I'm afraid that all the times i've used it I never really knew why. I've become pretty cold hearted over time though, nothing too bad or noticable but I can feel it.
Right about the age of 16-17 I would usually have a crush on a girl here and there, that just plane dissapeared. Don't matter if she's hot or funny, closest to that feeling would be my current girlfriend. I don't lust after her as much and its understandble and I'm fine with it. She says why I dont wanna be serious with her, I say I wanna party and socialize. If it came down to it I wouldnt mind spending rest of my life with her.
Basically as long as I'm achieving my goals and working towards success, I'm happy.

Anyway, I dont even know where I'm going with this, its been one boring summer and I come up with random bullshit questions in my free time, which I currently have plenty untill school starts up again.

To answer the question though, if I never really lusted after a girl, then I dont think I could ever really love her. Although I had few close calls after getting to knwo the person.

 

[truckdaddy]

I love my dog......really love him, but i dont lust at all.

 

[danymal04]

I don't know what love is, my girlfriend always asks me why I dont say it no more and I'm afraid that all the times i've used it I never really knew why. I've become pretty cold hearted over time though, nothing too bad or noticable but I can feel it.
Right about the age of 16-17 I would usually have a crush on a girl here and there, that just plane dissapeared. Don't matter if she's hot or funny, closest to that feeling would be my current girlfriend. I don't lust after her as much and its understandble and I'm fine with it. She says why I dont wanna be serious with her, I say I wanna party and socialize. If it came down to it I wouldnt mind spending rest of my life with her.
Basically as long as I'm achieving my goals and working towards success, I'm happy.

Anyway, I dont even know where I'm going with this, its been one boring summer and I come up with random bullshit questions in my free time, which I currently have plenty untill school starts up again.

To answer the question though, if I never really lusted after a girl, then I dont think I could ever really love her. Although I had few close calls after getting to knwo the person.

Well if you really care about her, or if you would get upset if she started seeing someone else, then obviously there's a little more there than just lust. You must have some deep feelings for her. Trust me, girls love it when you tell them you love them. I used to do that same thing with my ex and I was wrong because after things ended, I did realize how much I loved her. Expressing yourself to someone is very important and girls need that communication. If you love her say, if you don't, there is no point in being with her. Why would you want to spend all your time, hard earned money, and all the drama of listeing and deeling with women on her if you don't love her. I wouldn't if I didnt love a girl, because when you love them its different. Think about that and then decide bro. Don't be afraid to tell her you love her, even if it don't work out, its not like she'd be the only one you ever loved in your life anyway.