Anyone here dating a stripper?

[Satyricon2004]

Im seeing a girl right now and have been for over 6 months, she is a dancer and the seriousness of our relationship reached engagement in september. I was ok with everything, but now.. things seems to be changing..

It friggin awkward to know that you fiance stands around naked in front of other guys.. even tho she just wants them for their money, its pretty far away from the norm...

I know that this is like a disease, most guys wants this setting, but when they get it, they cant handle it, the fact that their girls are still dancers..

Need to use some psychology on myself to change the ways i think about things... wondering, anyone else dating, seeing, married to or in any way in a relationship with a dancing woman?

Is jealousy a problem? How do you deal with it and is there a way of thinking that will make it all non important...

 

[Devastation]

jealousy used to be a problem. up until the point i made her quit

 

[KillahBee]

See my sig. Thank you.

 

[Dakotah]

Im seeing a girl right now and have been for over 6 months, she is a dancer and the seriousness of our relationship reached engagement in september. I was ok with everything, but now.. things seems to be changing..

It friggin awkward to know that you fiance stands around naked in front of other guys.. even tho she just wants them for their money, its pretty far away from the norm...

I know that this is like a disease, most guys wants this setting, but when they get it, they cant handle it, the fact that their girls are still dancers..

Need to use some psychology on myself to change the ways i think about things... wondering, anyone else dating, seeing, married to or in any way in a relationship with a dancing woman?

Is jealousy a problem? How do you deal with it and is there a way of thinking that will make it all non important...

Talk to Devastation - he know first hand about all that.

We have been together for 10 months going on 11 the 15th we havent reached engagement due to many reasons. Maybe you could PM him he would be happy to talk aboput it.

All I can say is it got really hard for both of us when I danced. I havent dance for about 2 months but may have to go back a few times in the future. If she really loves you she wouldnt want to dance anymore at all. not saying that she wont have to but she shouldnt WANT to dance anymore.

 

[jerseyart]

My ex was (go go dancer, not nude, bathingsuit/lingerie type thing) but same issues.

I never went to see her perform. That's key. Seeing that crap will fuck with your head. But I did go once on an off day to see what happened in there. No lap dances back then, so it wasnt too bad.

But then again when we started datign she was ready to quit, and I enver pretended to be cool with it at any point. She stopped within a few months, and really only did it three weeks into our relationship (didnt accept bookings after that, then quit altogether).

It isnt just the money bor, though of course thats a big part of it man. They also like the attention and sense of power. You need to understand that, because its hard for them to adjust to being "regular" people again.

Also, it fucks with their heads with respect to men. Varies in degree from girl to girl. Some get to the point where they want nothing to do with men at all. Others have issues a little more severe than normal. Can't do certain things without it effecting you. Not to say there arent some girls who can move on unphased, but dont count on it with your girl.

The other thing is the general sense of entitlement is usually more than what you'd expect even with any other attractive woman. Again not universal, but dont bet on being the one to buck the odds.

 

[juiceddreadlocks]

actually my gf was a stripper all summer, or a *dancer* cough cough...

it fucking ruled. she made more money than me.

 

[Satyricon2004]

Well, she has been a dancer for many many years, and yeah she wants to quit the job she says, but economy right now wont allow her to do so. The thing is that it just worries me a bit, its a lot of drinking involved, drunk driving, and so forth.

I really think she will stop working at some point, but not right now. Its really awkward when she sends emails to customers to have them come in, calling them or have them call her. There are also a lot of people she met at the clubs that is now her friends... i have told her that most of these guy friends, dont want to be her friend coz they think shes nice, they wanna bone.. Some proved me right when she told them she was seeing someone, they just quit hanging with her... so she saw the picture.

Still, i know this is a job, its what brings food on the table, and you need to lure your customers in to get your buck, just is so far away from everything the norm i am used to is like....

I would like to send you a pm if possible dev, sounds like you have some good advice to come with and i need it, dont want to loose my mind and drop the girl coz of my own insecurity, but it will lead to that if i dont get a fix on the way i see things....

 

[puddlemonkey]

Lately I've been sleeping with a couple of them, but no 'dating'. Got one coming over after her shift tonight. I know better than to date em though, nothing but problems, a good friend of mine has been married to two strippers.

 

[jerseyart]

Bor

Don't be an ass. Understand one thing about women. They may be too stupid to write their name, but they still know when some guy wants to bone them.

Don't buy the bullshit. You cant control what other people do, but don't play that game with anyone

 

[Forge]

I would never date a stripper. I know several really well, and they all have enormous drama attached to them coupled with huge ego trips, not to mention bad drug habits. Just not my kind of girl. If I met one that didn't fit that stereotype then maybe I'd consider it. The stripping isn't what bothers me, its the lifestyle that generally goes with it.