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Anyone go through a divorce?

Yeah, most of my advice is worst case scenario shit (my divorce was ugly and mean). But you can learn from my mistakes: Don't trust any "promises" your s/o makes in terms of "future actions". Get that shit on paper. Case in point, my husband got divorced and they had two kids. He knew before the divorce was finalized that his child support would be $200 a week. Soon to be ex-wife said "oh, we'll split the tax deduction, you claim one, I'll claim the other." Well she had physical custody. The person who has physical custody needs to sign an IRS form every year taxes are filed so the other party can claim the deduction. He didn't know, and his lawyer dropped the ball and nobody got the "splitting of the deduction" put in the divorce decree. Guess what happened the first year he brought the form for her to sign? Yep, her words "I can't afford that." Bitch is getting $200 a week, he's paying the taxes on it and can't get anything back. Get every single solitary expense you can possibly think of not directly support related (child care, medical expenses, extra curricular/hobby expenses, etc., college) hammered out and laid out in the decree.

There is the odd "amicable" divorce, but it's the exception, not the rule, especially when you got kids and property involved. Don't be surprised if things go from civil to ugly, especially over possessions. Choose your battles wisely but again, don't trust the soon to be ex to keep your best interests in mind. Don't give up something that's going to dog you, don't let them walk out the door with photos you haven't copied.

If you have a house, unless she wants it, get rid of it. It turns into a constant reminder of old memories and no amount of redecorating undoes that. Especially difficult when you bring in a new s/o.

In the event your ex turns into a cvnt, don't bad mouth her to the kid, ever. In fact, no matter what kind of person she is, make a general "we don't discuss mommy's house or what she says/does." Makes life easier on everyone. Try to at least be civil when it comes to decisions about the kid but don't expect cooperation or your discipline/rules to be enforced in her house.

Don't turn birthdays/christmas into "time to outdo/one up the ex". That shit just gets expensive and the kid learns to milk it.

Figure out which friends you want to keep, start cultivating them early. Again, make the rule about not talking about ex. Good luck with that, friends and in laws are a coin toss. In general, when it comes to divorce blood is thicker than water. My inlaws all dumped me and I only got custody of one set (husband & wife) of our friends. People I'd know for up to ten years just up and forgot me.

Good luck.
 
Nice married the wrong person life
I freely admit my first marriage was a train wreck. I was young and stupid (18) and my first husband is just messed up, he hid a lot of shit from me personality wise, and I believed him *shrug*

Hey, I learned from my mistakes. My current husband is a wonderful man.

But my current husband's ex seemed like a normal person and she fucked him in the ass in his divorce, too. Divorce can bring out the worst in people :whatever: I figure forewarned is forearmed.
 
Just bail on your kid and keep moving so ORS can't track you down for back support. Drink heavily, bang whores, and avoid dealing with anything or bettering yourself at all cost. I figure you can have some solid years before your liver fails and you're numb on opiates waiting to die. That's only a few months of misery in exchange for years of freedom.
 
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