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gingersnap said:
Whats so hard about it?
Whats so hard about it?
gingersnap
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First of all the job is a joy, but it is work.
A newborn breastfed baby feeds approximately every 2-3 hours for 30 to 45 min, AROUND THE CLOCK, there is no "sleeping in", there is very little sleep at all. There are many many diaper changes. There is a lot of laundry, Dr's appts, etc. Yes I watched TV in my PJ's during this phase but only with a baby on the breast or while folding laundry.
Each phase has it's own challenges, I have two children in 2 different private schools, I spend 4 hours a day driving to the schools alone, more if we have a parent night or an evening event at the school. There is additional drive time for sports, my kids play sports year round. I am currently in "heavy driving phase". There's about 5 hours a day of laundry/cooking and housekeeping work...mostly laundry. I also pay the bills, etc etc. If I died tomorrow my husband would have to hire several people to replace me. A nanny that drives and does homework (he would actually have to hire an additional part time evening nanny if he were to truly replace me), a housekeeper that cooks and does laundry (hard to find), and a part time bookeeper.
I love what I do and having kids has been the best decision of my life but I forfeit a high income to stay home and raise these kids and I expect to be appreciated and undertood. Luckily I married a great guy who understands and treats me wonderfully...I guess you call that "pussy whipped"!
A newborn breastfed baby feeds approximately every 2-3 hours for 30 to 45 min, AROUND THE CLOCK, there is no "sleeping in", there is very little sleep at all. There are many many diaper changes. There is a lot of laundry, Dr's appts, etc. Yes I watched TV in my PJ's during this phase but only with a baby on the breast or while folding laundry.
Each phase has it's own challenges, I have two children in 2 different private schools, I spend 4 hours a day driving to the schools alone, more if we have a parent night or an evening event at the school. There is additional drive time for sports, my kids play sports year round. I am currently in "heavy driving phase". There's about 5 hours a day of laundry/cooking and housekeeping work...mostly laundry. I also pay the bills, etc etc. If I died tomorrow my husband would have to hire several people to replace me. A nanny that drives and does homework (he would actually have to hire an additional part time evening nanny if he were to truly replace me), a housekeeper that cooks and does laundry (hard to find), and a part time bookeeper.
I love what I do and having kids has been the best decision of my life but I forfeit a high income to stay home and raise these kids and I expect to be appreciated and undertood. Luckily I married a great guy who understands and treats me wonderfully...I guess you call that "pussy whipped"!
gingersnap said:
I hear ya gingersnap, I know it`s hard to believe but It IS hard. I stay home with my 18 month old. I PRAY that it gets better as they get older, but somehow I doubt it. lol
I worked in construction for years. And I wish I could go back lol. I`m drenched in a pool of sweat by the time the wife comes home and I hand the baby off to her. You need to be on alert EVERY SECOND of the day 24/7. FOR EVERY SECOND. Talk about cortisol levels skyrocketing...
gingersnap
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gonelifting said:
Kudos to you! It does get easier as they get older.....until, the teenage years come along, and then the high adventure begins again!
THeMaCHinE
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You guys that think watching kids doesn't compare to a job are fuckin nuts. True, it's much different than straight-out physical labor (although there is an element of that), it's more a constant test of wills that leaves you physically and emotionally drained -- and that's *before* you have to do all the house work. If you don't have kids you have no idea. If you do have kids but have never watched them alone on a continual basis for more than a day or two, you have no idea... It is very fucking hard.
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supersizeme said:
Wow... I don't believe I've heard that one before.
supersizeme
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My best friend has been dating this girl for about 3 years now. He has been in vigorous husband training since the very beginning of the relationship. They average probably at least a wedding a month. I just got done talking to him on IM and listening to him justify the baby shower he will be attending tomorrow night with his gf.
I will quote him now.
"Baby showers these days are more of a couple thing than they used to be."
I will quote him now.
"Baby showers these days are more of a couple thing than they used to be."
supersizeme
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BodyByFinaplix said:
It's painful to hear. This guy was the complete opposite 5 years ago. His last two girlfriends have sucked the man clean out of him. Actually the irony of what I just said is that his current gf doesn't go down on him. We had some crazy times chasing skirts back in the day, but all good things come to an end. He's still cool to chill with...it's just on a different level now.
