Another one bites the dust. *Sigh*

[HiDnGoD]

Easier said then done. But yeah, I don't tell him anything anymore, but sometimes it shows through my actions.

I told him in the past I dont want to be around her and I don't think that will change.

In the end, I am still his friend. We will just be hanging out when she is not around, hence the term, I will be in the "shadows". But sometimes that doesnt even work when she suddenly appears at out of no where (Dinner).

Anyway, we will see what happens.

Convince yourself that you LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE his fiance. Think of nothing else. When you can stomach her & be nice to her & make friends with her, then shag her. Let your friend catch you, He calls it off. Problem solved. Of course you lose a friend, but that is the ultimate sacrifice.

 

[HS Lifter]

I know plenty of people who've been married 10,20,30 and it all started because the guy knocked up the girl. And they get along and kids turned out ok. All Im saying is try not to jump the gun, because if they make it and end up being a good family, you are the one who will have to live with the fact that they knew you thought they werent going to make it.
Try being positive because it sounds like the last thing they need is for a friend to think they are doomed from the start.

Is this directed to me or crew 9?

 

[HS Lifter]

Convince yourself that you LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE his fiance. Think of nothing else. When you can stomach her & be nice to her & make friends with her, then shag her. Let your friend catch you, He calls it off. Problem solved. Of course you lose a friend, but that is the ultimate sacrifice.

lol.

 

[-SD-]

Is this directed to me or crew 9?

Both of you.

 

[HS Lifter]

I know plenty of people who've been married 10,20,30 and it all started because the guy knocked up the girl. And they get along and kids turned out ok.

Well, that is great. Re-read some of the thread to get an idea on the situation. When they get married, he would have known her for 18 months. Many break ups all along. Girl is crazy. Gets crazy girl pregnant that he has known for only 18 months. That doesnt sound so good....

All Im saying is try not to jump the gun, because if they make it and end up being a good family, you are the one who will have to live with the fact that they knew you thought they werent going to make it.
Try being positive because it sounds like the last thing they need is for a friend to think they are doomed from the start.

Considering the circumstances, things do not look good. If they end up being a good family, then good for them. As for "living with the fact", that doesnt apply since I wont really care let alone lose any sleep over it. We are all 21-22, chances are, we wont even hardly know eachother 5 years from now.

When my friend and I talked about "everything", I was postive, wished him good luck and hoped for the best. It's not like I told him "You're fucked to his face".

Anyway you look at it, society thinks that all young family's are doomed from the start, and they are usually right.

 

[crew9]

I know plenty of people who've been married 10,20,30 and it all started because the guy knocked up the girl. And they get along and kids turned out ok. All Im saying is try not to jump the gun, because if they make it and end up being a good family, you are the one who will have to live with the fact that they knew you thought they werent going to make it.
Try being positive because it sounds like the last thing they need is for a friend to think they are doomed from the start.

Look I'm not saying he should try and duck out and avoid his responsibilities. My point was simply that this relationship sounds broke to begin with and marriage, whatever the reason for doing it, is not a solution. Breaking up on several occasions in a span of a year is a tell tale sign of a bad relationship.

If they manage to mend the fences and make this thing work then that's awesome and would definitely be good for the kids. Like you said there are people who get married for this reason and make it work.