Am I the only one who does this?

[Nathan]

What she said, but minimizing your time with people that you really dont like (even as friends... WTF was up with that one broad who was up in your shit, begs you to hang out and then blows you off? Male or female, that broad is WHACK.) is in your best interest.

I would rather be alone or spend time with a good friend or family than to feel like I am trapped socializing with someone of either gender just because I dont know how to feel like I am being mean for not wanting to hang with them.

Does that make sense?

I can not tell you how many dates I had been on that should have been over after, "Hello." but continued on for what seemed like YEARS because I didn't know how to interrupt or just not go out for fear of hurting the dude's feelings.

Thank goodness I dont have to date anymore.

But seriously, why do you feel that your feelings and free time are so much less valuable than those of someone else?

You seem like a really sweet guy but you need to *stand up for yourself* a bit. Remember, YOUR TIME is your most precious commodity for you can NEVER get it back once its gone.

She's a nice girl but she gets me into trouble. Like, she dated a guy I'm sort of friends with (dude has been mega nice to me) a long ass time ago and she doesnt' hide the fact she's sweet on me (or whatever) so things have always been slightly weird between him and I because I think he thinks I boned her or some shit and their still talk I gather. Plus, she leaves me facebook messages that really make it look like I've slept with her. Who jokes around about that shit? I fucking have to explain that shit to other girls I AM dating. It hasn't hurt me yet thank christ but man alive if it did, I'd fucking kill her.

Whatever, apart from the bullshit, she's a cool girl and makes me laugh so I'm not gonna be rude. I don't message her much unless I feel bad for not responding for a while, so I guess I'll just keep going with that only minus the feeling bad part.

 

[Bikini Mod]

She's a nice girl but she gets me into trouble. Like, she dated a guy I'm sort of friends with (dude has been mega nice to me) a long ass time ago and she doesnt' hide the fact she's sweet on me (or whatever) so things have always been slightly weird between him and I because I think he thinks I boned her or some shit and their still talk I gather. Plus, she leaves me facebook messages that really make it look like I've slept with her. Who jokes around about that shit? I fucking have to explain that shit to other girls I AM dating. It hasn't hurt me yet thank christ but man alive if it did, I'd fucking kill her.

Whatever, apart from the bullshit, she's a cool girl and makes me laugh so I'm not gonna be rude. I don't message her much unless I feel bad for not responding for a while, so I guess I'll just keep going with that only minus the feeling bad part.

You are WAAAAAAAYYYY too nice.

Surely there are other women out there that are equally funny and who would treat you far more respectfully as their friend?

 

[Nathan]

You are WAAAAAAAYYYY too nice.

Surely there are other women out there that are equally funny and who would treat you far more respectfully as their friend?

Yeah, I've got some of them too. I see this girl like once a month, if that. It's not a tight friendship at all, but we do have mutual friends - she went to high school with a couple buddies. You're right actually, it is lacking in respect. I never thought of it like that - when you're a dude I guess respect stuff doesn't factor in as much. Or something like that. Merci.

 

[heavy_duty]

lol man I love being married.

 

[habitualhealth]

Be yourself and do what you feel comfortable with. Not every guy bangs everything with a vagina and two legs.

we all know you're more of a dingdong with two legs, kinda man.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Yeah, I've got some of them too. I see this girl like once a month, if that. It's not a tight friendship at all, but we do have mutual friends - she went to high school with a couple buddies. You're right actually, it is lacking in respect. I never thought of it like that - when you're a dude I guess respect stuff doesn't factor in as much. Or something like that. Merci.

No trouble at all.

My pleasure actually... too many of us *really nice people* allow ourselves to get steamrolled because we are afraid to hurt other peoples' feelings. When put within the framework of those peeps DISRESPECTING our good nature and taking advantage of us, suddenly we don't feel so bad!

Whether a friend has a vag or not is irrelevant. I told my 13 y/o daughter tonite on the phone that ANYONE regardless of whether they are male/female bf or *just friend* does NOT care about you if they treat you disrespectfully. I don't care what their other redeeming qualities might be. Everything begins (and should end) with respect.

And heavy_duty we echo your sentiments!