Am I the only one who does this?

[Nathan]

A few times over the years, I began a relationship with a girl in sort of "where is this going to go" territory (i.e. I'm not totally into them or else obviously I'd be like purrrrrrr) and it ended up turning into friendships. Now, in a few cases I knew I wasn't interested right off the bat but thought the girl was funny or whatever so never minded her being around. It was weird at first but then things cooled down and we'd be friends and be able to talk openly and crap. And then at that point I'd be glad I took the time to get to know the person and had some good times with them.

Now, I used to wonder why the hell I'd do that shit since a lot of guys just pork the girls anyways, or will just be rude. I'm just a sucker it ends up. I will let people blab on forever and only smile and nod without being rude - even if they weigh like 400lbs and can't string a sentence together to save their life. I somehow try to find something about what they are saying that I find interesting or I agree with, and if I can't I try to get out of their whilst still being polite. I have my limits like everyone, but I do sometimes feel my limit is probably a little farther out there than it is for most.

If I were to calculate how much time I've wasted with that shit over the years, it'd probably be a lot. What I'm trying to say is that I am going to be an asshole from here on out. No more wasting my time, even if I don't feel like I am wasting it. If I don't feel the need or see an opening to use a person for something, I'm just not going to bother anymore.

 

[H_T_]

nothing is a waste of time, as long as you're paying attention....

 

[alien amp pharm]

 

[calveless wonder]

I know plenty of people like that. It's not a bad thing if you can find the balance. YOu have to be open to listening to people and hearing what they have to say, but if the minute you realize you're wasting your time, walk away or distance yourself or whatever. You just need to make minor adjustments


i'm pretty blunt when it comes to that. i used to be a jerk about it, and very direct but now i'm a little more civil. I still make my intentions clear and i don't really subject myself to people i don't watn to be around. sure it means i'm alone more sometimes, but i rather be by myself than with boring or lame people.

i've dismissed alot of girls or people because of that, but it worked out when i did. being picky and not settling shows you have standards

 

[puddlemonkey]

Speaking of wastes...

 

[alien amp pharm]

bro, don't be an asshole to girls.

Be yourself and do what you feel comfortable with. Not every guy bangs everything with a vagina and two legs.

I realize society deems it cool to bang numerous strange chicks. Remember, a lot of those guys are lying and the few others probably have numerous STD's.

Enjoy life, enjoy yourself. Then what happens with females will flow smoothly.

 

[heatherrae]

I have a hard time with that, too. I will have people try to spend lots of time with me, and I just don't have anything in common with them. Sometimes it is very obvious that they want a romantic relationship and there just is NO chemistry on my side. I have a hard time being rude or making people feel bad in any way. So, I try to find a way to cool it off but still be friendly.

 

[all the whey]

I have a hard time with that, too. I will have people try to spend lots of time with me, and I just don't have anything in common with them. Sometimes it is very obvious that they want a romantic relationship and there just is NO chemistry on my side. I have a hard time being rude or making people feel bad in any way. So, I try to find a way to cool it off but still be friendly.

They don't like you either. You just have a vagina.

 

[calveless wonder]

people think they're being nice by doing that, but in the end it's saving everyone trouble. it may be a temporary sting or feeling of rejection, but ultimately it's the best decision for everybody. leading anybody on is poor character.

it's like a client that strings me a long and is just a shit kicker, and then after 2 weeks of still being on the fence he goes "well....i think im going to go with <xyz>" or just avoids my phone calls altogether. you either want to do business with me, or not.

you either want to be date me or not, it's simple.

 

[the_clockwork]

i hate 400lbs... they can't make sentence... poor grammar... that annoy me...