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After 49 years of marriage, my mom recently found out my dad cheated on her 25 years ago.
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seaking420
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25 years ago is along time.......but I do hear what musclemom says, Im sure it ate at her for all these years knowing that he cheated on her but she never had proof of it. That shit could weigh on you for a LONG time
jh1
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musclemom said:
Oh Come On. I understand it's been eating at her for 25 years, but that is clearly her issue at this point. If was eating at her she should have seeked counseling, and if necessary brought him along at some point.
Taking advantage of someone in a mental / phsyical situation in which they can't defend themselves is deplorable and pathetic.
riverrock
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That must hurt like hell. I found out that my partner had been cheating on me with her ex early in our relationship as she tried to decide between giving it a go with me or returning to familiar territory. It hurt like hell finding that out. She said she never told me as she wanted to protect me from being hurt - So I got to spend 2 years in a relationship with someone who proved to be a great liar right from the start. Nobody can stomach a liar, no matter how long ago the offence happened.
Not trying to judge your Dad, just telling you what happened in my relationship and why i was glad to see the back of her.
Not trying to judge your Dad, just telling you what happened in my relationship and why i was glad to see the back of her.
It's not the first time I've heard of it.jh1 said:
You've got to take the age into consideration. Biteme is in his 40s, that means his parents are in about in their 70s if not older than that. 50 year old people did not rush off to marital counseling 25 years ago, or even psychological counseling, for that matter.
Being a woman in your 50s, which is what she would have been when he had the affair, can be precarious and scary. She's dealing with the menopause/getting older thing, and then thinks her husband is cheating on her with a probably younger woman. I can see why she didn't push the issue, but was still dogged by it.
Look, whether you like it or not, all I'm saying is I can understand it.
I know a guy who had a horrible car accident, suffered pretty severe brain damage ... once it was sure he would survive, his wife divorced him because she confirmed that he'd had a few affairs on her while he was loopy from the brain trauma.
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