Either way Leonidas33, you should be represented by a lawyer. Only a fool represents himself in a court of law. You never know if she's got a lawyer behind your back. Hell hath no fury like a woman's scorn! Unless this is mutually agreed on between the two of you and there are no harsh feelings between AND you are both speaking with and getting represented by the same attorney who is filing your case (i'm speaking of those cheap divorce services) I would definitely be represented..She could take you for money, alamony..etc..cover your back.