A ? for the married.

[genetic freak]

How many of you have wives (or husbands) that have taken the time to learn about the bodybuilding lifestyle, and the possible "negative" (opinion) side effects that happen to exist, and have still given you the green light?

In my case, I consider myself very lucky for many reasons.....

 

[kethnaab]

my wife has given me the go-ahead once I get out of the service, but I can't bring any gear into the house for obvious legal reasons.

 

[jc1908]

no, my wife is a huge cardio girl...does 1.5 hrs of cardio a day but eats shit that a catfish would have trouble digesting..she's been around me for 7 yrs now(5 yrs i was not lifting because of torn rotators,but still working out) she wonders why she can't get her BF down even though she's down to like a size 2..but i'm not sure exactly what your q was, but she has a basic understanding of the "life" and the obsession we have. keep in mind i played football for most of my life and i coach my oldest sons team(her step son)..so alot of test flowing in the household..and NO, she has very little knowledge of gear, or what gear i do. it's better that way for me..

 

[BigCracker]

Bodybuilding is the #1 reason I'm 35 and never been married. Any girl that has a decent amount of self respect is not going to play 2nd fiddle to your time at the gym, dietary requirements, and gear budget. I won't even get into the part about living under the same roof with illegal drugs in the house and/or you purchasing them illegally as well. Another factor is your roller coaster sex drive-most chicks can't keep up and resent you for making them do it more than they want to. It makes them feel like a real life plastic fuck doll. Trust me on this, for most chicks the novelty of having a big muscular man for a boyfriend/hubby wears off pretty quick. Their initial attraction to you is based on your appearance, but as they see what it actually involves for you to look like you do, dating some pencilneck doesn't seem so bad.

Think about it like this-you meet some supermodel and fuck the hell out of her. You share a few laughs and go on a few dates that go well. After a few more dates you notice that she's always taking trips to the bathroom to puke up her meal and snort a few lines of blow-or maybe even mainline some heroin? Ultimately she feels that she needs to do these things to be thin. You care about her and try to get her to quit living this unhealthy lifestyle. Good luck. If she quits, she'll resent you for making her quit(no more sex for you partner) and eventually dump you to go back to the only lifestyle that she knows. Why date a girl that has so much emotional baggage when there are other ones out there with much less? Same goes for girls that date bodybuilders.

One solution would be for husband and wifey to both share the same BB lifestyle? But I'd be worried my chick was tapping into my supply of gear 24/7-cuz I know I'd be dipping into her stash as soon as she left the house. lol Seriously, most BB couples I know of have serious drama in their relationship. No thanks.

 

[bittersuit_98]

It could be a catch 22. I guess it's better that if they don't ask then don't tell. If they know that u are using the gear they might freak out on you and it'll take the mile to convince them that gear is safe with all the "if's" inherent to safe use of steroids. Then it comes the legal part of the deal, you know, if you're buying black market juice, should you tell your wife what you're doing to obtain so she is aware in case she notices some suspiscious activity?, or should you u just be very very careful when doing so and keeping your wife and other family members out of trouble?. I've heard some stories here at the EF boards where ex wives or ex gf's turned their ex's in to the cops after spliting up. That's fucking scarry!!!!

 

[genetic freak]

And here we go... that didnt take long.

What I meant by my post is that your signifigant other understands why (personal reason's) and what these drugs are doing. What you have done is demonstrated exactly why I made this post. The general opinion is that the "bodybuilding lifestyle" in the end turns out to be negative. That is not at all where I wanted to go with this, I am merely trying to connect with the people who are informed with the facts.

Either you are a mass monster who has no ability to find the right person or you are very unlucky. Whatever the problem is, I am sorry that you have to feel that way. Better luck next time.

 

[genetic freak]

I did not mean to get into the legal aspects in this post. The fact that nothing illegal has ever entered my home is something that I overlooked when I originally posed this question.

 

[BigCracker]

And here we go... that didnt take long.

What I meant by my post is that your signifigant other understands why (personal reason's) and what these drugs are doing. What you have done is demonstrated exactly why I made this post. The general opinion is that the "bodybuilding lifestyle" in the end turns out to be negative. That is not at all where I wanted to go with this, I am merely trying to connect with the people who are informed with the facts.

Either you are a mass monster who has no ability to find the right person or you are very unlucky. Whatever the problem is, I am sorry that you have to feel that way. Better luck next time.

I'm assuming this was directed towards me, so please allow me to retort. First of all 99% of marriages are a total joke. Lying, infidelity, and leading a secret life behind your spouse's back are all too common. How many guys do you know that cheat on their wives? And if a married/commited guy is so fugly that he's incapable of getting laid elsewhere, that doesn't count as monogomy in my book. Most guys are only as faithful as their options. Just because I don't want to settle down with someone that I need to hide my bad habits from doesn't mean I'm incapable of finding someone to be with long term. I simply refuse to pretend that I'm someone that I'm not for anyone. Why should I end up a part of our rising 60% divorce rate statistic? Unlike most guys, if I have to hide anything, or if I can't act a certain way when my woman is around, I'd rather be sentenced to a life of loneliness and internet porn. Some guys are so insecure they'll completely become a different person to keep their steady supply of ass around. Ex. "Honey, I'm natural, not like those steeeer-oid gorillas on espn. I love you and the kids too much to put my health on the line. Can I massage your back???" 20 minutes later this guy's at work banging his secretary on his desk-before working out he slams 1500mgs of sustanon. IMNSHO that's not a marriage-it's a legally binding contract that will affect you until your children are 18 and nothing more. I'm not knocking anybody for living their life with a social mask on 24/7. I just think it's difficult to remain in a honest, healthy, relationship with someone if you're going to hide your gear use from them for the sake of keeping the peace. Who knows? Maybe your old lady is banging the mailman and she hides it from you for the sake of keeping the peace in your relationship? Betrayal comes in many forms-a needle in your ass? or another guy's cock in your old lady's ass? Lying is lying. Lying by omission is lying too. I'm sure there are girls out there that won't care about your roid use-but it's been my experience that after a few yrs the lifestyle will inevitably become an issue.

 

[djsf]

This is shaping up to be a very interesting thread...

 

[phatrr]

Let me start by saying that mrs. phatrr rocks!

It might be a sham of a marriage, hell, we've only been at it 15 years, what do we know. This trust (and it's a mutual thing) extends to other areas. Just the other night at a dinner party some of the wives/gf's were saying "I wouldn't let my husband/bf do that". Mrs. phatrr said "I trust phatrr to do what he needs to do and what is right for him. He won't do anything retarded crazy."