A few relationship questions

[seaking420]

I have a few relationship questions for all of you;

Would/can you cheat on someone if you truly love them? Or that dosent even cross your mind because you love them so much.

Would you stay in a relationship, mariage or long term dating if you are just content, or should you find true happiness- is that even possible after years of being together

How do you tell the difference between being inlove with someone or just loving someone

 

[Bikini Mod]

I have a few relationship questions for all of you;

Would/can you cheat on someone if you truly love them? Or that dosent even cross your mind because you love them so much.

Love has nothing to do with it in my mind. It is about pride and commitment for me. Once I give my word, it is my bond. That is just the way I am wired.

Would you stay in a relationship, mariage or long term dating if you are just content, or should you find true happiness- is that even possible after years of being together

Marriage - absolutely, isn't that the goal? To be content? ...and I do not understand that there is a difference between being content and being happy. For me, I can not be happy if I am dissatisfied.

How do you tell the difference between being inlove with someone or just loving someone

I don't see a difference. Either I love them or I don't.

For me love is not nearly as important as LIKE. You get married for hormones, not love. If you still REALLY LIKE someone after the hormones have subsided then the relationship is not only a good one, but a GREAT one. Love is something that you find TOGETHER along the way.

 

[ponyfitness]

I have a few relationship questions for all of you;

Would/can you cheat on someone if you truly love them? Or that dosent even cross your mind because you love them so much.

Would you stay in a relationship, mariage or long term dating if you are just content, or should you find true happiness- is that even possible after years of being together

How do you tell the difference between being inlove with someone or just loving someone

I think you can cheat on anyone but if you're with the right partner, the thought won't even cross your mind because the person you're with fulfills you that way. Cheating is about emotional support and/or physical lust and if you don't have either of those, then you're in the wrong relationship.

I think you should never settle for a relationship that doesn't make you truly happy. I just ended a 3.5 year relationship just because of that. There was nothing wrong, but it wasn't completely fulfilling and not 100% what I wanted in a partner. I woke up one day and realized I could spend the rest of my life settling for what I had or start looking for what I really wanted. So I left.

Love is a very relative term. To me I think it's a feeling I've only had a couple of times where I look at the person and just fill up wth emotion about how incredible they are and how they make me feel.

 

[Sub-Zero]

if you find someone your "in love with" then she doesnt love you. one person being in love with another automatically gives a free ride to the other and causes them to never love back

guys dont cheat when they are"in love" but women do

 

[velvett]

if you find someone your "in love with" then she doesnt love you. one person being in love with another automatically gives a free ride to the other and causes them to never love back

Huh?

guys dont cheat when they are"in love" but women do

^^ OMG so not true.
Men and women cheat for all sorts of reasons in love or not - there's no blanket statement to cover everyone.

 

[H_T_]

some deep questions, or at least nothing that can be answered in one word. gonna cheat and claim or think you love them? sounds like some serious confusion. cheating is a pretty devastating act, especially since you went and gained someones trust first.

trust is harder to come by than love. love can't be violated, trust can be....

 

[vixensghost]

Cheat? Nope, I respect myself and husband too much!

Years of being 2-gether and still happy? Happiness in a marriage is a 24/7 job. However, there are times we both work overtime.

 

[H_T_]

if people would follow their own roads, instead of chasing after others, there'd be more happiness in the world...

 

[reno240]

I have a few relationship questions for all of you;

Would/can you cheat on someone if you truly love them? Or that dosent even cross your mind because you love them so much.

Would you stay in a relationship, mariage or long term dating if you are just content, or should you find true happiness- is that even possible after years of being together

How do you tell the difference between being inlove with someone or just loving someone

My answers:

Absolutely you can cheat on someone you love. It doesn't mean you don't love them - it just means you can't control yourself.

Yes I would. True happiness is being content with your partner. Searching for some crazy romantic, always happy and laughing relationship is never gonna happen. As for the second part - yes.

Loving someone - You hope she gets what she wants you care deeply for her.
In love with someone - You hope the two of you get what you want together and you care deeply for her.

 

[vixensghost]

My answers:

Absolutely you can cheat on someone you love. It doesn't mean you don't love them - it just means you can't control yourself.

How does one control the guilt?

Sorry, I'd not be able to look him in the eyes again. Trust me, I do not lie very well either.

 

[cindylou]

I think content and trust go hand in hand

love has nothing to do with either.

The thing about love is wierd. Only you feel it. The only way the other person can know that you love them is by showing them in actions. But still ultimately - you are the only one who can feel your own love. They cant feel it for you. lol

Dont cheat! Ever! It will fuck a relationship so bad. I would not want to even bother working on a relationship if the trust factor is gone. Thats the most conforting part of a relationship. There is no fucking way I'd be with a man and commit my precious time to him if I cant be sure that he wont fuck around on me.

I think you can still love someone and cheat. But by cheating you show you love yourself more than the other person, which questions the fact if you really ever loved them or not....... lol never mind.

 

[H_T_]

How does one control the guilt?

Sorry, I'd not be able to look him in the eyes again. Trust me, I do not lie very well either.

that's the worse part. how do you live with yourself when that other person looks at you. gives you that look of love and trust and happiness.

 

[retsiger]

some deep questions, or at least nothing that can be answered in one word. gonna cheat and claim or think you love them? sounds like some serious confusion. cheating is a pretty devastating act, especially since you went and gained someones trust first.

trust is harder to come by than love. love can't be violated, trust can be....

so true.

 

[vixensghost]

that's the worse part. how do you live with yourself when that other person looks at you. gives you that look of love and trust and happiness.

No idea. I'm NOT willing to find out that feeling either!'Dis woman likes to sleep at night with a clean conscience.

 

[H_T_]

No idea. I'm NOT willing to find out that feeling either!'Dis woman likes to sleep at night with a clean conscience.

sleeping well is a good measure of success.....

 

[covergrl80]

I have a few relationship questions for all of you;

Would/can you cheat on someone if you truly love them? Or that dosent even cross your mind because you love them so much.

Would you stay in a relationship, mariage or long term dating if you are just content, or should you find true happiness- is that even possible after years of being together

How do you tell the difference between being inlove with someone or just loving someone

Never cheat. Just not something I could ever do. I am not a mean person and that is one of the worst things you could ever do to a person that loves you.

Relationships are work!! The shit sure as hell does not come with a handbook so you have to give it everything you have, ad use your best judgment. Everyone is different. I would not stay with someone just because I was content. I need to feel in love.

You love your friends and your are supposed to be in love with your S/O

All this coming from a girl that has been single for about a year. I am not sure you should take my advice

 

[vixensghost]

sleeping well is a good measure of success.....

OMG..What is wrong with you today? You got your period or something? You almost sound human?

 

[Tytan]

Lust! It`s a powerful drug. Cheating for whatever reason is just a lack of respect and self-control.

 

[H_T_]

OMG..What is wrong with you today? You got your period or something? You almost sound human?

drop dead twice...

 

[vixensghost]

drop dead twice...

Much better! lol

 

[seaking420]

trust is harder to come by than love. love can't be violated, trust can be....

very true


I think content means that you are OK with your situation but it can be better.

Relationships are work!!

you are so right, but Ill be honest sometimes I dont want to work at it. I work enough during the day at my actual work to go home and work some more. Sometimes I think its just easier to be single

 

[reno240]

How does one control the guilt?

Sorry, I'd not be able to look him in the eyes again. Trust me, I do not lie very well either.

Don't know - and I don't plan to try and find out, but that wasn't the question. The question was - can you cheat on someone you love? My answer is absolutely you can. However, I don't feel it's possible to have an affair on someone you love...