A date went bad...........

[Sanel27]

After seeing this really HOT chick at my brother-in-laws party i get him to set us up.

Date didnt really start off well because she couldnt find the place and i started getting frustrated while waiting by the bar.......so i get a few drinks.......bad idea, as when i drink i get loose with my lips and talk a lot.

For a first date i spilled all my beans, life, work, studies, poor chick didnt have much time to talk. I did all the talking (DAMN JOHNNY WALKER Black), after half hour or so i started sobering up and saw that the chick basically wanted out. She told her friends she likes the way i look but seems like i turned her off cause i wasnt a good listener. She wouldnt say........

I really, really like her........i wanted a re-do so as i was dropping her off home (my driving must have scared her as well) I told her to stay in contact.

She did......e-mailed me few hours later telling me she had fun BUT she would like to stay friends.......

I dont want that, do i let it go cause i blew my chances and forget about her?

or...

Do i do something about it?

 

[jnevin]

How can you like her so much after seeing her so few times? Might want to check that and don't drink so much next date you have.

 

[stilleto]

it can't hurt to try.
i would be honest and email her- tell her that while you were waiting for her, you were nervous and had a few drinks, which was a mistake because it makes you talk way more than you normally do. Tell her you know you weren't a great listener, but that's not who you really are and that you'd love a second chance. tell her you had really looked forward to the date and promise to be a little more charming the second time around.

if she says no, no harm done.

 

[Sanel27]

How can you like her so much after seeing her so few times? Might want to check that and don't drink so much next date you have.

I've seen her in a circle of friends more than few times.......we werent really friends but spoke to each other......i know her bro's, friends, everything. I thought she liked me cause before the date she was giving me the looks and signals. I hope i didnt misinterpret them, but why did she agree to a date.......I BLEW IT with my big mouth

I dont know how to repair it, cause i do want to go out with her again, just doesnt seem like she'll give me another shot

 

[jnevin]

I've seen her in a circle of friends more than few times.......we werent really friends but spoke to each other......i know her bro's, friends, everything. I thought she liked me cause before the date she was giving me the looks and signals. I hope i didnt misinterpret them, but why did she agree to a date.......I BLEW IT with my big mouth

I dont know how to repair it, cause i do want to go out with her again, just doesnt seem like she'll give me another shot

Well then tread lightly and like stooletto said, just go ahead and try to be friends and see if she'll give you another shot. If she gets to know you a little better, she may be willing. Worst case, you find out that you wouldn't have been good together and there weren't any relationshipish emotions involved that would put you in SWV status.

 

[swole]

move forward, consider yourself lucky she even emailed you...respect it.

if you see her out don't be all over her shit

we're not going to get every girl we want borly, and next time ease up on the alky

and next time, meet up where you know people so you can engage in other conversations instead of focusing just on her...maybe a double/group date

then, once you establish memories and common ground do something alone

if you really want to fuck with her next time you know she'll be around grab a hawt date to establish some social value

 

[H_T_]

wow. i mean, you know what you did. and yet you couldn't stop yourself.....you're the perfect disaster. so, you totally dumped on her, eh? you didn't cry or anything, did you?

 

[timtim]

I've seen her in a circle of friends more than few times.......we werent really friends but spoke to each other......i know her bro's, friends, everything. I thought she liked me cause before the date she was giving me the looks and signals. I hope i didnt misinterpret them, but why did she agree to a date.......I BLEW IT with my big mouth

I dont know how to repair it, cause i do want to go out with her again, just doesnt seem like she'll give me another shot

she WAS interested until you fucked it up. now she probably thinks you are a self absorbed lush (you said you held a heavy hand over the conversation and drank too much and drove like shit). dont chase her. if you know the same circle of people she will spread the word that are a weirdo, then none of the chicks in that extended circle will flick your pickle.


next time remember the 1 major key to getting a chick into you:

ask dozens of open ended questions about them and let them monopolize the conversation for the first 2 to 3 dates, depends on the chick. remember all the small details and spit them back at her as you cross reference stories. its a no fail situation.

 

[all the whey]

I've seen her in a circle of friends more than few times.......we werent really friends but spoke to each other......i know her bro's, friends, everything. I thought she liked me cause before the date she was giving me the looks and signals. I hope i didnt misinterpret them, but why did she agree to a date.......I BLEW IT with my big mouth

I dont know how to repair it, cause i do want to go out with her again, just doesnt seem like she'll give me another shot

Tell her that it is cool you are just friends.

Then, forget about her and learn from your mistakes. Date other women.

If she likes you at all. This will make her want you more than if you keep asking her out. You will come off desparate.

Whenever, you see her just act friendly. Don't talk to her too much. But, don't avoid her or act pissed.



Next time remember that you are supposed to get her drunk! Not you!@#$!1

 

[Sanel27]

wow. i mean, you know what you did. and yet you couldn't stop yourself.....you're the perfect disaster. so, you totally dumped on her, eh? you didn't cry or anything, did you?

LOL, no way, cant cry even if i wanted to.

move forward, consider yourself lucky she even emailed you...respect it.

if you see her out don't be all over her shit

we're not going to get every girl we want borly, and next time ease up on the alky

and next time, meet up where you know people so you can engage in other conversations instead of focusing just on her...maybe a double/group date

then, once you establish memories and common ground do something alone

if you really want to fuck with her next time you know she'll be around grab a hawt date to establish some social value

Seems like i'll do exactly that, seems like i cant have her....so i wont dwell on it too long. Its just that i wish i didnt blow it.......