I didn't mean to imply that anyone who has to put a family member into a home is in any way wrong. Believe me, I'm a neurology transcriptionist, plus both my ex husband's grandfather and my current husband's mom ended up in the nursing home, I have nothing but empathy for the who situation. We need to work, they need care, and viritually nobody gets long term care insurance that will pay for the aids. My point was that when it comes to life, quantity isn't necessarily the single benchmark for success.
I listen to so many stories of people who are in nursing homes, they show up in my doctor's offices with no family members, no medical records, the nurses at the home have no idea who these people are, and the patient's are completely befuddled and it's one of my biggest fears, seriously. It's one of the reasons the work is wearing me down, in fact.