Should adult children who still live with their parents pay room and board?

[bakemeacookie]

great big 20 year old and still having Mummy take care of me. For shame...

So you'd rather live in some crappy low income apartment, pay for electricity, cable, gas, cheap food, etc. and go into debt using your credit cards, etc. because being poor and going into debt is a great way to show you're an adult.

Great life decisions await you in adult life then.

c

 

[jiggagold]

lol @ living at home = being coddled by your parents, i guess being a good parent is allowing your kids to go into massive debt and destroy their futures by settling with a sub par job to pay off loans because they took the first job offered in a saturated job market where everyone has their undergrad

 

[SpyWizard]

lol @ living at home = being coddled by your parents, i guess being a good parent is allowing your kids to go into massive debt and destroy their futures by settling with a sub par job to pay off loans because they took the first job offered in a saturated job market where everyone has their undergrad

Yea, kids today are entitled to a higher education, no debt and everything handed to them, after all they didn't ask to be born.. they don't owe the parents or society anything.. right??

 

[Mr. dB]

Yea, kids today are entitled to a higher education, no debt and everything handed to them, after all they didn't ask to be born.. they don't owe the parents or society anything.. right??

If the parents can afford it, and the kids aren't fuckups, then yeah, pretty much.

 

[cindylou]

I lived on my own and scraped by because I didn't want to abide by the rules of my parents as an adult. I learned a lot about what it's like to be poor too and live paycheck to paycheck. I learned valuable lessons and it was worth it.

That being said, my parents would never charge me rent for living with them if I had chosen to do so.

 

[blueta2]

These are all good responses, but since when is 20 a child? My understanding is that childhood ends at 18.
The more we coddle children, the more of a sense of entitlement they have in their adult life-leading them out of reality IMO.
I would be ashamed of myself to be a great big 20 year old and still having Mummy take care of me. For shame...

20 is not a child by any means and I agree, kids today are terribly coddled and can't even function on their own.
I don't think that has anything to do with allowing kids to live at home though, it has to do with teaching kids responsibilty at a young age.
Even though I came from some money, my parents were dirt poor growing up, so they taught my sisters and I how to be responsible. No free rides, I had to work at 16, do my own laundry, clean my room, clean the house and my sisters and I took turns doing the groceries. I was doing the family groceries at 16.
My friends who's parents kicked them out before 18 all turned out to be troubled, all my friends who stayed at home all turned out to be well adjusted. So hard to judge really!

 

[trex74]

So you'd rather live in some crappy low income apartment, pay for electricity, cable, gas, cheap food, etc. and go into debt using your credit cards, etc. because being poor and going into debt is a great way to show you're an adult.

Great life decisions await you in adult life then.

c

Actually, working my way through university while taking a student loan allowed me to have plenty of money while studying, and to be able to pay off my debt in 4 years. It is a good way to show that you are ready for bigger financial decisions like a mortgage.
Being an adult means you are self-sufficient.

 

[TC2]

and we tried this experiment once.....its not that he can't spend his money, he can't have every day access to it or he just nickel and dimes it to death...

its kinda how bill mentioned earlier in the thread..

but more like
"do we have the money to go buy a new snowblower?"
"yeah sure, how much you wanna spend"
"uhhh like 3 grand?"
"uhm, really? try again"
"ok, 1500"
"yeah, take it out of account xyz..and buy a cover for it too while your at it"

and I make sure all the bills are paid...his allowance is a lil bigger than bills tho...hmmm
he is incapable of keeping track of everything and not fucking up

Hearing that makes me want to finish the job and take your husbands balls out of your purse and put them in a garbage disposal.

Sounds like a child asking mommy for money...fuck that shit.

 

[TC2]

Yea, kids today are entitled to a higher education, no debt and everything handed to them, after all they didn't ask to be born.. they don't owe the parents or society anything.. right??

Yep..I see a fuck ton of grown ass FAMILIES..mother,kids and husband...living at the inlaws house.

 

[billfred]

Hearing that makes me want to finish the job and take your husbands balls out of your purse and put them in a garbage disposal.

Sounds like a child asking mommy for money...fuck that shit.

Ball