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No.
Fuck no.
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Fuck no.
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you don't end my threads
but, I wouldn't forgive either. my infamous brother in law got his ass busted so we had to evict his ass last night. but he knows how to wriggle his way out of a shit storm so I'm trying to figure out the best way to deal with it without my sister hating me. that bitch needs a little fear put in him though
but, I wouldn't forgive either. my infamous brother in law got his ass busted so we had to evict his ass last night. but he knows how to wriggle his way out of a shit storm so I'm trying to figure out the best way to deal with it without my sister hating me. that bitch needs a little fear put in him though
Depends, physically cheating or emotionally cheating?
Also depends how you find out - caught in the action probably no way. If he/she admits they're wrong and is remorseful then there is a chance you can work through it if you want to.
Also depends how you find out - caught in the action probably no way. If he/she admits they're wrong and is remorseful then there is a chance you can work through it if you want to.
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TableFun
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Get creative with some thermite.
Don't go easy on him.
What would your grandpa do in your position? If he was your age and size?
Do that.
What would your grandpa do in your position? If he was your age and size?
Do that.
what the fuck did I just say about ending my threads!
My sister's first husband cheated on her and then slapped her in the face when she confronted him with proof. I was about 14 at the time and went with my dad to pick her up because she was crying too hard to drive when she called him.
He was dead silent the whole way there, never played the radio or looked away from the road once for the entire half hour drive. When we got there he calmly put my sister in the car and told me to call the ambulance, and walked back inside. He threw that faggot through a bathroom door, through glass sliding shower doors into the bathtub and beat him nearly to death with his bare hands.
He got away with zero charges after they saw the marks on my sister and Dad told them the guy swung at him first. Idk if he really did or not.
Cool story I know, but my point is that shit doesn't fly
He was dead silent the whole way there, never played the radio or looked away from the road once for the entire half hour drive. When we got there he calmly put my sister in the car and told me to call the ambulance, and walked back inside. He threw that faggot through a bathroom door, through glass sliding shower doors into the bathtub and beat him nearly to death with his bare hands.
He got away with zero charges after they saw the marks on my sister and Dad told them the guy swung at him first. Idk if he really did or not.
Cool story I know, but my point is that shit doesn't fly
oh, if he put his hands on her, he'd be in the hospital today. my dad has told him point blank he'd put a bullet in his head if he ever thought about putting his hands on her after I got on his head for an argument they let get out of hand earlier this year. the bitch doesn't learn fast enough I guess.
bro if he'd put his hands on her he'd be hurting today. I beat his ass earlier this year for an argument I didn't like the sounds of and pops point blank threatened to put a bullet in his head if he ever thought about putting his hands on her. that fucker was hitting me with the Q ball trying to get me off his head. the fucker didn't learn obviously
I just climbed out of the deer stand to find out she let his ass come back home. I need a fucking joint.
blueta2
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Not my last ex, but two ex's before cheated and it was the most painful thing I ever experienced. I have forgiven them because I know their actions came from pain. It was not easy and I still get flashbacks, but the pain they caused made me tougher.
It did a lot of damage though.....it's a tough one.
It did a lot of damage though.....it's a tough one.
I saw the divorce packet for Florida this week, I'm not doing all that ppw
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Lmfao!!
Nothing like being able to get married in 3 damn days or less..Yet, a divorce lasts well over a year!
I learned the hard way.
Lmfao!!
Nothing like being able to get married in 3 damn days or less..Yet, a divorce lasts well over a year!
I learned the hard way.
Divorce is forever
It's just not forgettable. If there are kids involved I might try to stick around but that might backfire bc then the kids sense dissension.
ridiculous right? lsat week a client asked me to print it for her I was like WTF is all this BS, I couldn't hold it with a paper clip it was huuuuge!Lmfao!!
Nothing like being able to get married in 3 damn days or less..Yet, a divorce lasts well over a year!
I learned the hard way.
I've tried and it didn't work.
I think 2 things may stand out for me
A. I'd be angry he fucked someone else and not me(if I got it 2-3x a week I'd prob resent it way less)
2. I'd feel entitled to having some on the side at some point as well, though fair it wouldnt be justified/correct
So many things factor in... who, why, when, where, how many times, was it physical or emotional, etc.
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my ex did it, I didn't give a shit...I just sampled men myself
probably proof it wasn't much of a marriage, it just didn't mean too much to me.
probably proof it wasn't much of a marriage, it just didn't mean too much to me.
Agreed...it's not a one size fits all answer. No pun intended lol
For me, it was more about him...how open and honest was he? how remorseful was he? Was he willing to be as transparent as needed for as long as it took? Which was the biggie for me...he wasn't. I should have been over it in a couple days. If he's more sorry he got caught, he'll likely do it again and life is too short to live with that nagging little voice in the back of your head wondering what's happening.
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"Is the fucking you're getting, worth the fucking you're getting?"
lol nope!
unfortunately nothing
best fucking thing to ever happen to me
best fucking thing to ever happen to me
I was utterly betrayed
I temporarily was separated from my older daughters and all my shit was stolen from property, to furniture to family photographs (he burned them) to my bank accounts
time really does heal all wounds man, my perspective is totally different on the matter now
I temporarily was separated from my older daughters and all my shit was stolen from property, to furniture to family photographs (he burned them) to my bank accounts
time really does heal all wounds man, my perspective is totally different on the matter now
Real men admit that shit bro. I feel that way with my girl regarding being in love but it's hard because people can be messed up.
lol he wouldn't cheat on me.
Does forgive mean stick around? Or does forgive mean to forgive? I can stay with someone for one mistake, but I probably wouldn't stick around with a lot of lying/cover up stuff happening or a full blown physical/emotional affair.
Even all that said it would depend on what they said, if their remorse was genuine, if they wanted to work it out or not and how I felt.
I might be weird like that though and maybe something's wrong with me. idk. I've never had a set code of conduct on how someone was to behave with me. I never saw people as like, you know robots who were to never make any mistakes but that's not really a good way to be looking back on it. Lol. I don't know if I'm like that anymore, or what. Hope not to find out!
I think it's important to forgive though either way.
lol he wouldn't cheat on me.
Does forgive mean stick around? Or does forgive mean to forgive? I can stay with someone for one mistake, but I probably wouldn't stick around with a lot of lying/cover up stuff happening or a full blown physical/emotional affair.
Even all that said it would depend on what they said, if their remorse was genuine, if they wanted to work it out or not and how I felt.
I might be weird like that though and maybe something's wrong with me. idk. I've never had a set code of conduct on how someone was to behave with me. I never saw people as like, you know robots who were to never make any mistakes but that's not really a good way to be looking back on it. Lol. I don't know if I'm like that anymore, or what. Hope not to find out!
I think it's important to forgive though either way.
Good point! Forgiveness doesn't mean necessarily staying.
I don't agree with the time heals EVERYTHING...I agree, time finally healed my past marriage (the feelings I had for her) but the betrayal part is another hurdle...I am really insecure now..it sucks, it's not fair for the amazing girl I have now..I just try to get better day by day..
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Money is money. That was an issue at the beginning. Not now, she's the mother of my boys and I have to come to terms to realize I have to deal with her the rest of my life..it's a difficult situation but I also have come to terms that she deserves to be happy, no matter what she did to me...obviously I wasn't making her happy....
What's funny is that she texts me stuff like "I miss you so much"..."I made such a wrong mistake and I'm going to regret it my whole life" and to be honest, it doesn't hurt when she texts me that..I think it's part of my "moving forward" process....the crazy thing is, if someone said "Are you over your ex completely?" I could answer with a "yes"
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What's funny is that she texts me stuff like "I miss you so much"..."I made such a wrong mistake and I'm going to regret it my whole life" and to be honest, it doesn't hurt when she texts me that..I think it's part of my "moving forward" process....the crazy thing is, if someone said "Are you over your ex completely?" I could answer with a "yes"
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Does your girlfriend know your ex texts you that stuff??
Honestly, like 2 years after....it was tough at the beginning but I know I have a better life now...I really hopes she finds someone...everyone deserves to be happy -java and Redscam
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All of the stuff you are saying about letting it go is text book regarding how to handle situations such as these. But how many of us could actually handle everything in that manner? It takes a lot of discipline and introspective analyzation to establish that disposition.
I had a rough relationship in 2007 right after a close friend passed away from cancer. On one hand it gave me a blueprint for what I wanted. On the other hand I really didn't let my guard down until this year.
Seriously bro,I admire your resilience.
Thanks brother! I'm really sorry to hear about your friend...that's terrible...it was a long road, time does heal most messes...just some I think stay with you forever mentally...maybe I just need more time, I don't know...everyone handles things in a different way.
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Thanks a lot man. My sitch w the female involved deca and no prami, taking a huge pay cut to go back to college and losing a friend. You's was way more involved so the fact you have a great girl now and can hope for the best for your old girl is awesome. At 2 years, I still was pretty down. Im fact, the only sedentary points in my life were 07-09. That was the issue. I handled it so poorly that it jacked up my confidence. To be in your position at your point in time is awesome. Your new girl will probably appreciate it more. It seems we all deserve a mulligan with the opposite sex.
I don't believe everyone deserves to be happy, but you do. Glad you have a better life now
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kx250rider
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It depends on the circumstances. I can say that it would be very closed-minded if I answered that question based on a hypothetical situation ;-)
Charles
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Shoot girl...My docket is so HUGE. I spent almost a full year, 11 months to be exact fighting for my divorce. Was the longest process in the world and there was nothing but paperwork every where I turned.
Let's not forget to mention that the price outweighs HUGELY...Marriage is cheap compared to a divorce. Dropped well over 15,000 on an attorney not to mention all the fees to get him served from the constable and such!
Yes, divorce is forever. But one could argue that marriage is as well! Or so one thinks when they get married...
I've seen "divorce for $299" signs around town lolol im guessing that's amicable, childless, assetless marriages
Yup. If everyone is civilized then you can get off the hook relatively painlessly. You have an asshole who fights you, refuses to be reasonable, purposely drags their feet, you need a lawyer. Every scrap of paper that law office generates, every phone call they make, everything they file, you can literally hear the cash register ringing up. My divorce probably cost me about $6,000 after all was said and done.I've seen "divorce for $299" signs around town lolol im guessing that's amicable, childless, assetless marriages
there's a $430 fee here just for filing it on your own, which means that $299 sign is really $730 minimum, it's only the "services" of the lawyer and I'm guessing only if it's simple.
blueta2
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Though my parents have been happily married for 57 yrs, I always knew marriage was a mistake. I never got married (was common law) and never want to get married. I also had a bad "man picker" so met men who were so dysfunctional that there was no way marriage was even an option.
My man picker (I am happy to say) has improved dramatically, but still won't ever get married.
Long term happy relationships are a thing of the past......
My man picker (I am happy to say) has improved dramatically, but still won't ever get married.
Long term happy relationships are a thing of the past......
blueta2
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I think Red deserves happiness. He's a good guy, he just doesn't resonate with you.
Do I think everyone deserves happiness? Well, even to those who bring misery to others, I think they deserve to become better people, but ultimately, I think every soul deserves peace.
