Would you ever cut ties

[Frisky]

with a SO because he couldn't keep up with you sexually? Not that the sex is bad.

What if everything else is perfect? Both have the same goals in life, same lifestyle. Get along great and enjoy spending time together?

Whats the deal breaker for you?


and before you even ask... the answer is NO

 

[Bikini Mod]

I have an extremely strong drive but if the man fulfilled me in every other aspect of our relationship then I would stay WITHOUT HESITATION. I've had more than enough sex and not nearly enough kindness.

 

[KillahBee]

honestly tough to say. to keep it on the real, I would keep her and get my sex on the side. which is of course a dangerous situation.

 

[Frisky]

I have an extremely strong drive but if the man fulfilled me in every other aspect of our relationship then I would stay WITHOUT HESITATION. I've had more than enough sex and not nearly enough kindness.

Have you gone thru this in a relationship with out frustration?

 

[Frisky]

honestly tough to say. to keep it on the real, I would keep her and get my sex on the side. which is of course a dangerous situation.

You see this is what i was thinking would eventually happen. Sure its all good for a limited amt of time but IMO a relationship should equal out on all aspects. Sex, mental stimulation, etc. Sooner or later it seems one would seek fulfillment elsewhere.

 

[KillahBee]

You see this is what i was thinking would eventually happen. Sure its all good for a limited amt of time but IMO a relationship should equal out on all aspects. Sex, mental stimulation, etc. Sooner or later it seems one would seek fulfillment elsewhere.

But keep in mind that I am only 26. But sexual chemistry is EASILY one of the top success factors in a relationship for me. I don't think it would be the breaking factor though, cause it's sort of a temporary thing. If my girl was on point with everything else AND I was looking for a real serious situation, I wouldn't want to lose her. But yeah, eventually I'd either start hitting up the local mall on a Fri evening for some 18yo tang or go on eros.com and dip into my expendable income.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Have you gone thru this in a relationship with out frustration?

The relationships that I had had (with the exception of my marriage) were all EXCELLENT sexually. When I was married I had no idea how unfulfilled I was sexually because I didn't know of anything else. I always got off so I assumed my exhusband was a good lover. Then we split and I ventured out and realized a lot of my ex's shortcomings. It wasn't that he was a caring lover, it was just that I was so easy to get off.

I LOVE good sex. Matter of fact I wont stay in the bed if it isn't GREAT. I have actually told the guy to stop and take me home. (The last "fling" I had - was nearly a year ago - it sucked and have no desire to do "that" again.) But the quality of the sex had nothing to do with the guy and everything to do with me. Meaning, I didn't know him well enough to let REAL attraction build. It was just about me being horny and oh well, he was there.

But I have found that when I have been fortunate to find someone that I connected to on many levels (this takes a lot because I am very fickle, choosy and quirky) the sex was ALWAYS MINDBLOWING. But that was the least important part of why I was in the bed in the first place.

Honestly, if my partner could no longer give me ANY sexual pleasure I would be satisfied to masterbate.

I have been treated very poorly in the past so all I care about is how kind a man is to me and that he be a loving role model and influence on my children.

 

[alien amp pharm]

Buncha nympho freaks

 

[Frisky]

But keep in mind that I am only 26. But sexual chemistry is EASILY one of the top success factors in a relationship for me. I don't think it would be the breaking factor though, cause it's sort of a temporary thing. If my girl was on point with everything else AND I was looking for a real serious situation, I wouldn't want to lose her. But yeah, eventually I'd either start hitting up the local mall on a Fri evening for some 18yo tang or go on eros.com and dip into my expendable income.

Sexual desire is high up on my list too. If im not with someone im fine but when I am and im sexually attracted to them thats a whole other jar of worms. Then sex is an everyday bonding for me. I believe men and women look at some things differently and of course on most ocassions once she takes a bite of that wedding cake her sex drive goes to shit. lol

I for one am easily pleased with simple things, like kisses and cuddling. Just a long quiet candle light night of holding each other. Never been in a relationship where i was not satisfied and felt that i'd need to seek any of that elsewhere.


On a side note, what if the problem was medical?

Maybe something that had to due with a hormonal imbalance... or maybe something that happend later in the relationship.. like confinded to a wheel chair and paralized? You've spent an extended amt of time with this person, are not married to them but are serious?

Do you still stick around knowing sex will be non existant?

 

[BrothaBill]

Sex is like a short period of time out of one's life. If sex is the most important thing in a person's relationship that they would cut ties then bad sex is the least of the problems going on with themselves

 

[Frisky]

Sex is like a short period of time out of one's life. If sex is the most important thing in a person's relationship that they would cut ties then bad sex is the least of the problems going on with themselves

Not saying bad sex, more along the lines of not enough sex.. maybe even no sex.

Or what if you wanted a family and something tragic happened to your so, not yet married but realize you couldn't have said family together?

Though its shouldn't be the most important aspect of any relationship, it is more than just a pleasure two people experience together. I view sex as a very personal intimate time with my mate.

 

[*MissFit*]

If i really loved the person i dont think i would.

 

[Frisky]

Buncha nympho freaks

we all know your answer

 

[BrothaBill]

Not saying bad sex, more along the lines of not enough sex.. maybe even no sex.

Or what if you wanted a family and something tragic happened to your so, not yet married but realize you couldn't have said family together?

Though its shouldn't be the most important aspect of any relationship, it is more than just a pleasure two people experience together. I view sex as a very personal intimate time with my mate.

I think everyone does and it should be a natural extension of the love two people should have but as you mention, there are issues that can arise that interfere with sex, medical and others. Giving up on a relationship based simply on sex means the relationship was not good in the first place or the person ending lacks the ability to love unconditionally. Some people are so guarded that they cannot love another person fully.

The I can understand that if a person who doesnt fully love the other person ends it b/c they are not getting pleased sexually. But that means it was more of a fuck buddy labeled as a relationship. I work with older people so I guess Im a bit used to see the end results of people who have people who care for them fully and then there are the people that only 'wanted' things, it was all about what other people could do for them and they are alone.

It may work out, you find another person who you love that can please you better but then again you may not. Its just a reap what you sow type of deal.
I mean your mate may get injured and not able to perform then again, there's fifty/fifty chance you are the one that gets hurt and paralyzed like that car accident, what if you were paralyzed and the man who loved you dumped you and said your no longer good in the sack. God forbid, I just think there is so much more that can be shared between two people than sex.
I mean its the old in and out.
Sorry to use your accident as an example but Ive seen it working in the medical field

 

[Frisky]

I think everyone does and it should be a natural extension of the love two people should have but as you mention, there are issues that can arise that interfere with sex, medical and others. Giving up on a relationship based simply on sex means the relationship was not good in the first place or the person ending lacks the ability to love unconditionally. Some people are so guarded that they cannot love another person fully.

The I can understand that if a person who doesnt fully love the other person ends it b/c they are not getting pleased sexually. But that means it was more of a fuck buddy labeled as a relationship. I work with older people so I guess Im a bit used to see the end results of people who have people who care for them fully and then there are the people that only 'wanted' things, it was all about what other people could do for them and they are alone.

It may work out, you find another person who you love that can please you better but then again you may not. Its just a reap what you sow type of deal.
I mean your mate may get injured and not able to perform then again, there's fifty/fifty chance you are the one that gets hurt and paralyzed like that car accident, what if you were paralyzed and the man who loved you dumped you and said your no longer good in the sack. God forbid, I just think there is so much more that can be shared between two people than sex.
I mean its the old in and out.
Sorry to use your accident as an example but Ive seen it working in the medical field

I agree, When I finally give my entireity in a relationship (i am a guarded person) i'm not doing it for the sex. Sure, its good to have but not something i couldn't live without. I wouldn't leave someone because of their sexual performance or lack of sex, it would have to be a deeper concern.. or just not completely being into them. On the other hand i also don't believe in just staying with someone because the sex is great, when everything else is shitty.

I've seen my grandparents go thru it, and my great grandparents. That unconditional love is priceless, something everyone deserves.

But there are people that are willing to break off marriages simply due to sex issues.

A relationship that is built on sex, without everything else in check, is doomed to failure. Though of course its possible to have the best of both worlds, but it doesn't always end up that way.

 

[BrothaBill]

I agree, When I finally give my entireity in a relationship (i am a guarded person) i'm not doing it for the sex. Sure, its good to have but not something i couldn't live without. I wouldn't leave someone because of their sexual performance or lack of sex, it would have to be a deeper concern.. or just not completely being into them. On the other hand i also don't believe in just staying with someone because the sex is great, when everything else is shitty.

I've seen my grandparents go thru it, and my great grandparents. That unconditional love is priceless, something everyone deserves.

But there are people that are willing to break off marriages simply due to sex issues.

A relationship that is built on sex, without everything else in check, is doomed to failure. Though of course its possible to have the best of both worlds, but it doesn't always end up that way.

I agree too, Im sure we can come up with some expressions like you build a house, you need a foundation, four walls, a roof etc... lol

 

[Bikini Mod]

I have never heard of a woman ending a relationship because of not being pleased sexually, but I have heard OFTEN of men that ended a marriage because of that same reason.

By and large women need an emotional connection (intimacy) to want sex whereas men need sex to achieve that emotional connection (intimacy). So if these two are not in alignment, the relationship tends to break down... sadly.

I understand both sides being that I am a woman that has a VERY strong drive. I realize that I am uncommon and not the norm where women are concerned.

When I finally choose a partner I can see no other and love him with every cell of my being - I want sex often. However, I have experienced enough life to know that if said partner could no longer satisfy me sexually that would definitely NOT end the relationship because afterall... I am female.

My partner makes love to me all day long when he opens the door for me and helps me in and out of the car every single time (this is no longer because of "respect" but because I do physically need the help), tells me how beautiful I am even when I am sick laying on the bathroom floor and thinks of all sorts of neat surprizes to make my children happy. The fact that he can and does ring my bell during those moments of private physical intimacy is just the cherry atop the cake.

 

[Raina]

I'd just pout a lot. If I'm really into someone I don't even notice anyone else and if I loved someone there's no way I could sleep with someone else on the side. I'd just do what I could to improve the sex with my SO.

 

[Frisky]

I agree too, Im sure we can come up with some expressions like you build a house, you need a foundation, four walls, a roof etc... lol

Yep

 

[GoldenDelicious]

depends on what was irritating me about the lack of sex. if youre having sex fairly often (in a long relationship, i see 4-5 times a week as fairly often unless youre on vacation) but are unsatisfied because youre just a horn bag (), well, i think it would be very unreasonable to end the relationship over it

if, on the other hand youre a highly sexed person but your partner only wants to do it, say, monthly, then breaking up becomes fair enough if your partner knows that you want more sex but wont get into it a bit more (once a month is just bullshit) but flatly wont compromise (selfishness is a deal breaker for me in high doses) but also because it indicates lack of compatibility. id rather go find a partner who likes spending a few hours a few times a week sexing and chatting. its nicer.

so yah. depends.

 

[redguru]

Buncha nympho freaks

Still not getting any, eh?

 

[GoldenDelicious]

Still not getting any, eh?

what a waste of a question

 

[redguru]

Oops, I forgot to revert to my alter-ego when I posted that question.

 

[needtogetaas]

with a SO because he couldn't keep up with you sexually? Not that the sex is bad.

What if everything else is perfect? Both have the same goals in life, same lifestyle. Get along great and enjoy spending time together?

Whats the deal breaker for you?


and before you even ask... the answer is NO

he couldent keep up could he lol.

 

[Hiatussin]

I don´t know.

 

[Frisky]

he couldent keep up could he lol.

lol

 

[MasterBates]

I have an extremely strong drive but if the man fulfilled me in every other aspect of our relationship then I would stay WITHOUT HESITATION. I've had more than enough sex and not nearly enough kindness.

Wonder why

 

[needtogetaas]

I have an extremely strong drive but if the man fulfilled me in every other aspect of our relationship then I would stay WITHOUT HESITATION. I've had more than enough sex and not nearly enough kindness.

still a hoe.

 

[The Bigdawg]

with a SO because he couldn't keep up with you sexually? Not that the sex is bad.

What if everything else is perfect? Both have the same goals in life, same lifestyle. Get along great and enjoy spending time together?

Whats the deal breaker for you?


and before you even ask... the answer is NO

That is a though one! Sex is M A J O R for me and as Mrs. BD will attest to I am grouchy without it. I have a drive that is outta this world and in the past I have ended relationships if we were very different in that aspect.

Mrs. BD and I are the perfect match that way as we both have drives that are outta this world! If all goes well we should be working on number 4 for this fine Wednesday

 

[Frisky]

That is a though one! Sex is M A J O R for me and as Mrs. BD will attest to I am grouchy without it. I have a drive that is outta this world and in the past I have ended relationships if we were very different in that aspect.

Mrs. BD and I are the perfect match that way as we both have drives that are outta this world! If all goes well we should be working on number 4 for this fine Wednesday

woohooo

now i know what you'll be doing wed night.. heehee

congrats suga

 

[AAP]

No. But I would make damn sure he had a goodlooking friend that he owed favors to and would bring over.

 

[The Bigdawg]

woohooo

now i know what you'll be doing wed night.. heehee

congrats suga

By tonight!!!! We better be on number 6 or 7 by tonight


P.S. I guess I should leave her some time to cook shouldn't I

 

[mrdeeznuts]

But keep in mind that I am only 26. But sexual chemistry is EASILY one of the top success factors in a relationship for me. I don't think it would be the breaking factor though, cause it's sort of a temporary thing. If my girl was on point with everything else AND I was looking for a real serious situation, I wouldn't want to lose her. But yeah, eventually I'd either start hitting up the local mall on a Fri evening for some 18yo tang or go on eros.com and dip into my expendable income.

lol killah layin it down

 

[MasterBates]

By tonight!!!! We better be on number 6 or 7 by tonight


P.S. I guess I should leave her some time to cook shouldn't I

minuteman

jk

 

[Frisky]

No. But I would make damn sure he had a goodlooking friend that he owed favors to and would bring over.

 

[mrplunkey]

Then sex is an everyday bonding for me.

There is profound truth to that statement. People greatly underestimate the value of regular sex or at least sexual play. It serves as a "relationship lubricant" that can make otherwise annoying things seem like nothing.

 

[mrplunkey]

with a SO because he couldn't keep up with you sexually? Not that the sex is bad.

What if everything else is perfect? Both have the same goals in life, same lifestyle. Get along great and enjoy spending time together?

Whats the deal breaker for you?

The lagging sexual partner needs to step-up and use toys and oral and really anything else he or she can to close the gap. No questions asked. It needs to be enthusiastic and frequent as well... not some check-the-box item on the relationship "to do" list. If they can't or won't answer the call, then this otherwise "perfect" relationship should be strong enough for the more sexually-interested spouse to bring other options (i.e. a "fuck buddy") into the mix.

My opinion has evolved over time, but I'm now of the mind that a SO basically means you give that person first right of refusal for physical intimacy and sexual relations. If that person turns-down the opportunity, then the relationship should be opened-up for alternative solutions.

 

[needtogetaas]

lol

dont worry i wont tell

 

[biteme]

Girl I don't think you could keep up with me sexually. But, then hardly anyone can. I'm a fucking animal. A world without pussy isn't a world at all.